I realize between HB and DH, I'm all talked out. I'm so happy most of my friends are child-free and not interested in "baby talk." The people that know and are parents themselves are way too concerned about my choices and too quick to offer advice.
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I don't mind talking about it, but I feel like I have the same conversation 8 times whenever I meet up with my friends. And that makes me feel self-conscious, like I'm an attention hog or something!
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Not really. It feels kind of personal, and plus pregnancy is a little bit boring! I'm feeling not too bad, not getting enough sleep, I'm going to find out the sex, baby isn't kicking yet, blah blah. Anything else feels like nobody else's business.
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i don't mind, but i am not usually the first to bring it up, but i don't mind if people ask questions. I do get annoyed by unsolicited advice for sure. I got a lot of more of that in my first pregnancy than i have been in my second.
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I don't mind, but it gets repetitive when different people ask the same questions over and over. And I was def tired of the "how are you feeling?" multiple times a day lol.
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I don't bring it up myself, but if someone asks, I'll respond. I'm glad I have the due date board to air my business. lol
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@snowjewelz: yes. That question is the most grating although for now it only comes from my husband. LOL "How was your day?" was replaced with "How are you feeling?" The former was asked just once, and the latter- well let me count LOL
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@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I'm always thinking in my head like, do you really want to know how I have to pee a million times? Or can't sleep? Or having all these other pregnant people problems? Or you just want me to say "great! wonderful! can't wait to meet my baby!" lol
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I agree! I hear "How are you feeling?" all day, and I know it's well-intended, but I don't know what answer people are expecting! "I'm constipated, anxious, fat, and exhausted, thanks for asking."
And I feel like I've answered, "No, we're not finding out the sex," and "Yes, my husband is excited," about 500 hundred times already. Maybe I should just start wearing a sandwich board??
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I enjoyed talking about it and never found questions annoying.that being said, I had a really awesome pregnancy. The unsolicited advice..... That's another story
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@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Funny! I do, but its probably bc I have the opposite problem. Friends and siblings and parents could not be less interested and I have work DW out with my pregnancy chatter.
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@wrkbrk: similar thing here except it's mostly because I had to stop working and stop classes etc so I don't hear it all day. My toddler doesn't care.
I don't mind talking about it but don't have much to say, so there's that.
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@ms.line: ha ha! eah, I'm sure no one really wants to hear the one change I really noticed- one boob has grown so much!
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@snowjewelz: @ms.line: hahaha I go nuts with how many times I'm asked each day. I miss having real and meaningful conversations - just bc I have this belly doesn't mean i can't talk about other things..
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I don't mind, but I only really answer questions; I don't bring it up myself. That is my nature with anything, I never really like to talk about myself.
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I always loved it, minus obnoxious advice. I adored being pregnant, and was happy to talk about it. (Well, also aside from feeling awkward/confused on handling "is this your first" type questions. First pregnancy? Not at all. First (hopefully) live baby? Yes. But I didn't like going into that.)
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Not especially. I've found that for 9 out of 10 people, they don't really care what I'm experiencing, they want the opportunity to talk about what they went through (and frankly, I don't care).
Unless it's family or a good friend (and I know they're actually interested in my baby), if people ask how I feel or how things are going I'm normally pretty short and just say good or fine.
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No. I don't really like the added attention and I don't have much more to say then "we're excited!"
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Meh. I appreciate that people are interested, but especially the work conversations that are "how are you feeling?" are a bit tiring. I'll tell my mom or DH the truth, but work acquaintances are always going to get "fine! Baby's still in here!"
Reading a lot of the others, tho, makes me glad I work at a University where most of my coworkers are under 25
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I don't mind and unsolicited advice doesn't bother me either to be honest. The only find I have been annoyed was when this lady came up to me out of nowhere talking about how young people should wait longer and be married before having kids. I started to tell her that I'm 36 plus I just happened to leave my wedding ring at home but then I stopped because why should that matter?
Instead I just enjoyed her prattling on about how shocked she is by teenagers today.
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@ms.line: Word.
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I do with other pregnant people because they get it! But for other people, there's a whole lot of nothing going on and only so many questions I can answer past: when are you due, what are you having?
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I'm fine about it, and most of the time enjoy it... except for one person at work..
I have to spend about 10-15 minutes with her each day, and EVERY day, she asks me either about back pain, swollen feet, being sick, or some other negative symptom. It's frustrating because I'm very thankful to be pregnant and not having any bad symptoms except sciatica, so I'm not looking to vent. Regardless of my response, she'll either (1) tell me about her negative symptoms from 20 years ago or (2) generally commiserate, even if I didn't say anything negative. I have 4 more months to go....
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@birdofafeather: agree! It was nice to talk to other pregnant friends - same stage or not. Anyone else I found it so annoying.
I was in the elevator at my apartment and a man out of the blue (while another random man was also in the elevator) asked "did you get a breast pump yet?" It was so awkward! Like, why?!?
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@SweetiePie: Why?! Hahaha.
People are awkward.
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@birdofafeather: Well he explained after I looked at him like he had 3 heads that he works in insurance and knows I should get a free one. But I'm like "maybe you should lead with that".
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Im not pregnant now but i loved that it is the only time in life where you can gain weight and people tell you that you look great!
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@Elizabear: yep....until people start commenting on how much weight you've gained, and use late pregnancy as a reason to comment on how horrible you look.
I don't mind, but I've had such a rough go this time that I feel awkward talking about it. "How are you feeling?" Awful actually. Care to hear about my hemorrhoids? No? Sciatica? Low iron? Heartburn? Lol....
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