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Surprise, Surprise, I'm out!
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@KelLeeLeee: so sorry to hear that!
I love the affirmations Keppa! Will start to implement them as well.
I went to the doctor, she did the whole round to find out what kind of infection I have. She seemed nice ( my first visit), and the waiting room was full of pregnant women. I'll just take that as a sign
She was shocked though that my ob/gyn has never taken blood for a rubella titer- so she went ahead and did this as well. She also mentioned that it would be an idea to look at my thyroid if I don't get pregnant soon. Thoughts?
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@busylizzy111: I would absolutely get your thyroid tested. A read that's even slightly off can have a huge impact on fertility - and on pregnancy. My practice did a ton of blood work at my "we are going to start to TTC" appointment - thyroid, immunity, and genetic testing - so that we wouldn't run into any surprises down the line.
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O-2 here. The ED BD fest is going well. DH is totally into it. You would think that statement would be a big fat *duh* but when you have a toddler, it's.... not.
I am feeling really positive this cycle. It's time for my body to be kind to me.
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@Keppa: I am so sorry to hear what a hard time you are having. I feel the same way sometimes about pregnancy being so far away and hard to even contemplate. I think it is great that you are trying to reframe that with your positive mantras and I think I will try to do the same! Be gentle on yourself--it is so hard after a loss! Hugs!
@KelLeeLeee: sorry to hear this!
@septca: I am impressed with ED BD with a toddler! With a toddler myself, I feel like aiming for EOD is as high as is realistic for us, but you may be inspiring me to reach higher!
as for me, temps dropped the last two mornings and AF arrived. Slightly shorter cycle for me than usual (29 days) so glad I was charting to catch O even if it didn't pan out. I was really sad yesterday because I knew after the temp drop but it still sucks.
This cycle I am starting is the cycle I got KU on a year ago which ended in m/c in November. The dates aren't day for day, but it is a little weird. I am trying not to think about it except to think that today is a new day. I am not sure if it would be worse to get pregnant this cycle or to miss it and be even farther behind.
Having a hard time with silver linings today but trying not to dwell on it.
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@MamaCate: LOL. That's where we have been... but it's been too long and we are both getting anxious, so we made a pact to *suck it up* this cycle. Ha ha ha.
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New August BFPs
LilyoftheWest
POAlltheSers
Aug 11: MaryM
Aug 12: FotoLori
Aug 13: Mrsk
Aug 17: LindsayInNY
Aug 23: MrsMcD
Aug 24: GoGoSnoGirl
Aug 26: Marfi
Aug 27: septca
Aug 28: dc yoga bee, Kate6214
Aug 31: organicmama
Sept 1: Crystal
TBD: Shutterbug; lazypanda, AmeliaBedilia, Keppa, doxielove, busylizzy11, KelLeeLeee, MamaCate
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Thinking of you all and awaiting your BFPs!!!!
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@KelLeeLeee: I am so sorry, friend. Be kind to yourself today.
@busylizzy111: Definitely get everything checked that you can!
@septca: good luck on continuing with EOD! I am feeling hopeful for you! I love your positive energy!
@MamaCate: Oh, friend. I can completely relate to where you are at. Big hugs.
Its nice to have the temp drops as a warning, but that doesn't make taking it get any easier. Be kind to yourself today.
DH is doing a SA tomorrow! Wish us luck.
I am really struggling to feel positive lately, and am trying to get myself out of the TTC induced funk. A negative attitude isn't helping, I'm sure.
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@septca: we may have to have the "suck it up" chat this month, especially if it works out for you--fx!
@Crystal: thanks friend. i knew you guys would understand. it just sucks and i am sad and then i will put on my big girl panties and move on to this next cycle. I am trying to be gentle with myself and am having a beer right now, which is a treat for me. I am going to treat myself to iced coffee tomorrow too and then try to regroup. I also did some retail therapy and ordered pjs and some fall clothes from the carter's sale yesterday for LO so that helped a little too.
I just feel like I keep thinking, "I won't be able to handle it if I'm not pregnant by XX" and all these XXs keep passing--my due date with the baby we lost, my 35th birthday, etc etc etc. Somehow I am handling it.
At mass yesterday, the homily was about how god doesn't want our desire for us but HIS desire for us and I am trying to hold on to that. I am not that good at being patient so this is definitely a test.
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@Keppa: I'm sorry about the crazy roller coaster of emotions you're experiencing.
I do love your positive thinking and reframing your thoughts! @Crystal: Thanks! My OPK finally showed the test line as the same color as the control line, and its an unmedicated cycle too! Good luck to your DH regarding his SA too! I'm sure he'll be proud of himself when he tells you how many sperm is in his ejaculate.
Hopefully that will brighten your day when he's able to tell you what his count was. My DH has his second SA scheduled for next week (this one is to be a more thorough SA as its one of the things they do for those who will go through IVF). I'm sure we'll have a good laugh about what types of "reading material" they have to help him collect his sample. @KelLeeLeee: I'm sorry. I hope you had a chance to drink lots of wine and eat whatever it is that you would not be able to eat if you were pregnant.
@busylizzy111: I agree with @septca: regarding getting the testing done. Its something that was ordered for me before I could set up my initial consult with the RE. I'm glad your doctor was able to order the tests for you.
@septca: I'm feeling positive for you, and for myself! I think we're cycle twins again. I'm hoping our January chemicals will be May babies!
@MamaCate: FX for you that this coming cycle is it. I don't know what your religious/spiritual beliefs are, but reading about how this current cycle is around the same time as when you got your BFP last time reminded me of a blog I had read about spirit babies.
@MrsMccarthy: I hope pregnancy is treating you well!
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@lazypanda: me, too! Me, too!!!
@MamaCate: I'm actually really liking it. Although it's only been 3 days.
I have really predictable cycles, so I was just taking it easy this month and didn't order more OPKs. I expect O tomorrow or Thursday, but all signs were pointing to tomorrow... Until I found a random OPK and decided to take it this morning. Negative. So I guess O will be Thursday - and I have to suck it up for an extra day of bd.
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It's quiet around these parts lately... how are this week's testers doing?
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@MamaCate: I am right there with you. I just passed my EDD two weeks ago, and now I am looking at the month we conceived last time coming up pretty quickly. Our only other option is no longer TTC, and I am not ready to give up yet.
I am also not good at being patient or not being in control. This has definitely been a lesson for me. Not my favorite lesson, lol, but likely needed.
@lazypanda: Good luck!!! I am keeping my fingers crossed for you!
@septca: Good job for taking one for the team! lol I am also out of OPKs, and need to order *soon*. It has been quiet- I miss my 6 month girls!
With your husband's SAs, how did the process go? DH turned in his sample this morning, and they asked for blood tests as well. I didn't realize that was part of it.
Did your DHs/you need to schedule a follow up with the dr to discuss the results? Or did the dr call you?
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@septca: Not really a tester yet but coming up on it... I start a lot of new threads in these final days though, LOL. Just sitting tight though...
@Crystal: @MamaCate: This was my chemical cycle one year ago. And nothing since. I've passed EDD and now this is coming up...
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@MaryM: did you test? Any update?
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@MamaCate: I'm 99% sure I'm out...AND to top it off, out early. I've continued to spot every other day, and today it's heavier. And I woke up crampy. So I expect AF will be here tomorrow and I'll be scheduling my wtf appointment by the end of the week
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I got home late last night and settling back in. My new job starts next week, but there are a few things they need from me this week. I am also trying to tie up a few old job things. I'm CD23 and didn't confirm O this month since temping has been stressing me out, I almost always O on CD15, and I was away from DH CD16-21. I had very light pink spotting when I wiped on CD20 (likely 5DPO), and I have been symptom stalking like a crazy woman ever since. I was nauseous yesterday, but that could have been traveling. My friend's cauliflower smelled a little stronger than usual. Argh!
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@MaryM: Hugs!
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@MaryM: I'm sorry.
@AmeliaBedilia: Hmmmmm.... that should put you at 9 DPO tomorrow, so maybe you should test???
Well, my quest to have a second just got a little easier... we found out today that we got a spot at a daycare center I love for DD, which means we would get an infant spot for baby #2. That makes things a whole lot better (and cheaper!) for us, so that baby #2 can come any old time it feels like it...
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@septca: great news about getting a daycare spot!
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@MaryM: so sorry to hear this-- I was hopeful that maybe your spotting and other early signs meant good things for you. Hugs! Hope your wtf appt gets scheduled soon and you can move forward!
@septca: great daycare news! I hope this is a sign that it is your month!
@AmeliaBedilia: welcome back! Try not to let the symptom spotting drive you crazy...or just test soon for our enjoyment!
@LindsayInNY: I can't believe it has been a year for both of us. I am not willing to skip this month but it is hard to think back to how easy it felt then and how daunting it feels now. I have seen some of your threads and I am hoping this is the one you have been waiting for!!
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Hi ladies! Just checking in from a crazy busy week at my new job. This is my 2nd month of clomid and I'm currently on cd 10. I will start using the rest of my CB digital opks tomorrow. So yesterday I got a voice mail from RE's nurse that she had reviewed my lab work (again?) and recommended DH get a SA. Here is the tricky part... since I'm transitioning jobs, we are uninsured this month. And my new job doesn't offer it. Neither does DH's. So my plan is to go to the Healthcare marketplace and find coverage. I have no clue if there are any plans that pay for infertility dx. So when I told DH about what the dr said he was fine with that. But he asked me if I thought I was trying to play God with all this RE stuff (really just clomid and blood work). I told him no. God won't be controlled by me. Trust me, I've already tried! And that whatever His plan was would happen. All I want to do is everything I can to make sure we're healthy and capable of having another baby. If God has a different plan, I will make peace with that when the time comes. Anyway, it was a tough talk to have but I am glad we had it. It just reminded me that our husbands really go through this with us and its hard on them too.
We agreed that after this cycle, I will take a break from the clomid/RE since it would be so expensive out of pocket. So I hope this cycle works. But even though I haven't even O'd yet, I'm just not so sure.
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@MamaCate: Honestly, passing my EDD didn't even really bother me because I was *only* pregnant (that I knew) for a week. So I didn't have any doctor's appointments or u/s where the date was officially told. It's the other milestones that get me - 1 year TTC, now it'll be 2 years TTC in another 3 months, the cycle I had my chemical, those sorts of things.
@organicmama: You probably don't have to even look that far! A lot of the places I talked to that did SAs either billed as out-of-network or didn't take insurance and made you submit it. So you can probably just pay cash for it!
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@organicmama: Sorry about your current temporary lack of insurance situation. Have you looked online to see if there are any "clinics" or whatever that can do the SA for little money out of pocket? I was looking into these and found places that would do them for as little as $150.
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@mrsmcd: actually my RE's office does them for $150 as well. And you can collect the sample at home as long as it gets there within an hour. But then you have to follow up with the Dr on results I'm sure. Or any treatment options. I think if anything were up with DH's sperm she would recommend IUI. That is something I haven't even considered yet, much less talked to DH about. Idk, I honestly just feel like this month is our last chance and then we'll go back to ntnp. Do I sound like I'm giving up??? Sheesh.
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@organicmama: My husband's doctor's office has an online document sharing website type thing. The SA results were sent to the online data base and we didn't go in for a follow up visit to have them explained. (Although I did later talk with my obgyn about them.) I don't even think you sound like you are giving up. Fertility interventions are not for every one. I think if you just BD around your fertile window (the time for which you will likely never forget since you've been actively TTC for a while), then you are doing nearly all you can. Some things just take time and a random meeting up of perfect circumstances.
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Well, I am 14 days past IUI. Test negative today, so onto the next month. I talked to my RE and they said that it isn't uncommon for the first IUI not to work. Especially with my age it may take a few more tries. So we are going to try again next month. I am due to start AF tomorrow, so she just needs to come on so we can move on!
Best of luck to the rest of you who are testing this month!
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@septca: Yea for the daycare spot!
@organicmama: How is the new job?
@fotolori1: Sorry for the BFN. Hugs!
AF is due Saturday. That B#$%^ makes her appearance on what would otherwise be 12DPO. If no AF then, I will probably test 13DPO, given that 14DPO is the first day of my new job. Though either way it will be tough to focus. Any ideas? On a funny note, DH is out of town this weekend (not that far but just far enough to require a hotel), and somehow got the honeymoon suite, so I am going too. I always envisioned getting a BFP in our bathroom, but how funny would it be to get a BFP in the honeymoon suite?
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@ameliabedilia: it's been amazing. I am LOVING the environment and although it's a bit overwhelming, I'm just so happy to be there. I really feel like it's a dream come true! Thanks for asking
@fotolori1: aww, sweetie I'm sorry. I know you must be disappointed
but I'm glad you have a game plan for next month already. Hugs!
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@MamaCate: As someone who has already passed one EDD, with my first BFP date coming up and another EDD next month I completely understand how you feel. The build up to each date is hard, but the day itself hasn't been too bad.
@organicmama: it's ok to take a break. I took an extended break after my last mc. I came back so much more mentally ready.
@AmeliaBedilia: Hope you get that BFP in the honeymoon suite!
@fotolori1: sorry you are out this month!
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@Kate6214: how did you take a break? Knowing what I know from tracking O, I don't know how i would ever actually do that.
@organicmama: I'm so excited to hear about your new job! You aren't giving up, sometimes circumstances are outside of our control. I like the idea of pursuing an SA, has he done one yet?
@MamaCate: passing those dates have been hard. Next up on my hard dates list is the cycle we got KU in a few months. Passing my EDD was hard enough, I'm not looking forward to it.
@LindsayInNY: big hugs, friend. I am feeling very hopeful for you this cycle!
@fotolori1: I'm so sorry. FX for you next month!
@Kate6214: I'm so sorry to hear you are at the hard dates too. You are so right that the lead up is hard, but the day itself isn't as bad.
@MrsMcD: did they give you any info about the normal ranges of the SA with the results? Or did you just discuss them with your OB?
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@Crystal: I did get normal ranges. And I also got a letter from the doctor regarding the results. Because of this, I didn't have any further questions and DH didn't feel the need to go back to the doctor for that reason. My obgyn clarified any concerns I had.
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@kate6214: my biggest concern about taking a break is my age! I'm 34. If I don't get pg this cycle, then I won't have the baby til I turn 35. (Or older!) In my mind, 35 has always been my cut off point. I know so many women have perfectly normal pregnancies after 35, but it has always just scared me.
@lindsayinny: I am excited and hopeful for you this cycle
@mrsk: how are you feeling?
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Hey all, joining in this month.
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@organicmama: it might scare you until you actually get there... I always said I would be done by 35. Well, throw IF and the desire for 3 kids into the mix, and that is just not going to happen. It used to scare me, but now I figure - bring it on. I am considered "young" for my area, so I am starting to realize age isn't that big of a deal.
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Well, I had complete emotional diarrhea last night.
I asked dh on our way to dinner to take our due date off and he said "due for what?"
After we got home and went to bed I started crying and couldn't stop. Since I'm headed to my moms for a few days, I wanted to talk before going so we ended up talking (well half the time was silence and crying) for two hours because I feel so alone in dealing with the MC.
We've had so many friends have babies and dh gets so excited for them...but I just can't. And it finally all came out last night.
I feel like shit because now he feels like he's been a shitty husband, but there really wasn't anything that was going to make me feel better last night.
AF is due tomorrow, and I'm still spotting and my temp dropped. I just was it to start already so maybe I'll feel normal and not like a ball of emotions about to explode.
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@Crystal: I know it's hard to ignore the signs, but I put down the thermometer and stopped checking my CM. I still have a vague idea about what is going on, but I'm trying not to obsess. During my break after my second mc however we actively TTA for a few months (charting works in reverse too)
@organicmama: I know you feel like you are old, but even taking a few months off won't matter too much in the long run.
@MaryM: I'm so sorry you are feeling so emotional. I've had similar issues with my own husband after both of my miscarriages as well. Mine came out as verbal diarrhea and it was a little bit of a battle to get where we are now. I don't know about your husband, but mine does not share his emotions easily. It took some talking over a long period of time for both of us to understand how the mc was affecting us. It does get better with time. Hang in there. I'm sure AF knocking on the door is not helping the situation.
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@MaryM: I am so sorry.
Be kind to yourself right now - both because of the mc and because PMS can make even the sanest woman a lunatic.
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@MaryM: major ((hugs)) .
I haven't been on the boards this week. Just been busy at work. Today is O-3 Or O-4. We need to start bd'ing tonight. I'm just not feeling very optimistic. We stayed trying last Sept 26 I believe. That's crazy to think. I think something odd wrong with my luetal phase and have an apt with an RE.
New August BFPs 
TBD: Shutterbug; lazypanda, AmeliaBedilia, Keppa, doxielove, busylizzy11, KelLeeLeee, MamaCate
Hopefully that will brighten your day when he's able to tell you what his count was. My DH has his second SA scheduled for next week (this one is to be a more thorough SA as its one of the things they do for those who will go through IVF). I'm sure we'll have a good laugh about what types of "reading material" they have to help him collect his sample. 
We agreed that after this cycle, I will take a break from the clomid/RE since it would be so expensive out of pocket. So I hope this cycle works. But even though I haven't even O'd yet, I'm just not so sure.
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