I get so tired of hearing this. I'm 26 1/2 weeks pregnant and the only time I look pregnant is when I deliberately show off the bump for pics. I had a customer in last night who was pregnant and when I mentioned I was too, I got the "I'd have never guessed. You don't look pregnant at all!"
Nope, I guess I'm just fat.
I lost weight when I got pregnant and may not actually get back up to my pre-preg weight, and I know that's part of it. Ugh, the mental parts of pregnancy aren't fun at all!
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I can see how this would be upsetting. I'm overweight, and I'm sure I would get those same comments if I were pregnant. But you know what, how awesome is it that you lost weight, and are staying healthy!
That's the important part is that you and the baby are healthy. Some people are sooo ignorant! I'm sorry
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yeah I was the same too. I am 5ft 11 and barely showing. I would tell people how far along I was and they would say "Are you sure?" as if I was idiot and didnt know my own due date lol
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@Mrsbells: Hahaha I get asked ALL the time if I'm "sure" of my due date. What a ridiculous thing to say!
I know how you feel. People tell me I just look like I ate a big lunch! But my ultrasounds show a perfectly healthy baby who is right in the 50th percentile for weight and length so I just take it as a compliment and focus on the fact that I will have less weight to lose after baby gets here : )
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@MrsBrewer: The weight loss has been a good thing. And Little Girl and I are both healthy, which is doubly important. I meet with a doctor, nutritionist, and Diabetes educator every 3 weeks to make sure all looks good. And they are pleased with what they see.
@Mrsbells: Yup. This is one of the reasons I've taken only 2 bump pics.
@MamaMoose: I told Hubs and my mom that I'll have to go shopping after Munchkin gets here because all of my clothes will be too big.
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It's for this reason that I've purposely been wearing things that showcase or make my little bump look more pronounced in the past week! I don't get bothered by the comments like yours (actually, usually they sound complimentary?), but I just don't want to look like I'm just fat vs. preggers. hahah. vanity.
So far, ANYTHING JERSEY fabric seems to drape and make the bump look more "bumpy" than it is ! lol -
People mean well by it but yeah: it doesn't register well with me either! I wasn't overweight before pregnancy but just the conservative way I dress in general always had people saying "you don't look pregnant!" up until I was at about where you are. It bugged the hell out of me because I was like just about 3rd trimester!
Now, I get totally different comments which bug me *just as much*: "you look ready to POP!"....UM, thanks I still have more than 2weeks and you're not helping. urgh! -
@Mrsbells: @MamaMoose: this dumbfounds me. Are you sure? SERIOUSLY?
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@shopaholic: Work requires khakis and our business polo so I can't get away with anything else. It was hard enough finding comfy maternity khakis. When I tried my uniform shirt one, Hubs and I both laughed and said we'll see if this lasts until December. It's not snug, but it's definitely not roomy on me either.
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@TurtleDoves: Yeah. I start my third trimester on Sunday and I don't guess I'll magically change shapes in the next 4 days.
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it's either one or the other! "you're so tiny" "you're so big." the only thing to say to pregnant ladies is "you look awesome!"
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@birdofafeather: Amen, sister!
I still get told at 30 weeks that I'm small. Or - this is annoying- I look like I"m carrying a boy since I'm mostly belly and when I respond that it's definitely a girl, people will say "You may be surprised! That would be something if she was a he!!!" OMG, shut up! What are you? An ultrasound machine?
It's funny to me how much people overthink a pregnant person's belly....I get it- it's totally fascinating - but it's still funny to me:)
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@jholler25: I've gotten 3 of those psychic ultrasound women this week! all three, "oh congratulations! boys are so fun!" ...I'm sure they are, but I am pregnant with a girl.
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@jholler25: Haha people always tell me that they think I'm having a girl because I'm "carrying wide." Awwwwwwwwesome.
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@Running Elley: Horrible, especially since nothing on you is wide! Wide is not a word that should ever be uttered around a preg, to describe anything!
My bump really IS wide though, so it doesn't poke out in the front as much. So it creates this optical illusion under clothes of not being that big because it's WIDE and so it's flatter. So I'm sure that's what they mean for you, and even though I KNOW I'm carrying wider more so than poke-out-in-the-front, I would still want to smack someone if they pointed it out to me!!!
@sorrycharlie: I know people mean well and they're just trying to be cutesy, but my tolerance level is waning! By the time I'm where you're at I'm going to be smacking people left and right-lol!
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@jholler25: LOL..and it's totally okay to have no patience, too. today the cashier at macy's (older lady with tattooed eyebrows) asked when I was due. I said yesterday. she goes, "oh! well I know the hee-hee-hoo if you decide to do it here!" ...??? HAHA SO FUNNY. not? why the heck would I give birth in macy's? she was obviously trying to make a joke...but it was just awkward.
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I think people probably are well-meaning and are trying to give you a compliment...I've definitely said this to some pregnant women bc I read all the time how 'big' one feels when pregnant so I just assumed it would feel good to be told one looks 'small'...
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@birdofafeather: "You look awesome" works.
@Trailmix: I don't think I would mind being told that I don't look as far along, but being told I don't look pregnant all just makes me feel lousy, especially being less than a week away from the third trimester.
@jholler25: "What are you, an ultrasound machine?" LOL. My doc points out at every u/s that LO is a girl, so I'd laugh if somebody told me she's going to be a boy.
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People have said to me " you don't look pregnant, you just look like you've gained weight.". Thanks, but I'd rather look pregnant.
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@MaisyMay: I get the same thing all.the.time. At 29 weeks people at work are finally starting to ask questions.
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I'm overweight and I found that people were terrified to ask if I was pregnant/never noticed maybe thinking I just had a big gut. It kind of made me sad at times too becuase I thought I looked super pregnant.
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I got the "you barely look pregnant!" comments too. I was at the heavier end of "average" BMI before getting pregnant but just carried it a certain way I guess. I gained all around too. Oh well...some people mean well and I didn't want to talk about how big I was getting either! In the third trimester I started really wearing a lot of close fitting tank tops (not trashy looking though) to show the roundness!
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@MaisyMay: Oh no! I'm so sorry. I would totally be one of the people saying that you don't look pregnant at all. It never occurred to me that the woman might take that to mean that she looks fat! I would mean the exact opposite, that she looks so good, you wouldn't think she were pregnant. Oh, the road to hell is paved with good intentions, eh?
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Dang that sucks
People can be so insensitive sometimes. I have one cousin that every time she gets pregnant she doesn't get any freaking bigger, it is amazing. I guess she is plus size but you can't even tell she is pregnant at all. Everyone is different huh -
@travelingbrit: I'm fortunate that since Hubs worked at my work first, everybody already knew when I started.
@Grace: Don't feel bad. I think it's mostly a plus sized thing. We don't show as soon/as much and everybody is afraid so nobody asks.
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@maisymay - ooh, that's tough with the work uniform. Will they eventually let you wear a top that's just the same color as everyone else's polo shirts? I feel like I've seen that before somewhere. If not, they better upsize your polo shirt soon! *and if you or someone you know is crafty, you can even alter the shirt a little bit to make it more bump flattering!
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@MaisyMay: We have the option of work polos or t-shirts and so far I've just been wearing t-shirts one size up since they're way more comfy. But I know Land's End makes makes maternity polos (with or without logo) just in case your work ones don't come in preggie sizes!
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@shopaholic: When I ordered them, I had them order a size larger. They aren't quite tight yet. I was looking at the seams and if they do get too tight, I may have our alterations lady open the side seams up towards the bottom and put in a gusset to make it roomier. If they get too tight, they may let me switch to polos that are the same color, but then I'd have to buy them instead of the company.
@tororojo: We actually wear Land's End polos with the logos on the left top. I didn't realize they had maternity, but we'll be doing a name change soon and ordering new ones, so I'm not sure what the plan will be.
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@MaisyMay: Aww, how exciting that we get to wear the same lame shirts to work! I think the maternity polos are like $30 so if your work isn't buying them, you might not want to invest that much. Hopefully your current ones will keep working!
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@tororojo: Which color do you wear? We're currently in white with any khaki bottoms, but when we do our name swap in the next 2 months, that will change. I'm hoping for a color dark enough that my bra won't show if I skip a tank top under it.
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@MaisyMay: We can all choose whatever color we want. I have several bright, fun colors (those offerings change yearly) and then the basics--black, navy, white, maroon, grey, etc... I really hate wearing polos. But I guess I should be thankful for variety!
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@tororojo: We only get the one color and one color pants.
It makes it easy to decide what to wear on a work day!
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