What if you died before your DH. Then your DH remarried. You had planned to be buried together but his new wife wants to be buried with him. What happens then?
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Bitch gets cremated. Problem solved. Just kidding.
Kinda.
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Not an issue for me because I want to be cremated and my husband wants to be buried. We weren't going to be "together" anyway.
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I dunno, I am dead!
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Wife #2 is buried on his other side?
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He won't remarry
I'm in denial.
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I'd haunt the b1tch!! Only kidding - I'd be dead anyway so I wouldn't mind.
The question is - what would the kids do about it all?? What a tough question! Or - what if second wife is still alive and it's in his will to be buried with first wife. OMG - drama!
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My husband was sealed to his ex-wife in a Mormon ceremony, so I always tease him that if he dies he'll end up with her for eternity anyways. She's remarried too now, so I assume that she put in for an unsealing, but we never got notice of it.
If I am dead, I probably won't notice if he's not buried next to me. It would depend on how long he and his new wife were together, like if I died at 35 and he ended up remarrying and spent 40+ years with his new wife, I couldn't fault him that.
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Well, if you pre-purchased your plots, second wife is SOL.
No idea what we're doing, I'll probably be cremated and demand to be kept on the mantel.
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LOL same thoughts as @andrea -- i won't know the diff~
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This happened when my aunt died! She had a partner (sounds weird to say "boyfriend" with adults) for about 10 years and then he died suddenly. She purchased two plots together and one headstone for the two of them.
When she died suddenly, she had been with her next partner for over 20 years, and he had no idea about the double plot - in fact, he didn't find out about it until they were in the limo on the way to bury her! The arrangements were all pre-paid and her kids handled it... they had to break it to him and he was so devastated
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@Rachel: Wow!
Like others said previously, since I'm dead, I wouldn't know the difference. Plus, if he remarries and has been with the other woman (that was just odd typing it out!!) for a LONG time, then I wouldn't mind I suppose...
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Lol the responses here are making me laugh..I have to agree with the I'm dead, who knows position!
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@Minnie_Girl: that's my thought too. We both want to be cremated though.
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@Rachel: Wow, what a terrible situation. That poor guy.
@Looch: Kept on the mantle!!! A-haha!! That made me chuckle!!
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Oh no! I typed that then I saw the "to mantle or not to mantle" thread and nearly spat my drink out over the computer!!! Oh dear.... chuckle!
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I don't know, I guess it would depend on how long we were married before I passed vs how long him and his new wife are married. But I won't know the difference, so I guess it's more for our children's sake?
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I wouldnt really care.
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@dagret: OMG, I just busted out laughing in the library!
If they had kids & we didn't, I'd be ok with them being together so their kids could visit them both. Otherwise, we're getting cremated! He's mine bee-otch!
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I'd say her on the other side? I wouldn't really mind because it makes sense.
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In truth though, we both want to be cremated, and will probably buy 1 plot to put us both in. Though he wants me to sprinkle his ashes all over creation. (seriously, ski resort here, beach there...)
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I've always wondered how this works, with burial situations and widows/widowers...I have no idea what I would want to do.
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My Grandfather was cremated but had his ashes burried. He has some in the grave with my Grandmother and has some in a different location where he will be with my Step Grandmother....kinda weird he is in "two spots"...yeah....
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@dagret: hahahahhaha....ok NOT funny. But it is.
Good question....he AND she should respect the decision and keep him next to the original wife....but maybe second wife can go on the other side. Makes sense...
But honestly...when you're dead: you won't care!
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DH's grandpa just passed away about a month ago, and was cremated. DH's grandma is still living and will be buried. While they were planning he tried to get her to say she'd put his urn in the casket with her. "No way," she said. "I need my own space for once!"
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You all are much nicer then I am. I know that I'll be dead and I shouldn't care..... but I want DH to be with me. I told him that it's not till death do we part, he needs to be with me after we die too. I did give him permission to bury his new wife on the other side of him though
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I can answer this!
My dad was married before my mom, but his first wife passed away. He had previously purchased several plots for family and his first wife was buried three spots from the end. When he passed away, he was buried next to her. When my mom passes away, she'll be on his other side. The headstone is quite long and shows all 3. My mom has been very open about the whole thing, often saying that if his first wife hadn't passed away, she wouldn't have married my dad and my sister and I wouldn't be here.
http://www.findagrave.com/cgi-bin/fg.cgi?page=pv&GRid=28119917&PIpi=26791833
I'm in denial.
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