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@cmomma17: First, don't measure yourself against those supposed super moms. You have your own set of challenges and no one else is living your life. I struggled a lot with finding a new work/home/life balance after E was born and I went back to work. It really wasn't until he was about a year old that I felt like I could come up for air and be happy with how things were. Now, at 18 months, there are still bad days where I feel like I fail at everything, but mostly there are good days where I feel like I'm reasonably succeeding.

LO is only 3.5 but I cannot keep up with anything at home. I love cooking but have barely done it at all since she was born. The one thing I do make time for is the occasional play date, for my own sanity. And I DO the laundry, but it gets as far as folding it and putting it in a basket. I need to do it frequently since there is always something getting pooped on that can't sit, but I can't get it put away for the life of me. And yeah, I've done my hair twice in the last 4 months-- once for my sister's bachelorette party, and once for C's baptism. That's it. Ponytail city over here, with ill fitting nursing tanks for the most part.

This is a short time period in the grand scheme of things, right?

@cmomma17: Those moms don't exist. Trust me if they are succeeding in one area they are definitely failing in another. Don't beat yourself up! You are doing great!!! Hugs!!!

@cmomma17: DD is almost 2 and I finally feel like I'm getting my stride back. I'm still not where I was and I'm certainly not able to do all these uh-mazing craft projects like other moms. But I have to remember that my job as a mom isn't to be like the mom's on Pinterest. It's to take care of her and make sure she has a clean, loving home. (and "clean" is relative - ha!)

My problem is I get overwhelmed very easily. So if she's around me and I try to get ready, forget it, I'll just be frumpy that day. I only bake when she's napping and same goes for any other craft project. I get up early in the mornings so I have my "me" time.. where I can take the time to take care of myself (long shower, nails, hair, makeup, etc).

@sarac: I'm not tearing down other mothers. I'm just saying there is "no perfect mom" and it's not fair to try and hold yourself up to some notion that doesn't exist. You don't know what goes on behind close doors... but I'm sure that mom that you think is "perfect" does not feel like they are "perfect."

@cmomma17: Laundry is my nemesis. And cleaning is non existent. It's not even busy season and I don't have time to clean. I can only imagine how I will do it all when I'm working 70 hours a week..

@cmomma17: I gave up a long time ago trying to be perfect. I'm in survival mode. I think it gets easier once LOs can entertain themselves without putting their life in jeoparday (aka- climbing and jumping off anything in site). So, maybe by the time they are 18?

Big hugs lady! I know how you feel too. I had a full force meltdown just a couple weeks ago over this exact thing, and my LO is 11 months now. But, just this week, I feel like I am getting the hang of it. I still have lots to work on, but I don't feel like I am just failing at everything any more. So it does get better! I will never be a Pinterest mom, and that's ok. I know you are a great mom and that's all that matters!

I get it, I certainly do. Balancing everything is very difficult, and something has to give, because there are simply not enough hours in the day to get everything done to perfection.

I have made the active choice to outsource where I can (housekeepers) and if I can't prep a meal in the crockpot, it doesn't get done. Eventually, it gets easier, then you get your rhythm down and things change, lol!

@rahlyrah:

@cmomma17: I agree with @littlek: . . . there is no such unicorn! These days, I am all about minimalism, well, at least as it applies to housework and cooking and such! Readjusting the demands I place on myself has been tremendously helpful . . . even readjusting the expectations I have for my work performance. You can't be 100% in all areas all the time. Something has to give! I just don't want it to be my sanity, so I choose to let it be my laundry and my cooking. I wish I would have done that sooner!

@cmomma17: You are so not a momfail. Being a working mom is a LOT of work!!! I just live and die by prioritizing. It's more important to me to cook (ie, crockpot...) than clean. Laundry must get done but putting away can wait. I have to get myself to work clothed but all else goes out the window. It's okay to be in survival mode

@MsLipGloss: A week? I don't think my bed has ever been made.

Girl, you are not a failure! It is SO hard working and being a Mommy! You just need to take it day by day. If you get LO to day care dressed, with bottles, and plenty of diapers, that is a win in my book!

@cmomma17: LOLOLOL. yes, you are the bed-making unicorn!

@MsLipGloss: That's actually the truth on this end too.. so our bed gets made once/month. Same frequency with which our floors get mopped, and carpets get vacuumed. Yes, please judge me. We're gross!

@cmomma17: hugs mama! You are NOT a failure! I agree with @MsLipGloss: @littlek: Sometimes moms look perfect, but no one is perfect! We all have our own struggles. Maybe that mom with the cute outfit all put together has a messy house and eats out for dinner every night. She's just made the choice that for her looking nice is a higher priority than a clean house. Nothing wrong with that! And that mom that does all those crafty things has a mountain of laundry to do b/c crafting is what she prioritizes. Maybe just figure out what your priorities are and let others things go and be ok with that. Things will get easier. My son just turned one and I'm finally feeling like I've got things *somewhat* figured out and I'm feeling much more like myself. You'll get there.