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I used to have a ton of resentment, but then when I was working with a therapist who specializes in birth trauma, I realized my resentment wasn't at the hospital but just at my overall birth experience. Everyone in the hospital, the nurses, doctors, LCs, were all great to me (except for the fact that some of the doctors were looking at a delivery menu while I was on the table for my C-section and taking orders)...I just should have researched the transfer hospital more. I never realized that our birth center's transfer hospital just happened to be the hospital with the most births in New York State...so that place was a baby madhouse. No private rooms, heck I was in labor and they had no room for me! So I was stuck in a small triage room for hours.

I will never go back to that hospital because I prefer to not be one of a bazillion ladies giving birth at the same time.

Yes my DH is still angry about what happened to me during labor that he is boycotting the hospital. When I received a survey on my experience I wrote out everything and I dont know if it makes a difference it made me feel better.

@mrbee: I didn't either! She was amazing. I found her through my lactation consultant. This therapist left her practice to raise her kids and wants to establish a new one because she let her clinical license expire so she needed to put it a lot of hours so she's also super duper cheap. And she's a lactation consultant, so I got breastfeeding help and help regarding my birth experience.

Not really from the birth process but a little bit from both post-partum stays. My main complaints was that the lactation consultant didn't come see me until very late into my stay both times (it was at least 30hrs after DD's birth and I was waiting for DH to bring the car around when they showed up after DS); except for one PP nurse, they didn't really offer much help with breastfeeding and several of them just "slammed" DD onto my breast instead of helping me understand a proper latch. My other complaint was that as a second time mom, the nurses were pretty much non-existent whereas my first birth they were in the room all the time if just checking in (some may find this frustrating but I found it comforting).

Mr. Bee-I would suggest writing a note to the hospital expressing your concerns. You are obviously not the only one who was negatively impacted by this nurse and if the hospital is not made aware of her behavior nothing can be done. While I don't feel it will result in any policy changes, I mentioned all of my concerns during a post-discharge telephone survey and felt better just having someone at the hospital hear them.

I didn't didn't have a terrible experience but it wasn't ideal either. I was a quiet laborer so I think I got pushed to the back burner a bit. After I got my epidural I felt really out of it so I am not sure what that is all about. The nurse who coached me pushing and the doctor that caught my LO were amazing though and my pp care was top notch. So really it is just that middle fuzzy part that I struggle with.

Sidenote: I attended a breastfeeding group 3x per week after my LO was born and was given the opportunity to be part of a focus group to improve the hospital stay and massive amount of information they give you in those few days. It was a really great experience and I love that that the hospital was being proactive about it.