If not, how do you handle it?
My mom, who I love to pieces, is unable to respect my wishes. I am a very private person.
When I told her and my father I was pregnant, I also told them that we were waiting the 12-week mark to tell anyone else. She called me every second day from week 5 to week 12 to see if she could tell someone.
She asked me for months everytime I saw her, if I could send her pictures of me pregnant, even though I had told her that I didn't want to take any pictures because I don't feel good in this pregnant body. When I finally gave in and took a few pics to send to her, I told her it was only for her. The first thing she did was send them to her boss. When I confronted her about it, she said she didn't know I didn't want her to share the pictures..... ?????
She will take time off her job when I have the baby, she absolutely wants to be at the hospital throughout my labor "in case I need her" (I will not have her in the room!). My DH doesn't want her in the room either, because he feels like if she's there, there won't be space for him to help me - and I think he's right. She now wants to let her boss and colleagues know that I'm 1.5 cm dilated to give them an idea of how soon it's coming. Hummm no!! This doesn't concern anyone, and I don't want you updating strangers on the state of my cervix, thank you very much! She doesn't understand why.
I don't want visitors at the hospital. I think it will be overwhelming right after having the baby and would prefer to go back home, wait a few days and then have people over to meet him. She does not agree with that and told me she will not tell her family not to come to the hospital, and will not wait until we're ready to announce the birth (of course, she'll be telling everyone she knows as soon as I'm in labor). So I'll have to deal with unwanted visitors while all I really want to do is rest before I have this huge new responsibility at home.
Anyone else in the same boat? How did you handle it? I confronted her gently about all of it, but the message doesn't sink in.