My first reaction to sprinkles were that they were tacky. Now that I'm pregnant with #2, I think a get together with friends and family (sans gifts) might be festive and a nice way to celebrate #2.
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My close girlfriends threw me a surprise sprinkle.
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No, but a get together with no gifts would have been nice. I had a second girl less than 2.5 years later so didn't really need much gear but a small celebration would be fun. We got the extra gear things we needed ourselves or for Christmas.
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My first thought is tacky...but I think there are certain circumstances. Someone I knew threw one for herself for each kid after #1, no way. But my sister had a small one thrown for her 3rd as her oldest and soon to be were 6 years apart. It was very small and mostly a gathering of best friends and immediate family.
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No shower or sprinkle for LO 2 or 3. I have all girls but I wouldn't want one even if I was pregnant with a boy.
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I think all babies deserve to be celebrated so I would've loved if someone threw me a sprinkles. But no one offered and it would be tacky to throw your own.
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Coworkers threw a shower both times! I was overwhelmed with their thoughtfulness and generosity!
No shower with friends/family! And I prefer it that way! They were more than generous for both babies, regardless of a shower!
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I didn't have a celebration for my 2nd, but I don't see them as tacky at all! I think of them as a way of celebrating the new baby, and not just a ploy to get stuff. In any case, when friends have subsequent children, I naturally want to give them a gift, no matter the circumstances.
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I didn't want anything for baby 2 because I had my kids so close together. My friends insisted, especially since they were different genders. We had a brunch at a favorite restaurant here in town and it was super fun and special, so I'm glad we did that. More about getting together with close friends than gifts.
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My friends and coworkers each threw me showers for my second. I wasn't super comfortable with the idea for either, but I didn't know them when I was pregnant with E, and it made them really happy to do it (especially my coworkers...any excuse to throw a party!)
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I wanted a sprinkle for LO2. I didn't want any gifts. I just wanted to celebrate the arrival of our new little guy with family and friends. LO2 ended up getting the short end of the stick in every way during his first year. My in-law's didn't even throw him a 30 day party like they did with LO1.
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My friends threw us a little sprinkle/Meet the baby after he was born.
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no, i have a feeling my coworkers will do something at work before i start my mat leave, but nothing with family or friends. i don't see the need. i definitely don't need more small stuff and the stuff i am getting is very specific and pricey (e.g., a glider for the nursery) so i am getting it myself.
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I have to go to a shower soon for a third child of the same gender. She even has a registry. This is of course after the gender reveal party where she requested specific gifts on the invite. Her children are all very close in age, so it's not a situation where she got rid of all of the gear or anything. I personally think showers/sprinkles after the first child are unnecessary, but I see why ppl do it when they have a second of a different gender.
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My SIL wanted to throw me a shower and I asked her to keep it casual like a sprinkle. We got lots of diapers which was soooo nice. It was fun to celebrate this LO too.
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I wasn't planning on it, but one of my really good friends is throwing me a sprinkle for #2. I told her not to, but she said every baby should be celebrated! Plus, #2 is a girl while my first was a boy. I don't need any new gear so we're just having a small get together with my closest girl friends for a tea party.
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I voted no I think it's tacky but none of the answers really apply. I didn't want one but I don't necessarily think they're tacky. They can be but so can over the top first baby showers IMO. I just didn't feel like it in that situation, and nobody offered, so I didn't really pay it another thought.
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My coworkers threw me a surprise sprinkle for the new baby (my second)! I took this job after my first was born so none of them knew me. They are baby crazy and it was very sweet.
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On the one hand I think all babies deserve to be celebrated, on the other hand, I don't really want another shower because we have a lot, and I don't like being the center of attention. That said, my extended in-law family through a shower for every pregnancy, so I know I will have at least one, but I'm going to tell them diapers, wipes, and formula only please.
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yes, all babies deserve to be celebrated! mine was small with the grandmas and aunts as well as my BFFs. it was mostly about hanging out and feeling loved. i got a few small gifts as well.
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My family is very by-the-book proper, and does not throw showers for subsequent children, and they make their feelings on the matter pretty known. I didn't care, I had a second girl within 2 years of the first, and had all the things I needed anyway, and each girl gets celebrated at each birthday, showers are more for the mama. Just because I didn't have one, doesn't mean I'm not happy to sprinkle my friends when they have them, though!
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Some of my mama friends are having a very small shower for my upcoming baby. We have had small 2nd shower events for most of this group's babies because we met after our first babies were born!
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I never had a big party fir my first but 6 of my office buddies took me out to lunch when I was 39 weeks.
I want a shower this time. I will put "gifts not needed, just moral support" on the card. I just want An excuse for a tea party! -
I didn't have anything with number 2 but I wish I had. It made me feel like #2 wasn't as important.
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My former coworkers get together once a month for lunch. Usually the girls with bdays that month are celebrated with cake and the lunch taken care of. I'm a December bday so I went thinking it was a normal bday lunch but they threw me a surprise sprinkle lunch. I was overwhelmed with their generosity. They will be 3.5 yrs apart, so I don't need any gear but it is a different gender so I got a lot of boy clothes and diapers (which is appreciative) bc I've been completely slacking and have gotten absolutely nothing with this pregnancy.
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I feel like it isn't tacky if someone wants to throw a shower for the mother and it isn't the mom herself.
In my area it's common to throw a shower for the first child of each gender but that's it otherwise. I live in an area where most people have 3 or 4 kids so it could get expensive.
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In interests of honesty, I loathe when people call things like a 2nd baby shower "tacky"-- if someone gets married a 2nd time, should they not have a reception and nice ceremony if they want? Is that something they get judged for? What about if you graduate from high school and then college- should you not have a party (parents I know have thrown graduation parties and gifts are usually given in my experience)-- not to mention birthdays. If someone has a birthday party every year, nobody gives any effs.
Why are baby showers/sprinkles different?
Personally, I'd like to have one thrown in my babies honor, no, you don't need to register for the big stuff (especially if they're close in age) but a diaper shower or something to stock up for an opposite gender is NBD.
calling something meant to be a celebration tacky is just unnecessary.
Sorry for unloading! I've just seen this kind of sentiment in other threads/groups
ETA: I wouldn't host my own. But I know that with my first, my hosting friend didn't have a lot of funds or time to plan it so I did a lot of the legwork... And paid for almost all of the food and decorations. So I guess in that case I did technically throw my own
I don't have a massive circle of friends to all go in on something like that together!
If one is thrown for me this go round I'll probably ask the hostess to do a diaper shower instead of a full blown deal-- folks can buy outfits etc if they'd like but I won't register!
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We had a small shower thrown by my family for LO1. Now I'm expecting LO2 (a boy this time) and I actually have friends (new town) and I'd love to have something for this baby, but it doesn't seem likely to happen.
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I think sprinkles for second babies a nice. I'm pregnant and we have tons of baby stuff but there's still a few things I need. Mostly new bottle nipples, clothes if it's a different gender, and diapers. I don't personally want another shower because they stress me out. But I can see why someone else would appreciate it.
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I'm in the baby showers are for moms so having a second celebration for something that has already happened is strange to me.
I don't think it's the same as having a HS graduation party and a college graduation party. Those are two events. Becoming a mother happens one time. The baby shower is a celebration of a woman becoming a mother and gifts are given to help her succeed as a mom.
To me having a second shower is more like having another wedding to the same spouse. Vow renewals at fifty years OK, at two years... Ridiculous.
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I think that becoming a mother to subsequent children is still unique- your life changes a bit each time... So while you're not a mom "for the first time" again, you also won't become a mom to a 2nd child again either.
Wedding gifts were traditionally to help the couple set up house and you'd get gadgets to help succeed in homemaking... So really, marrying a 2nd time to someone new means you probably don't need any of that stuff (same if you've set up household before marriage) and people still have celebrations and often get gifts/register.
No gifts are ever necessary, but why say it's wrong for the actual celebration? I guess that's my beef- thinking negatively about a celebration.
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So what is the difference between a sprinkle and a shower then? Having had neither, and not understanding the difference, why would you say yes to a sprinkle for later pregnancies and say no to a shower?
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My LO's will be almost 4 years apart and different sexes, so my sister is offering to host a sprinkle for our baby girl this time. We had a co-ed shower the first time so this one will be much more casual and smaller, just for the women.
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My first baby shower was cancelled due to hospitalization, being on the other side of the country, a delayed move, and general mayhem. So when we had our second my aunts threw me a shower. It was lovely.
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@pastemoo: sprinkles are smaller scale- a lot of people don't register. I'd still give a gift (hell, I love giving baby gifts) but it's less about "showering gifts" and more about visiting with a "sprinkle of gifts" say a diaper shower or something like that?
It varies between social circles and probably regions
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What's the verdict on Sip N Sees?
I know a lot of people (usually older) that didn't like to do showers for first babies because complications can arise... My MIL lost her first very late and had already had a shower so she was really reluctant to even host any for her daughter in laws-- she was a fan of post baby arrival sip n sees
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@Mrs. Pink: so what is it called if you have a smaller party like a sprinkle, but it is the first child? Is a sprinkle just a shower for a non first child? I mean I get the scale thing, SIL had a no joke shower like I've only seen on tv, but if you have 8 people out to lunch for baby 1, and then 10 people out to lunch for baby two, are both a "shower?"
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@pastemoo: I had a small
ShowerI had only ever heard shower until a few years ago-- I think it's a new thing? My understanding is that a sprinkle is after the first.
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One of my best friends organized a brunch in LO2's honor. It was very small (me and 5 other close/local friends) and definitely in the vein of every baby should be celebrated. it was really nice.
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@abmamma: sounds nice! @Mrs. Pink: I like that. Thank you
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