I will keep a long story short. My MIL is an unmedicated bipolar who is verbally abusive. Sadly, her abuse is "normal" to my husband so he isn't as bothered by it as I am. One of his sisters and his dad's entire family have cut ties with his mom completely. Throughout our entire relationship, DH's mom has gone through periods of being verbally abusive towards me. I have always forgiven her because she is mentally ill and I never wanted to make DH feel like he was in the middle of things.

However, I do not want this kind of abuse around our LO. So, DH and I decided to set boundaries for his mother. We will no longer put up with abuse towards us and if it is ever directed towards our son we will cut off all contact. About a month ago she called out of nowhere and started screaming at DH that I was only with him for his money and that I sit on my ass all day, blah, blah, blah (I am a full-time student completing my student teaching).

Anyway, DH told her that we would be cutting off ties with her until she apologized. She never did. Then, today, she started texting DH with more attacks against me and once again he said he would be cutting off contact until she apologized. She insisted that she never will.

Now, my mother wants the names/addresses for my baby shower. I feel like I am being an awful person for not including her but I want to stick to our boundaries. I feel as if she doesn't apologize then she shouldn't be there. I know it will cause more drama though and she will double the attacks on me because of it.

I'm sorry this wasn't as short as I planned! What would you do? DH and his sisters agree that I shouldn't invite her. I am still not sure what to do though. =(