I find it really hard to balance home and work. My take is that it's really hard to prioritize more than one... unless you just don't need sleep. Or if you have a super duper supportive spouse.
Do you feel mommy-tracked (or daddy-tracked) at work?
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I totally am mommy-tracked. In fact, I'm going to have to quit this job (I've been at only 2 months) because my boss refuses to let me work from home at all (keep in mind, I have a laptop and it's not top secret info I'm working with and the company brags about the ability to work from home but my boss is against the policy). I work 50 hours a week from the office but I need flexibility for overtime in excess of 50 and I'm not being allowed it.
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I am totally on the mommy-track. I was doing great after 1 kid, but this 2nd one has totally thrown everything off. I actually am changing my status to part time status. I figure my sanity (and my family's) is worth more than $$ or position at this point (or at any point!). I'm going to use this time to think through what kind of career or job situation would work best for all of us.
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I told my boss when I started that he better not mommy track me. I emphasized the point by being at work in all core hours and making sure that any work I did at home was always completed on time and was of very high quality.
Nobody puts this mama in the corner!
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Yep! My male coworkers sound shocked when I tell them I'm only taking a maternity leave...they thought 2 kids means being a SAHM.
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I am mommy tracked, but I don't want DH to be daddy tracked. I think only one of us should suffer and he makes more money so I don't ask him to work less. If he can, he'll come home earlier on some days, but if he can't then he can't.
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Yep! But it is because I work from home 3 days a week. It beats paying for child care, but the WAHM days aren't a walk in the park.
I think it is getting better, though, as I've proven to still be productive even with the work at home schedule. I'm currently working on project proposals, which is a step up from what I was doing.
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What does mommy tracked mean? Is it being just focussed on the LO?
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We are both really lucky to work for employers who are very family-friendly. Plus I'm an independent contractor so they can't really say anything when I take time off or shorten my day. But obviously I try to function like I'm a full time employee and respect my meetings and other people's time, and give them plenty of notice if I'm going to be out.
Wagon Sr.'s job is a little more demanding, but his boss is a dad and they are very close, so he's understanding. Wagon Sr. daddy-tracks himself. Haha.
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At the moment, I'm definitely not mommy tracked. I got promoted right after I returned from maternity leave. Someone was retiring, I did her job while she was on medical leave. I was naturally in line for her duties. We've added someone else to our local team, so I might have more ability to work from home in the future. I fear the mommy tracking when I have our second LO eventually.
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@travelgirl1: It is having your employer view you as less effective/capable/available because you are a parent. Therefore you see less or no career advancement.
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@Mrs. Cat in the Cradle: Ah I get it, thank you : )
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@travelgirl1: @Mrs. Cat in the Cradle: I kind of also see it as a path you may choose for yourself, where you sideline yourself a little or make concessions in your career in an effort to gain more in your family life.
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@T-Mom @travelgirl1: Yes, it really depends on the entire situation. Some employers will track you, some people decide to make concessions to family life.
Personally it is a little from column A, and a little from column B.
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I don't feel like I am mommy-tracked in my current job, but definitely felt like I was when we lived in Chicago. I think people in Indiana are very family-oriented in general so that helps that everyone seems to prioritize family more. Part of it was prob that we lived downtown and I worked at a very young company in Chicago. But I am very lucky now that my boss prioritizes family very well and encourages me to do the same. It helps alot, I am sure, that his wife is also a working Mom so he sees first-hand how hard it is.
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I work for a small company and our company co-founder/CEO is a mother with two children (both of whom are here a lot, they even have their own nursery/playrooms and nannies on site, although that's for them, not for other employees), so even though I won't know until I actually have a kid, I don't think it would be possible to feel mommy-tracked here unless it was as a product of my own fears. They are extremely family-oriented and accommodating.
However, if I were to ever leave, I think I would feel mommy-tracked in my career. My 5-year goal is to transition to a home-based, freelance business, but I don't know if it's at all possible because of the way DH and my salaries are split.
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No. Right before I went on maternity leave, I received a substantial raise. Since I have returned to work, my boss has made it pretty clear that he is grooming me for *more.* I am grateful (and know that if I worked anywhere else I would not likely be treated similarly), but a small part of me wants to be mommy tracked . . . just so I can let go of some of what is taking up space in my head, and focus more on the most imporant part of my life - my family.
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Yes, I am mommy-tracked at work. Although there is no room for growth here, I know that my supervisor has told higher ups that I was unable to do certain tasks because "she has a baby at home."
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