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This is my first pregnancy with no m/c before and I still had fears of m/c throughout my first trim. I think it's because I know IRL people and blog friends who have gone through this, I thought NOT having a m/c was more a rarity.

I'd try to take it day by day and not let the paranoia/worry consume me. I'd take weekly milestones and slowly start being less and less worried.

Even outside of the first trimester I've had random days of worry; but I think it's just 'mother's instint' to worry and as long as you keep it balanced, you'll be okay

I did worry about, I think every pregnant woman does. we didnt tell anyone about the pregnancy until 11 weeks when we told my mom and at 13 weeks we told MIL. Honestly I tried not to worry because I know stress isnt good for the baby but its hard, especially when I read about missed miscarriages where there was no cramping or bleeding. Every time I got to hear the heartbeat I would let out a huge sigh of relief. It was also worrying because my belly wasnt getting bigger in the beginning. I didnt have a bump until way into the 2nd trimester.

I was consumed with thoughts about miscarriage until my friend told me she was going to drive down and slap me because I was worrying too much! I enjoyed my pregnancy a lot more after that!

Terrified- all the time. Every cramp, twinge, feeling of CM sends me into panick mode. I did have a previous MC but I feel like I'd be this worried regardless. My mom tells me its just practice for feeling helpless and terrified for the rest of our lives when our children are concerned

Call me naive because until I was an avid reader/participant on HB, I didn't realize just how common miscarriages were! After that knowledge, I've been frightened ever since! Not pregnant yet, but it's definitely been on the front of my mind. I always thought I'd announce immediately once I find out I'm pregnant, but now, I'm waiting until after the 1st trimester to reveal. Then again, I thought getting pregnant was as simple as having unprotected sex once. (>_<)

I feel the same way as @smurfette. I don't have an ultrasound appointment for a few more weeks, though. Fingers crossed!

@hellobeeboston: oh yes! Don't over-google! Great advice!

I was really worried too. The best advice I heard was don't fight it. You are worried about the health of your child, that's perfectly normal. You want it to survive - there is nothing wrong with that.

The second good advice I heard was dissecting what you hope to accomplish from worrying. It said (this was just some online article) that people worry because they want to have thought through all the potential outcomes and not be surprised by them. I think it's natural to not want to be someone who goes "I never thought it could happen to me!" But really, once you've recognized the possibility of miscarriage, thinking about it more doesn't achieve anything. I said to my husband that really, if it happens, it won't be any easier/harder if I think about it more/less.

The third thing I did that helped was just trying to appreciate the time I had with the baby, even knowing it could potentially be short. (I had severe cramping through most of my first trimester, by the way, which is why I was so worried). I told my husband we were parents to this baby no matter what. My mom told me mother's day in utero didn't "count" which to me was BS!! Part of it is our religious beliefs (we believe life begins in the womb), which shaped us thinking of the baby as our child very early on.

The fourth thing was just time. I'd realize that I could usually go about two days without worrying. Eventually it'd be three or four, then finally just occasionally when I'd think "what was that twinge last week?"

Don't judge yourself for worrying. Just recognize why you are doing it and assess if it's helping you or not.

I focused on the opposite part of the statistic: 80%-85% of pregnancies are viable through the first trimester. If your odds were that good at winning the lottery, you'd buy tons of tickets. A glass half full approach helped me! I also stayed away from my friend Google.

During first Tri I was terrified of miscarrying even though I had no history of it. The weeks up until week 12 felt like they dragged and even though I saw the heartbeat at 8 weeks it was still scary. I mainly just kept telling myself that regardless of what happens tomorrow or the next day, today I am pregnant and happy. It actually helped. I think it's just natural to feel a little worried. Even in third Tri I was worried that something might go wrong.

I have a friend that has suffered several miscarriages but everytime they found out they were pregnant they made sure to be positive and tell everyone because they believed pregnancy is a time that should be filled with joy not fear.

I had 2 miscarriages before this pregnancy but even with the first I was constantly terrified. I’d spot check on bathroom trips and every cramp would terrify me. I was just counting down until the second trimester. Honestly though, I still worry now at 28 weeks. We’ve heard our baby’s heartbeat multiple times, had ultrasounds galore and everything’s been fine so far but everyday I’m scared of not feeling our baby moving around and stillbirth.

I’ve realized that I’m just a worrier by nature and I’m trying to focus on settling that part of myself down instead of focusing on the individual worries. Every time I catch myself in an irrational/unhealthy worry or fear I actively try to refocus my thoughts onto something positive.

@Running Elley: I'm the same way. I'm just a natural worrier. I recognize that about myself and try not to let it get out of control, but I can't stop it completely. I'm 22 weeks and still worry every day. And I check the paper EVERY time I go to the bathroom. I feel lots of kicks every day but still worry when I feel any sort pain or twinge that something is wrong. I hope that once we hit viability at 24 weeks I will be able to relax a little more, but knowing myself, I probably won't.

@MamaMoose: I really hope that you’re able to!!! I actually did calm down quite a bit after the 24 week mark (for the few weeks before that I was seeing signs of pre-term labor in everything). Only recently have I started with the stillbirth worry- hopefully you don’t get to that point

@Mrs. Tricycle: I took the same approach with our first pregnancy. And since it had taken us almost a year to get pregnant that first time, I was convinced that there was just no way we were unlucky enough to miscarry. We only told two people, but it was more that I didn't want to jinx anything, not that I really thought there was any possibility we'd lose the pregnancy.

Well, we did, and it sucked hardcore. I was definitely way more paranoid the second time. I woke up every morning and told myself "I'm still pregnant". I held my breath every time I went to the bathroom. I clung to statistics that said my chances of miscarrying twice (without a medical reason, like Elley had) were minuscule. We still told all of DH's family before we had our first ultrasound (but it was Christmas).

Anyway, the good news is, even though it's not uncommon, your chances of miscarrying are still really low!

@dagret: Sorry to threadjack, but is your avatar "I love this alot"? hahahah.

I never worried with my first pregnancy. But now that I've experience one, I'm super nervous about it this time around!

I was so worried about miscarrying that I paid extra special care in all my activities. It took 11 cycles for us to get a pregnant (but I'm pretty sure I had an ectopic & a blighted ovum during that time).

I avoided POAS early, so I only ever had 1 BFP. I told myself that IF this baby was strong enough to make herself be known -- she's a fighter and strong enough to make it the whole way through. She was! And she's still growing big and strong at almost a month =)

Like everyone else, I worried about it even though I hadn't had a m/c previously. I think it was because I googled too much and read the boards way too obsessively. I figure if it is going to happen, it'll happen and my worrying won't serve any purpose at all. it certainly won't make it NOT happen. so i prepped myself for it actually happening and didn't get too attached until i got to the second trimester.