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Oh man. Hugs. I am an anxious wreck so I'm not much help... I tend to shop or eat do you have any projects you can try to distract yourself with? I clean when I'm upset.. What do you usually do to unwind if you're stressed?

@Pepper: Oh no, I hope that he's ok!!!

When I'm really stressed or worried, I try to focus on what I can control. It's weird but doing something that I can control (even if it has nothing to do with the matter at hand) can help me feel more centered. So when I'm going through a really stressful time, sometimes I will make to work out regularly - it gives me a feeling of control, even though it has nothing to do with the source of the stress.

Hope you are able to get some relief, and that you hear (good!) news about your husband's eyes soon!!

Just want to give you a HB hug I can't even imagine; I'd be worried sick too. I am praying for positive news (as positive as it can be..)

Since there is nothing else you can do at this moment, live in this moment and make it count. Just continue to take every proactive step you can and then try to put it out of your mind as much as possible. It's really hard to live this and it's almost impossible not to worry, but as I continue on my journey of being Jonah's mom in light of what happened to Lucas, it is the only way I survive. Fingers crossed for lightning quick test results and good news!

I'm sorry. I'm a worrier and have been in your spot. Thinking of you and hoping it's good news!

I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I hope he's ok!!! For what it's worth, doctors often go to worst case scenarios because that's their job. It could be something much less scary. And even if, heaven forbid, it is a tumor, they'll have caught it early enough before there are any symptoms, and that's a very good thing.

You're doing everything you can to find out what's going on, so try to let the panic go for now and busy yourself with something you really enjoy.

I am so sorry to hear this. You and your husband will be in my thoughts and prayers. I am not much help though on how to cope with it, my DH has a health crisis this past February and I was so worried and upset that I physically made myself sick and had to go have an ultrasound myself to make sure I was ok! It was terrible and I am now on bp meds to help. It's so difficult to deal with and I am truly sorry you are going through this!

I'm horrible at it, so I'm not much help. I do a lot of venting and talking. Working out/getting fresh air would help because you'll get the endorphin rush. But other than that, I can just offer you hugs, because I would be just as scared if I was in your position.

I'm so sorry. I agree get out of the house. Go do this or that. The waiting is so hard

I'm so sorry. That sounds really stressful and I would be a wreck too. I hope the results come quickly and are completely uneventful.

When my dad was dying (also of cancer) I found that distracting myself was definitely the best thing to take my mind off the hurting. I love to read, but it was hard to read anything significant or in depth, but I did read a lot of shorter novels that were usually humorous. Which I know may be weird in such a difficult time, but some of those funny moments in the books were the only moments I had to smile during a day.

Keeping you in mind.

I'm so sorry you are going through this right now. I hope you get answers ASAP. No matter what the results, knowledge is power, so once you know, you will be able to deal with it.

When I'm overly stressed, I either try to exercise hard or I go into a cleaning/organization frenzy. Being overly busy is a good release for my body to help with nervous tension, even if my mind is still on the problem. Keeping my fingers crossed for the best possible outcome.

I'm so sorry that you're going through this - i hope you get some good news soon.

I will usually try to get out, or do something with friends (and not talk about what's bothering me).

Well, I don't know how much this helps, because this may sound like a bad outcome to you, but I had a similar situation 3 years ago. An eye exam that got me referred to an ophthalmologist, then to 2 more for second opinions. The first doctor thought I had neuritis which is just inflammation of the optic nerve and he said there wasn't any real reason behind it except stress and that there was basically no treatment for it other than to take it easy. I sought a second opinion and that's when I was given an MRI, which actually did lead to a brain tumor diagnosis. I had a meningioma, which is a benign brain tumor, right between my eyes, up against my pituitary gland.

It was scary, but looking back, I'm glad my doctors were proactive and got me my referrals quickly. Once my MRI results came in, I was sitting in a neurosurgeon's office in under 2 hours. I did require surgery to remove the tumor, but I was back at work in 2.5 months. Based on the MRI results, my doctor could see with relative certainty that it was benign because benign tumors are usually smooth edged, while cancerous ones look like amoebas), so it didn't require very much time to get a diagnosis once the MRI results were in.

Again, I look back at the experience as a good thing. My doctor said that most people don't get a diagnosis if at all until symptoms get really serious - like serious vision impairment or seizures and the like - and that I was lucky my eye doctor caught something wrong, because it turned out my tumor was quite large - like the size of a golf ball. I did have vision problems going into surgery, but it turned out the optic nerve was mostly bruised (thanks to catching it earlier rather than alter), as opposed to atrophied and permanently damaged, so my vision bounced back post-op.

While I pray your husband has something minor, like neuritis, I think in the long run, its a good thing he had the MRI - if nothing else to make sure everything is fine. If there IS something wrong, you want to find out as soon as possible to make sure you don't damage your eyesight. Again, with things like MRIs of the brain, there's either something there or there isn't so I would assume you should hear back pretty quickly. Hugs to you!

Hoping for the best!

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this @Pepper. I'm hoping you get results soon and that everything is ok!

Hope this turns out to be ok, you guys are in my thoughts Definitely a positive that they have been able to move things through very quickly and be proactive.

@Pepper: what eye test caught this? Was it the one they use dye in your eye or just the optic nerve photo?
I am so sorry! That would be terrible and I'll pray for positive results for your husband!!! I don't know what to suggest other than just trying not to let your lo see you upset or stressing. Try to stay occupied so your not thinking and worrying. Try to pamper your hubby because it's happening to him and he'll prob try to be tough and hold it in. Just pray!!!!!