This is kind of a two part question...
I am attending my first baby sprinkle this weekend for a friend, fellow daycare mom that is new to the area, therefore doesn't have any friends close by. Second baby of a different gender then her first.
I have to be completely honest. I have no idea what to expect. The parents are not registered anywhere. The invitation says a diaper raffle. Do I just bring a case of diapers? Or do I bring a small gift along with a case of diapers?? I was thinking a pack of wipes and an outfit?? Would that be acceptable?
My verdict is out on a sprinkles. I like that the second baby is celebrated. But I also feel it is a party to get gifts. Is this going to be similar to a baby shower? Cheese games, etc...?
What do you all think of baby sprinkles
cherry / 148 posts
@JLC53: I think taking diapers, wipes, and outfit sounds good.
I personally would not have a sprinkle. My opinion is have a shower for your first child and celebrate your other children with family and later friends can meet the baby. I think the sprinkle is called a sprinkle but pretty much it's a shower- you have to go with a gift otherwise it's rude. Someone is going to think it's rude if someone doesn't bring a gift. Like I said I think after your first baby it's best to celebrate without expecting others to give gifts or sending out that assumption to others- those who want to will give gifts anyway.
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
I don't mind sprinkles or a 2nd shower. If a baby shower's intent is to celebrate the impending birth of a child, it would be unfair to me not to celebrate. I'd be happy to attend and gift for any amount of children! I had a baby shower for my 2nd baby. It was casual, and gifts were definitely smaller scale than my first, esp since my 2nd was same gender/season. I did have a very modest registry, only b/c people kept asking. But at that point my life was already so much different (2 years apart) and it was nice to see a lot of people I hadn't seen in a while. Maybe it's just me!
pear / 1521 posts
I mainly think it's silly to justify a sprinkle by saying all babies should be celebrated. A sprinkle really is celebrating the mom, the baby isn't here yet! If you are anti-sprinkle, it doesn't mean you think that baby is second fiddle to the first one.
That being said, I don't personally have a strong feeling about them other than I wouldn't (and am not) have one for myself and that I don't really think my social circle will as people have 2nd babies. However, other places I think sprinkles/2nd showers are much more standard.
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
@petitenoisette: True, but I never know why it's bad etiquette to celebrate two or more times. I feel like the mom should be spoiled more than ever for subsequent pregnancies! And it's not like I wanted another shower; my sister & my friends wanted to throw one. I feel like if you're really close to whoever it's for, then you'd be totally fine with gifting and wanting to be there. If you're not that close and you think it's tacky, then I'd just decline.
pear / 1955 posts
I think by having the diaper raffle on the invitation, they're really only expecting people to bring diapers - so if you bring the wipes and an outfit, you're probably going above and beyond (not in a bad way, just probably more than you'd have to do.) The sprinkles I've attended were much less formal than actual baby showers - usually at someone's house, no games, just people sitting around chatting/eating/having cake.
I like parties that celebrate things, so I guess I'm on board with sprinkles, haha. It didn't really occur to me to have one, but my kids were only 19 months apart and the same sex. Still, I feel like having a sense of community is really important to women having babies, so I'm more than happy to attend a party and chip into their diaper stash.
honeydew / 7622 posts
A sprinkle is a shower with a different name. I’d bring a box of diapers and call it good.
pineapple / 12053 posts
i love celebrating mamas and babies, so i'm fine with sprinkles! i would just bring diapers and a target gift card probably.
squash / 13208 posts
I had a sprinkle for my 2nd - it was way less people, no games and kids were there too!
It was very special to me!
I would bring diapers and some wine for after the baby
wonderful pea / 17279 posts
I’d stick with the diapers as requested. You already know they will be appreciated.
grapefruit / 4584 posts
@snowjewelz: I am so with you - I don't get why some sort of celebration of a new baby/end of pregnancy past the firs baby are so frowned upon. I've had three kids, and have had dinners or girls' days with friends near the end of my pregnancies with the second two - and many people did choose to bring a gift, either for me or for the baby, even though I've had three girls. In one case, it was self-funded by everyone attending (spa day), in another case, my husband booked (and paid for) dinner for a group of us. I've also been to full-on second showers, and found that often people have moved in between babies, so it's a whole new group of people (and they may need some new stuff, if they didn't bring it in the move).
OP, I'd take diapers or wipes as requested, and either something gender-specific/personal, or a gift for the mama (nursing friendly cardigan? spa certificate? nice lotion?) if you are so inclined...but if you're not close, you're fine with the diapers
grapefruit / 4043 posts
Exactly what @Mamaof2: said re: sprinkles - way less people and no games. Usually just brunch with closest friends in my experience.
@JLC53: I'd bring a pack of diapers and a small gift that you feel appropriate for your level of friendship. Honestly, if you aren't this lady's good friend, then you being invited as a fellow day care mom is too far reaching, IMO, and screams of gift-grabbing.
grapefruit / 4584 posts
@JLC53: Honestly, if she is new to the area it sounds like she's just trying to meet new people (or someone is trying to help her meet new people). If you think you'd like to be friends with her, looking at it as a chance to get to know her might reframe your expectations around the event/help you decide if you want to go and what to gift.
persimmon / 1364 posts
@PinkElephant: I agree with everything you said. Why is it bad to celebrate the mama even if she's already had babies? Every pregnancy and every baby is a huge life event and should be acknowledged in some way.
I would gift however you would normally gift for a shower or get something for the mama.
pomelo / 5129 posts
I think the same rules apply to showers and sprinkles.
You should give whatever you feel is appropriate based on your relationship with the person.
grapefruit / 4361 posts
I would bring a pack of diapers and one or two 6-month outfits, seasonally appropriate.
Ironically my baby sprinkle for my different-gendered baby is in 45 minutes....
I kind of think that sprinkles are even more fun in a way, because for the first shower I always feel like I should be very practical and stick to the registry, but sprinkles are usually for diapers and clothes, and who doesn't love buying baby clothes
nectarine / 2431 posts
I would bring a big box of diapers, wrap it all cute and call it good.
As far as my opinion on them, I'm pretty neutral. I think if people think they are gift-grabby etc, they can simply decline.
cherry / 175 posts
I attended the sprinkle this weekend and it was sooo cute and a ton of fun... I did end up bringing a gift and I am glad I did, everyone brought a small gift besides the diapers and she opened them up in front of everyone. It was a really nice party.
I honestly am still on the fence on how I feel about them. I do feel they are a gift grabby party. I do not think I will have one myself, but that doesn't mean I don't mind celebrating others that want to have one.