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Yes, I think that even if we could afford for me to stay home, he'd want me to work. I don't think he'd like the idea of being the only one bringing home a paycheck. Too much pressure.

He wants me to work if it's what I want. Yes he wants the extra income at some later date but right now, it's in our best interest (money wise) and their best interest that I be a SAHM.

Yes, absolutely.

Yes! We'd have to make some serious lifestyle changes if I didn't, and we like the way things are now

Yup, and I want to work so it all works out!

No. He likes that I can be available to help him, with business stuff or errands and be home when he's home since he works all different times. He likes that he can spend time with LO when he's home in the daytime as opposed to her being at daycare or a sitter. He also likes 3 home-cooked meals a day, which he sure wouldn't be getting if I had to work.

We discussed this today, in fact. He supports me either way, but I think in his heart, he wants me to stay home.

Yep! One, we need the income, but more importantly, he knows I need the outside interaction. Every time I bring up wishing I could be a SAHM, he reminds me that it's not what I need to be doing.

DH said he would be okay with me not working if that's what I really wanted. His mom was a SAHM when he was little so he understands the importance of that role. But I'm not ready to be a full time SAHM yet. I actually like my job and it's nice to be able to contribute financially. So as a compromise, I reduced my work schedule and in the office for 4 days. One extra day with my DD makes a huge difference and that feels like a good home/work balance for me at least for right now.

No, we both want me to stay home with A. I do want to get back into freelancing over the next few months though, and have a very good,think about what work I will do/or,retraining when A and future kids start school.

He wants me to do whatever makes me happy. Best I can tell he honestly has no real preference.

Nooooo. We can afford it but moreso, we like the lifestyle. House is cleaned, I cook everyday, I run the errands. I guess I work as much as him, for sure, but I work in the home and with our child, rather than outside.
When LO goes to school though, I'm getting outa here!

He supports me either way, but I think he would prefer me to go back to work. What he would really prefer is that I made so much money that I'd still be bringing home a lot after paying for daycare, which just wouldn't be the case for us. So he is supportive of me staying at home, but it's because he knows it's what I really want and I would be unhappy if I couldn't, especially since we can afford it.

DH's next to me and his response is, "you mean long term?" I said yes, just answer the question. He says, "Whenever you want to, nerd." Lol.

Which pretty much equals, yes, go bring home some bacon!

Edit: He's now saying I misquoted him. Apparently he said "whatever you want" not "whenever". =_=

Yep!! Besides so we have extra money to live comfortably and not be on a budget, despite day care expense. He knows me and knows that I need the adult interaction during the day, no matter how much I still want to be with R all day.

No. He asked me about being a SAHM before we even got engaged.

RIght now, yes. No kids! Eventually when he is through this training program at work and we have kids, I won't work and he is totally on board with that!

Nope, and he's very hard on himself since his salary alone doesn't allow me to stay home. It's not ideal but we are making it work!

Mine wants me to stay home and I want to stay home too....but we're in the process of buying a house and can't quite swing it yet. I'm trying to negotiate a job share with my employer so I only have to go back part time.