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@MrsTiz: i say switch offices.
Mine was willing to get me in 2 days after i called for a dating ultasound. I'm so glad he did, because i was also but on progesterone at that time. So thankful! -
@MrsTiz: I would 100% push to be seen earlier. It doesn't say in this post but a PP mentioned you had a mc? Definitely try to get in!
This pregnancy I went to my doctor's right away at 4 weeks for confirmation and then I was able to have an u/s at 7 weeks because of a previous mc a few months earlier. Then just to make sure everything was going well I had another scan at 9w. My first actual prenatal appointment with my doc was at 10 weeks.
I hope you can get in sooner. Not that there is a reason to worry, but I felt just having the peace of mind helpful.
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especially with a prior MC i'd definitely demand to be seen.
I got my bfp at like, 3 weeks 2 days or something crazy (9 dpo!) and called that week, they had me come in at 8 weeks for the nurse practitioner visit (paperwork, dos and don'ts, family history, bloodwork) and scheduled me for 10 weeks for the first OB appt and dating ultrasound.
ETA - my LMP was Dec 20, and my first ultrasound was around end of February.
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Wow, that's really crazy. The office is essentially offering no first trimester care. My doctor wanted to see me at 6 weeks, and gave me an ultrasound, an exam, and took a lot of blood for bloodwork. She also sat down with me and went over everything I needed to know for the pregnancy - food do's and don'ts, 1st and 2nd trimester screening tests and when to schedule them, etc.
I would absolutely change practices. Notwithstanding your prior history, not only is 12 weeks not standard of care, they're being inflexible when you've specifically requested an earlier appointment.
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Okay, update!
I just got back from the doctor, they confirmed pregnancy, gave me a due date based off of my LMP (October 8!!!!!) and said I was 9 weeks. I complained and bitched about the wait for an ultrasound, seeing as how I don't know if I am for sure 9 weeks, or if i'm having twins, or if it is still okay..whatever. They agreed to give me an earlier appointment - I go to checkout and my doctor is on vacation until NEXT Friday which would be *drumroll please* TWELVE WEEKS. Well, just a few days shy of it anyway.
I swear I could blow smoke out of my ears right now.
To answer PP's, yes I had a MC in October, I made every person there aware of that today. Buuuut my doctor is on vaycay, and I am not allowed to see other doctors first.Needless to say, I left a message with another practice and will see what they say when they call back. Never using my current office again.
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@Beehive: "The office is essentially offering no first trimester care" this exactly. I asked about that, here are the reasons why (you might want to sit down)
-You can't see the heartbeat good enough before 12 weeks
-If you are going to have a MC, there is nothing they can do about it, so why go through the emotional stress of knowing about it?!
-12 weeks is when you are in your safe zone, so why see them before then?...I have no words.
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Wow, they suck, basically. Get another office. That is flippin' ridiculous. Definitely not who you want to see for prenatal care
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I'm sorry. I hope you find another office that suits you better and you can get rid of that undo stress they are causing!
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I agree, get another office for sure. I honestly wouldn't even believe your EDD at this point just because its off of your LMP but O could have happened any time!! I'm sorry you are having to go through this. At least you are smart enough (and have HB) to make sure you are getting the appropriate prenatal stuff in the first trimester.
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@MrsTiz: oh.my.gosh. find another office stat!! That is ridiculous...
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I am sorry! I would totally find another office.
If you are 9 weeks now, how would you be almost 12 weeks next Friday?That is just a week and half away.
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@T.H.O.U.: The other office called, they said they don't have anything open this week, but they can probably get me in next week.
What is more frustrating is that I have no way of knowing if everything is okay or not. Not so much that I have crappy offices, but the unknown
I know for sure my LMP, so they would count it from that anyway right? Until I get an US? It will be October no matter what. Woooohooo!
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@Smurfette: 10.5, you're right..either way it's too close to 12 weeks for my liking!
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I had an appointment with a nurse at 7 weeks to fill out paperwork. I didn't see a doctor until 11w4d which is when I had my first ultrasound and heard the heartbeat. Honestly, I think the timeline sounds normal but I'm surprised they don't want to see you sooner because of your previous miscarriage.
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@MrsTiz: I agree, that is too long. Given your history, they should get you in for one now. You can see and hear a heart beat at this point, there is no reason, what so ever, to make you wait. Sorry hun!!
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@MrsTiz: as some who mc'd previously, early care was important to me when I was looking for a new doctor. I had three HCG tests plus one progesterone test at four weeks to confirm everything was heading in the right direction. My first appointment and u/s is a little over seven weeks due to scheduling. Both my RE and OB understand why I'm really nervous and need extra care.
If I were you I would switch. I'm sorry you have to wait so long. I wouldn't trust their EDD. Hang in there and I can't wait for you to join us on the October board!
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Sorry I did not read all responses - but here is what I know from my experience.
I called my doctor at 6W and said I needed an appointment - at this point the office informed me they were scheduled through mid Feb (which would be my 11-13W). I kinda freaked out. My step father who is an OBGYN was the next on my call list and he got an earful from me (he is the one who referred me to the office I go to). He told me that technically they dont need to see you until you are 12 weeks. He said no major testing is done in advance of that (like the first tri screening) and basically all they need to tell you on that first visit is take your vitamins and obvious donts (smoke, drink...blah blah).
I was still frustrated but had resigned myself to not getting in until 12 weeks.
I definitely understand your frustration (as I was there too) but thats the reason I got for this response from a Doctor with 35 years of experience.
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I was in a different situation, so I was seen very often from week 5... But agreed w pp, especially since u had miscarriage.... Most places will at least confirm w blood test early on. My place wanted to see me at 8 weeks. By then, you can see a baby and the heart beating. Good luck w the new ob! Definitely would have left your previous one too!!
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@MrsTiz: that's not at all true...you can 100% see the heartbeat before 12 wks! Anyway, congrats on being an Oct 2013 mama and I hope you're able to get in with the other office soon!
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That is just ridiculous!! They should've granted you an appt pretty much right away at least for the reason of previous m/c.
With that circumstance and your OB going on vacation, they could either 1) squeeze you in or 2) just let you see another Dr in the office. Is it that terrible if you see another doctor before your "own"? I understand that these practices often have many rules about stuff like this, but there's gotta be some flexibility when it comes to patients' varying medical histories, scheduling conflicts, and "real life" in general.
I agree with the others that say to find a new OB office! Hopefully they will be more accommodating. It's sad... some OB offices treat patients like cattle!
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@SAHM0811: I asked to see another doctor, I even asked if I could switch doctors in the practice, because mine seems to always be on vacation when I need her. She said no, my doctor was staying my doctor.
I am on an appointment list with a new place, and should have an appointment next week. Not better time-wise but it makes me feel better to go somewhere else!
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@hilsy85: I know, you can hear it from 6 weeks and on! I read in What to Expect that at Week 9 you won't be able to feel your baby, but you can sure hear it!
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My first appointment was with a nurse at 5 weeks and my first appointment with my OB was at 7 weeks.
Good luck!
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My first appt was 6 weeks but it was basically a Q&A and some testing. First U/S at 7 weeks. My SIL though got a blood test at 5 weeks and then didn't go back til 12 weeks for her first U/S. So I guess it varies!
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@MrsTiz: I am reading some of the replies and um, CAN'T SEE HEARTBEAT well before 12 weeks? Pretty sure I saw my baby's very clearly. And what if you had a tubal pregnancy, or another complication, or TWINS like you mentioned?!? You'd want to know. Glad you are looking around for another practice. I was mad at first that mine wouldn't confirm with a blood test but everything else has been great. I think you can definitely find one that has your health and your baby's health more in mind.
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@MrsTiz: ridiculous they won't let you even TRY to switch doctors. glad you found another place... next week is better than waiting til 12 weeks! good luck!
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So. It all comes down to vacation. Sigh.
For what it's worth, I had appointments at 5, 9 and 12 weeks and the earlier appointments were a waste of time. Blood pressure, scale, pee in cup. They don't do early U/S where I live and I could have easily waited until 12 weeks for an appointment.
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@KJfromNJ: Oh you can totally hear it, last time (at this same office) they had me come in at 8 weeks, they did an US to see for a heartbeat, so it boggles my mind that they are saying you can't see it now, and if you are going to have a MC, you shouldn't worry about it until 12 weeks.
@Grace: She was on vacation in October for all my drama last time, and now shes's on vacation in March when I need her. Makes me feel confident in knowing she would be around when it's time to give birth. Not.
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8 weeks? Umm awesome! Your almost a quarter of the way done. How did I not know you were so far along? Again I am sooooooooo thrilled for you!
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@anonysquire: You didn't know because *I* didn't know lol!
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@MrsTiz: That's crazy about not being able to see the heartbeat before 12 weeks. I'm 10 weeks now and saw it very clearly on ultrasound last night in the ER.
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@MrsTiz: well obviously I would expect you to tell me before you find out lol.
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