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Nope. He's happy that I'm able to be the primary caretaker for our kids, homeschool G, and is proud to be able to provide for us (even though we have a very tight budget & live on much less than many of the ladies here).
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No. He likes that I can stay home. Both of his parents worked and he spent a lot of time with his grandparents so I think he likes that I can be there to take DD to school and what not.
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Yes - both of us want and expect each other to contribute financially, and he knows I'm happier working.
I know a lot of women find it awesome and sweet their partner doesn't want them to work, but honestly, men who don't want women to work totally rub me the wrong way, and I'll leave it at that.
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He wants me to do what makes me happy. If I wanted to stay at home, he'd be supportive of that decision. For now, I enjoy working but maybe in the future I may decide to take a few years off.
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He supports me either way but I think he leans toward wanting me up work so we could be more comfortable financially.
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Yes, he doesn't want the pressure of being the sole earner and he thinks if I took an extended period off I would never go back to work. My mom took a year off when her first was born and never went back so he always points to that.
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Yes he definitely wants me to work! I am planning on going down to 3 days a week after my mat leave (currently I work 4 days) and he wants me to keep my 4 days. However, I feel I will be much happier only working 3 days, so I can care for LO and look after the house. We all know a happy wife is a happy life
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DH loves that I am a SAHM but has also made it clear that this is a decision entirely up to me if I want to return to work. If pushed for a preference, he'd say he prefers for me to be at home, but it's up to me. We're more than comfortable on his salary alone, and I love being home with our LO every day, so this is an arrangement that makes all of us very happy.
ETA: he recognizes that taking care of our LO is a full time job as well so we split the household chores fairly evenly. I do a lot of the basic cleaning and most of the grocery shopping, but he cooks dinner every night and does the bigger tasks (ie mopping the floors, scrubbing down the walls, and all outdoor chores). It's definitely a balanced relationship and works well for us.
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He prefers if I work but I think he recognizes that life is easier for both of us when I stay at home with our LO. So for right now I'm at home and I'll head back to work next year.
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Theoretically, I think he'd be fine either way...
But he'd expect me to be a "homemaker" as well as a SAHM, and would probably expect me to be cleaning and cooking all the time. And although I like cooking and baking, I definitely don't like cleaning....and I wouldn't want to be expected to do it all.
So, I kind of like it the way I have it now. I have a low-pressure, high-reward job, we split cleaning 50-50, and I can cook as much as I want but it's definitely not expected because we're both at work all day.
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@Ree723: same!
DH loves that I am a SAHM, but if it were important to me to work, he would support that 100%.
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He mostly wants me to be happy. But he also really likes the money I make, lol. He said he thinks we'd both be happier with me working. And he's probably right :). Though I wouldn't mind part time hours with full time pay, haha.
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He's always left that decision up to me, I'm happier working.
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He wants me to do whatever makes me happy. Finances dictate that I work, and I prefer working. I just wish I could set my own hours;)
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Yes. I wouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't want me to work. It doesn't jive with my personality. Plus, I don't want to stay home. I'm home now and feel so blah cooking and cleaning and taking care of the baby.
And I expect him to work. We expect the same of each other
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He supports my decision, and right now I do work. But I know he would love for my to stay home with our son.. We are lucky though since my mom watches LO, we have the best of both worlds.
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He just wants me to be happy. Right now I have to work but if I could stay home I know he would want me to do so. He has always wanted to be "that man" who pays for his wife to stay home. If I could I'd finish my degree while I stayed home & would become a full time student.
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I say no, but only because he knows how much I want to stay home with the kids. But I know he's prefer me to work so the budget isn't as tight
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He wants me to work, but I think if I really wanted to be a SAHM he would work to make that possible. Right now I am in school full time, and work part time. After the baby comes I will most likely not return to work. Affording daycare while I'm in school is not very realistic. However, when I'm done with school I am really looking forward to working. I'd ideally like to work part time.
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Yes, but only because he doesn't work
He's a FT student so without my income we'd be in a cardboard box! 
He's a FT student so without my income we'd be in a cardboard box! 
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