And were you o.k. with it?
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We live halfway around the world from all our family and friends and are fairly new to the country we are currently living in and aren't really close to anyone yet. As such, we know we won't be having a baby shower and aren't really expecting anything from others except maybe small things from both sets of grandparents and maybe a friend or two. It makes me a little sad when I see others complaining about how much of certain things they've been given or things like that but otherwise are pretty okay with it. It's expensive paying for everything on our own but I just think of our future little one and I get over it really quickly
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We didn't have one and I didn't want one. Where I currently live (abroad) it's not at all common, wedding registries are just catching on.
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me, we were too far away and i didn't want to be sad when no one showed up
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I will probably travel back to where most of my family is for mine (still TTC but I think about these things). We live 4-5 hours away from them driving so it's not that bad. To be honest, I'd be a little upset if I didn't, only because I've been to so many and spent so much money on other people's gifts! It sounds kind of selfish, but there you go.
Plus it will be easier for me to travel there pregnant than with a newborn. -
I think I probably will end up not having one. My wedding shower was really stressful for me. My mom technically planned it, but involved me way too much. And my immediately family lives 3 hours from where I do, extended family about 2 hours further than that. DH's family lives here though. So either way, some of our family would have to travel (again) to go to it. And I then I feel guilty because I feel like people feel obligated to go.
Ideally I could have 2 small showers, but no one here would throw me one, I don't think. My MIL wouldn't do it, and I don't think any of my friends here would think to do it.
And then you've got the whole expense of the shower(s). My wedding one was at a restaurant and pretty expensive. I'd be fine having it at a house, but then that has it's own complications too.
So anyways, I've resigned myself to the fact that we should save up enough for all of our baby registry items, and if people buy stuff for us it's a bonus. And maybe I'll do a See 'n Sip type of gathering with my family after the baby's born.
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Yep we won't have one. All our family & friends are spread out. It kind of stinks, but we're also the first out of our friends to have a baby so I'm not surprised that no one has asked or (minus a few) sent anything. I love sending baby gifts! I try not to dwell on it and remind myself that I hate baby shower games, etc. that go along with the presents. Parents are buying big ticket items for us, and frankly on a lot of the rest I like picking it out myself! (although paying for it all isn't as fun :))
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Thanks for the responses. I know my mom is going to have some of her friends, my aunt and grandma over for a "meet the baby", but other than that, I just don't think anyone else will throw me one. I have mixed feelings about it. I tend to not like showers anyway (the games), but on the other hand, it's nice to be celebrated. I think like a few others, I'll just buy everything I need and if anything over and above that is gifted to us, that's icing.
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I didnt have a baby shower, nor did I have a bridal shower for my wedding. I'm not really into showers. A few people offered to throw me one but I wasnt really interested. We threw a formal dinner party to celebrate the baby dedication at church and that was it, most people gave us gift cards or cash so I prefer that to the shower
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@Mrsbells: That's how I feel about showers, but everyone always acts like I'm weird/something is wrong with me! I'm struggling with feeling like a Scrooge because if someone offers to throw me a baby shower, I don't know what I'll say. I declined all offers of wedding showers and I know I offended at least 1 person. And my MIL says that I must not have friends since I didn't have any wedding showers. I just think showers are a pain, and most of the invitations I get are from people who I'm not close to and who I think shouldn't send me gift requests!
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We didn't have one for M. First of all, we didn't need anything, since we had a girl. Second, I didn't want to jinx anything since it was all up in the air until the very end. My friends offered, but I turned them down. We're going to throw a big party when we move into the new house as a house warming and an adoption finalization party
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Same as @looch and @however briefly, I live abroad and it's not common. They don't even have registries here. But I kinda wish I was back home so I could have one. A few friends and family were nice enough to send her things though
I'm not the type to have parties for myself, but in all honesty, I want some material lovin for LO. I've spent a lot of money on other ppl and it would be nice to get a little back.
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