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I went through the same thing with all 3 of my babies but with wanting a boy. I've always wanted a little boy and when I found out my first was a girl I was sad but I always had hope my next would be boy. Then #2 was a girl and I went through it again but once again had hope that our third would be a boy. Well we found out early on that #3 was a girl and I completely broke down crying. Not because she wasn't a boy but because there was a good chance that I would never have my little boy since DH said he was done at 3 and I've always wanted to have the mother-son relationship and that there wouldn't be a mini-DH. What i've learned is that it's absolutely ok to feel sad, I guarantee you that when your little guy is here it will feel like it was meant to be. Seeing them play together will be the best thing ever and they will be best buddies!

I had a son for #1 and found out that I am pregnant with a girl this time around. My worry is that my son and daughter won't be as close as they would be had there been two boys. I guess I shouldn't generalize what interests my future daughter will have based on gender but I can't help but think they'd be closer if they were two little boys playing cars together (my son's current obsession), etc. I will admit that I was a little disappointed as well that I wasn't going to get to reuse any of the adorable clothes of my son's... The point of all that is there are different ways to look at the situation. Try to be happy that there is a good chance the siblings will be super close and that you can reuse lots of clothing that you wouldn't otherwise be able to....

Having 2 boys is so much fun! Once your LO arrives I'm sure you won't even be able to imagine a sweeter baby than the one in your arms. And watching the relationship between brothers develop is just amazing. You'll see your son become an awesome big brother and your younger one will just idolize him from the moment they meet. I am totally biased but think having two boys is just like winning the lottery..you will see!
And I 100% understand the feeling of disappointing family with another boy. We have no girls on either side of our family and are 99% sure we're having yet another boy. Aside from the initial reaction of wishing we get a girl this time, everyone has been very excited for another boy. Things like now we can have a family hockey team and how many kids can wear the same outfit. Little things like that still make it exciting. Take some time to get used to the idea but I promise having boys is the most wonderful thing.

I'm worried I may end up feeling this way. DS is 21 months and we find out Oct. 5 what we're having. Everyone is thinking girl or maybe wants girl for me, but I'm really trying not to let myself think one way or the other because I don't want the disappointment that may be inevitable. We may try for a 3rd yet, but DH would be happy to be done at 2.

You're absolutely allowed to be upset at not having a girl. Let yourself feel it now. And then think about how awesome it will be for your DS to have a little brother, to not have to buy new clothes, to already have the boy thing down.
Hugs.

I have two girls (including a 3 year old handful for sure!) and I was worried about constantly comparing the baby to the older one, since I already know and love her and know how awesome she is. And I admit I do compare them but the it goes back and forth who compares more favorably. They are just so different but my worries about the baby always falling short to the toddler were unfounded. If that helps at all.

I think whatever your last baby is you have a twinge of sadness, especially if you only have two. For me, I really wanted a sister for my older daughter, but I also wanted a son for DH. So I was a little sad for him probably never having a son, but I would have been even sadder if we had a boy and my older daughter never had a sister.

I hear ya sista! I was the opposite though and can't say that it lasted long. But when we found out we are having a boy (we have a girl now) I was totally happy and really excited but after about an hour or two as it sunk in I started to have second thoughts and I got sad that DD won't have a sister and I got worried about having a boy when I'm used to a girl and lots of other random things that ram around in a pregnant persons head. All that is to say that I think it's completely normal and that once your 2nd little man is here you will be over the moon happy. Oh and little girls can be terrors as well!!!

i went through the same thing (my first was a boy too and we were planning on two kids only). However, i am now hopelessly in love with my second little boy. He is 6 months old. He is own person with his own personality to love and cherish. The only thing i compare are their looks, sleep patterns, and milestones because it is fun, lol.

Although, on another note, i now want a third kid now and am working on convincing DH. But having 2 boys already has made me imagine life with 3 boys and see how wonderful that can be too, because even though i would hope and wish for a girl all over again, my second son is living proof that ALL my boys are amazing and my first was not the "exception" to that rule. In fact, it was when my second little boy turned 3 months that i decided i wanted another baby - boy or girl - (though fingers crossed for a girl) because he is so amazing, i don't want to be done just yet.

@Chillybear: Haha yep, my 2 year old is already doing this!!

@oskarsmommy: Girls can be a lot of work too - maybe even more so!

I just wanted to chime in that I have two boys and I LOVE IT so far.... they are 3 years apart, and they are so different but even with the age difference (the baby is only 10 months) they already love each other and play and it's so great for each of them to have a brother. we're not having any more either... but how fun that all of the boys/cousins will have each other in your extended family!