Well I'm 38 weeks and doctor says I'm not dilated, 0% effaciated and haven't lost my mucus plug though she has been dropped for two weeks and has been right on top of the cervix. I've been dealing with menstral like cramps, back pains, and exhaustion. I'm lucky to get 2-3 hours of sleep a night and naps are out of the question including Tylenol pm or other aids due to possible complications. I'm a FTM and my daughter is already 8lbs!! For medical reasons she isnt allowed to go past 40 weeks to avoid complications and Csection. I feel like I'm going mad from lack of sleep, aches/pains, & exhaustion. I've taken baths, drinking warm milk, squats, stretching to no avail. Sex is out of the question. Husband hasn't be attracted to or been able to be turned on since I was 2 months. It's a Latin male thing apparently. Any suggestions on how to expediate the labor??? I'm completely miserable!!
grapefruit / 4291 posts
My best advice would be to walk, walk, walk! Unfortunately whilst there's a tonne of old wives tales about bringing on labour there's really not much you can do to make it start if baby just isn't ready but at least walking will get her into a good position. Hang in there!
kiwi / 556 posts
Unfortunately that's not really uncommon at 38 weeks. Things can change so quickly, though. I was over it by that point myself, so I get it! Rest as much as you can, while you can!
watermelon / 14467 posts
That's not all that uncommon at 38 weeks, unfortunately. My suggestion is to rest as much as you can, walk, and bounce on a labor ball. Good luck! I know how hard those last week's can be.
cantaloupe / 6885 posts
The end is in sight!! Good luck. With DD I was 1cm at 38weeks and went into labor at 39. Here I am with LO2 at 39+3 and no baby...I'm actually less dilated than I was the last time. You just never know!
grapefruit / 4455 posts
@Karmawins: I'm 38w with #2, and pretty much in the same boat although getting a little more sleep probably from sheer exhaustion because I'm waking up crampy from the pregnancy and GI problems several times a night.. I think with #1 I wasn't dilated yet either but still had her on her due date. Hang in there! Eta, no advice about the sex thing but luckily pregnancy does not last forever, even though I understand feeling like it does right now!!
nectarine / 2086 posts
In the end sex is what put me into labor, but we had done it SO much in the final weeks with no reaction from my body. Its now clear to me the only reason it finally worked was because my body/baby was ready for labor. Hang in there!
apricot / 477 posts
I have no suggestions but I was in the same boat. Doctor tried to do a membrane sweep but Couldn't since nothing was happening. My water broke at exactly 39 weeks.
You are very close to being done
wonderful clementine / 24134 posts
It sounds pretty normal. I would just keep walking and waiting.
pomegranate / 3791 posts
Most people I know who have had luck getting labor started with walking/sex/spicy food/whatever were already at least a bit dilated. I didn't dilate at all until labor started at exactly 40 weeks, and none of the tricks out there made any difference. You could ask about a membrane sweep.
grapefruit / 4278 posts
@wonderstruck: If she's not dilated at all, then they can't get a finger in there to sweep membranes.
Unfortunately there isn't a whole lot you can do. I wasn't dilated at all at 38 weeks either. At 40 weeks I was dilated just a fingertip, but I went into labor naturally at 40 +2. You'll get there!
persimmon / 1328 posts
I don't think anything works until the baby is ready! I did ALL the things and nothing worked, I wasn't even the tiniest bit dilated when I was induced at 40+2 for PROM.
Hang in there, it won't be long now whatever happens!
pomegranate / 3791 posts
@kiddosc: ahh okay, good to know! Sorry, OP.
cantaloupe / 6634 posts
That's super common but things can change so fast!! The end of pregnancy plain sucks and feels like it will never end...but it will!