I get daily gchats these days from a girl who I am acquaintances with. It goes something like this: "How are you? Any movement yet? Baby coming soon? When's your next appointment?" I know it's said as a kind gesture to see how I'm doing but I'm so over it! When the baby comes, you'll know. I'm not going to give you minute by minute updates on how dilated I am and when I go into labor, etc. Ugh.
Anyone else dealing with this/had to deal with it? Is ignoring the best bet at this point?
GOLD / eggplant / 11517 posts
Yep - I've had a ton of totally random people that I haven't talked to in years suddenly become very interested in my pregnancy. I guess it is nice to share with others going through the same thing, but its weird since we haven't spoken in so long. And the questions are rather intrusive.
GOLD / squash / 13464 posts
I had my first annoying comment today. I had a client ask me if I was sure I was really 15 weeks pregnant!! She was going on and on about how she couldn't believe I'm not showing. I have had the stomach flu the past two days and I'm already feeling stressed about the fact that between my morning sickness and the stomach flu I'm down 4 lbs from pre-pregnancy and that was just NOT the comment I needed today.
persimmon / 1134 posts
I got so sick of all the questions when I was pregnant. How are you feeling? What are you having? When are you due? Were you trying? Etc. Ugh. It only gets worse the further alond you get. Hang in there and just keep telling yourself they mean well, and it'll be over soon.
cantaloupe / 6610 posts
I had my first "You should definitely breast feed because it's the best thing for baby and you'll lose weight faster!" from my yoga teacher on FB. Ummmm, leave my boobs out of our relationship and stick to Downward Dogs and Namaste!
pomegranate / 3980 posts
I am so incredibly sick of being asked by multiple people every single day if the baby has flipped yet and what the next step is... if the baby flipped everyone on the face if this earth would know!
hostess / wonderful watermelon / 39513 posts
Yes! Tons of those comments from week 37-41! Good luck!
persimmon / 1035 posts
@jennylynn: I hear you on those!
I think almost every single person i told that i was pregnant asked "was it planned?" One of my friends was even upset i didn't tell her sooner and that i had been trying! After i told her it was "semi-planned" as in NTNT. The kicker was when a stranger asked me if it was planned last week? I think my eyes popped out of my head.
I don't mind people asking "how are you feeling?" but what gets annoying is when i say "good", they keep going: "you're not getting sick" i say "nope". then they go into the history of how sick they were when they were pregnant. The conversation itself is not that annoying or rude, i just find it's getting repetitive.
GOLD / squash / 13464 posts
Why do people think its acceptable to say whatever crosses their mind to a pregnant lady?!? My BFF was in Starbucks late in her pregnancy and a stranger asked her if her vulva hurt!!!! Whhhyyyy??
pomegranate / 3890 posts
i had a MALE waiter at perkins give me advice about labor.....he then proceded to tell me about how his girlfriend was 5 centmeters dialated for 2 weeks before her baby was born......um i really dont want to talk about dialation to a stranger especially right before im about to eat...
pineapple / 12234 posts
Yes! The random people Facebook messaging me asking questions are annoying but yesterday my MIL said the most annoying comment yet...
She hasn't asked about the pregnancy at all and she doesn't talk to DH or I very often but she texts him yesterday saying: "where is my grand daughter?" and DH said something like she's taking her sweet time and she responds, "Grandma says she can take as long as she wants. Let me know when Heather goes into labor."
Our plan is to not let anyone know I'm in labor. I want that alone time with my husband not DH's family. And that's great that "grandma says she can take her time" but my doctor says she can't because I'm high risk with high blood pressure and she's estimated to be almost 9 pounds!
honeydew / 7504 posts
I haven't made the pregnancy fb-official yet, and have only told 4 people, but I'm already anticipating something like that. I have a friend who drove me absolutely-freaking-batty during our wedding planning and honeymoon, I can only imagine what a total nutbag she's going to be once she finds out I'm pregnant. In the weeks leading up to and just after our wedding, she called/texted/facebooked/emailed me, I kid you not, 4 times a day. Just stupid crap like "You're getting married in x-number of days!" I wanted to be like, "OMG, REALLY?!?! I had no idea that the wedding I've busted my ass planning for for the past 10 months is only 4 days away! Thanks for the reminder!" I was so annoyed, I finally told her to knock it off. So she started calling my MOH/sister. Oh.My.God.
THEN, just this past week, she sent me a super-long text asking about our vacation and "Did you make a baby?" I wanted to reach through the phone and knock her block off.
kiwi / 545 posts
I think the only people who did that to me was an annoying girl who wanted to steal my hours at work and my manager who was concerned about making a schedule to fit my needs. Other than that people mostly left me alone.
persimmon / 1202 posts
I'm only 14 weeks so far. The only annoying comments were really a 4th cousin or so, teenager, that I don't really know going apesh*t over it (but she just annoys me in general.) Oh, and a friend who makes NOTHING but annoying comments, pregnant or not (like "Oh, you felt your baby at 14 weeks? Just wait until you do something it REALLY doesn't like!" Uh, honey? I'm not EXPECTED to feel the baby for another 4 weeks. How about "just wait until one of its limbs is bigger than your pinkie"?) I'm the last of my friends/family to get pregnant, aside from two younger cousins (one of whom is nine years old), so there aren't really many stupid comments they don't know better than to make.
grapefruit / 4703 posts
@MamaMoose: hahahaha OMG no one should ever say "vulva" in Starbucks!!
GOLD / wonderful grape / 20289 posts
I also got annoyed with the constant, "how are you feeling?" But now that I have friends that are pregnant I say it to them. I'm scared if I don't they'll think I don't care.
hostess / wonderful apple seed / 16729 posts
My sister in law is due any minute now. Is it okay if I bother my brother? I don't ask him every day. It's more every week or so. We work at different times and live in different time zones so it's always easier for me to text him.
hostess / watermelon / 14932 posts
@MamaMoose: lmao! I hope the speaker knew the difference between vulva and vag. that is one of my pet peeves!
I get all sorts of fun things, strangers and family/friends alike. The cashier at Hanes Outlet (I brought my grandmother) told me that because I know what I'm having, I won't get anything I need at my shower - she "KNOWS because she went to one of those showers."
pomegranate / 3759 posts
Yes! I am 3 days overdue and between phones ringing and buzzing I get no sleep. I would like to shut myself off from the world until things happen and people dont realize that I am frustrated with being overdue and the constant bombardment of questions isnt helping!
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
I remember that time fondly. It was the last time I got much attention :). Now it's all about the girls! The only statements I hated were the big and fat ones. Never good!
clementine / 861 posts
I agree that you should go invisible on gchat. You can initiate conversations with the people you want to talk to and the annoying people will never know!
hostess / wonderful apple seed / 16729 posts
So couldn't these people just be overly excited for you. I don't think they mean to be annoying. Well, unless it's an old high school friend who you didn't like and haven't spoke to them in ages asking. (well, to be nosey, of course.)
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