DH is buddies with a coworker (they worked together at another school, then this coworker left but had the new school recruit DH to come to the school also). he & his fiancee are having a baby next month and we're invited to their baby shower. it's not a work shower. DH has been to their house a few times, but they live 45 minutes away so i've never met them. i'm appreciative that he hooked DH with his new position & they seem nice & could possibly be nice couple friends someday, but i feel weird meeting them at their baby shower.

do you think i have to go? can i just send DH with a gift to give him at school? have you ever been to a baby shower for someone you've never met?