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I didn't really start connecting with baby until I could feel it. Even though I had lots of symptoms and my belly was growing, it just didn't seem real yet. Like I'd go to an ultrasound expecting there to be no baby. Not something happened to the baby, but there was never a baby.

We read a book to baby every night. We've done it since day 1.
And I rub my belly and talk to him/her throughout the day. Just to say hi or how much we love him/her.

I didn't really start connecting with our babies till this week (17weeks). I have been playing music for them twice a day. I put on some classical music while I'm just relaxing or on HB ;-). For the first time this week I talked to the babies and not just about them. I've been protecting myself & feel guilty about it. I balled the first time I told them I loved them.

DH has been reading, talking, rubbing my belly & telling them stories for weeks! I asked him to. I needed him to do it for me because I couldn't do it myself & I finally admitted it this week.

I prayed for the baby, and that helped me to connect with her before I could see/feel her. We also gave the baby a name before we found out the gender, so we would talk to Woog and about Woog until we found out she was a she.

Since the beginning, I take time each day to sit & reflect on my feelings and the baby. Now that I have a bump, I uncover it every night while watching TV, so I can rub the baby & feel kicks.

Basically, I make sure I'm sending positive energy into my womb each day ... that sounds like hippy sh*t, but it makes me feel very happy & refreshed.

@Dandelion: Maybe just connecting with your maternal self? That's more of what I tried in the beginning ... just focusing on things like "I am doing this for my baby" while we were hiking or doing anything challenging.

@Vegmama: Well, it goes a little deeper for me, since I've had a loss. It's more like being cautious than anything. It's going to be hard for me to believe it's real until this baby is in my arms.

I'm only 6 weeks but I feel pretty connected. I started a pregnancy journal but I'm writing it more like letters to the baby than to myself. I haven't written much yet but it makes me choke up every time. I also talk to him/her, particularly when I'm not feeling well or am worried about something (I've had to go on 3 international flights in the last 10 days, so I've been nervous about it!). I still haven't gotten to physically see my husband (counting down until Tuesday!!) or our families since getting my bfp so I think it's my way of not feeling so alone in this.

Asking baby to not make me run to throw up in the toilet first thing every morning?

I was not fantastic about bonding with C before he was born. Part of it is fear, and part of it is lack of interaction in the beginning. Last time week 15 we had our gender ultrasound and I started feeling him and I started getting the bump, all of which helped a lot! After a while we could interact back and forth when he felt like kicking.

This time I have started feeling things at 10 weeks (just barely tiny nudges) and I'm just waiting for my NT scan at 13 weeks to start relaxing more. In some ways I'm more relaxed this time in knowing what to expect and other ways more nervous because I know what's at stake.

We talk to the baby and DH always kisses his "little peanut" and his"big peanut" goodnight.