My LO is 5.5 mos old and I can't stop worrying that he will develop Autism. I don't know why this particular disorder weighs on me so much and I know that if it happens it won't be the end of the world but I can't get it off my mind. I know he is too young to be looking for signs but I am constantly wondering if he is regressing or if some new thing he is doing (i.e sucking on his lip, kicking his legs, etc) is a sign. Am I the only one who thinks like this? And does anyone have any advice how to stop worrying and just to enjoy my sweet boy?
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@jmarionsmith: I don't have this specific worry, but I do worry every day when I'm driving that we'll get in a wreck (we don't even have a far drive or much traffic!) and something will happen to him. Or when we're in the bath that he'll slide under the water and choke. Or I'll fall up (I fall going UP the stairs more than down...) the front porch stairs carrying him and hurt him.
Needless to say, I worry a lot. I think maybe more than others...but maybe not?
I kind of hope that I do worry more than others because that would mean you all wouldn't be as insane in the membrane...
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I worry about this a lot too, and some days I feel like the anxiety is almost paralyzing. It's so weird because I don't really worry about anything else, and in the grand scheme of things, our LO is quite normal. What scares me is that they still don't know what causes it, and the growth rate of autism is incredibly high these days. DH thinks I'm crazy because our LO is such a blessing but some days I worry incessantly when I think about the fact that she hasn't really started babbling yet, etc. Whenever she does something new, I google it and it always somehow leads to autism but in reality, babies are just weird and they do weird things. I don't have any advice for you but wanted you to know that you're not alone.
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I worry about this a lot. I'm no longer worried about my almost three year old daughter, but my almost one year old son is still on the radar. It's funny because he doesn't have any signs of it and is developing normally but then I start to think "yah but regression." Nothing really makes me feel better, except that if he does I'll love him just the same and we will deal with whatever life gives us. But, you are not alone in this worry
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@jmarionsmith: I had such a terrible week last week and the majority of it was because I was worrying myself sick! My LO has low muscle tone (she's also just under the 3rd percentile for weight and about a month behind physically) and I've done a lot of googling (which I don't recommend) and most things say a baby can JUST has low muscle tone OR they have low muscle tone along with a major medical problem like down syndrome or others:( We even asked the doctor last week if she could possibly have down syndrome. She doesn't have a lot of the signs but that doesn't keep me from worrying. We discussed doing some blood work for a big test that tests to see if she has any abnormal chromosomes. I'd rather just know now if something else could be wrong and we could help her in anyway rather than waiting it out and worrying! Regardless we are going to love our baby girl no matter what but you need peace of mind!
Long story short, I can relate to all of the worry! My LO is SO incredibly happy all the time that nothing can get me down. She is still my little girl no matter what and I'm so proud of her
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@jmarionsmith: I can 100% relate! P is probably 2-3 months behind developmentally when it comes to social & cognitive things... It's not enough to really be of concern but she did have a "red flag" here & there. Put that on top of a pedi that kept threatening ftt b/c she's petite and you get one worried momma. (Of course they didn't ever address my delayed milestone concerns)
When we first started getting concerned she was around 4.5 months old and we noticed she didn't make eye contact. I worried myself sick and cried more than once thinking about the "what ifs" and how life might be for her is she did have autism. Primarily the things she may miss out on and how she might have difficulty with seemingly simply social connections. It was dreadful!
Since then she's begun catching up and is starting to become more social but it's only been recently that I really felt better, like just a few weeks.
Something that REALLY helped me was actually another bee. I was talking to her about how I was stressed b/c P "did this" or "didn't do that" and she asked me what I was so concerned about and asked if it was autism. When I told her "Yea I guess..." She said this:
What if she does.... what then? (said very shrug shoulder matter of factly)
And all of a sudden I could breathe when thinking about it and realized that yea, life would be different for us but what am I SO worried about.... we would love her and do everything we could to help her and we'd all go all living, happily.
Autism, and even other disorders of the such are not the end of life and would never affect how we loved her..... it would just make life a little more unique for us.
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oh you ladies have made me feel so much better!! it really is comforting to know that at least i'm not the only one worrying all the time!! i'm just going to try to enjoy each day and be thankful that we have our LO and to take everything as it comes! thank you all so much!
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Even if your baby DID have autism, that would just be who your baby is. Not the end of the world, you just learn to work around it, like any other disability. If he were deaf or blind, you would just roll with the punches, and not love him any less, and the same with autism. You would still be oh so proud of him.
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@katiew92081 you are so right!!
I kind of hope that I do worry more than others because that would mean you all wouldn't be as insane in the membrane...
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