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Definitely gave me time to adjust. I really wanted a girl and I think if I didn't have that adjustment period beforehand it would have been harder.

I would almost think the opposite... That being team green and having a picture in your head of a baby boy your entire pregnancy and then learning it was a girl would be more disappointing.

I'm still pregnant and team green, but I'm a little worried that DH will be disappointed if we find out it's a girl at birth-- he would really like a son, although I'm sure he'll come around. I've wondered if it would be better for him to get over his disappointment early, but you are probably right in that after the whole labor and delivery thing, we will both be so glad just to have the baby.

A friend of mine was really upset (for a couple months) when she did her gender scan. But now that the baby is here, she isn't upset at all! I think she needed the time to process pre birth versus after.

I think a lot of disappointment comes from people not taking the bigger picture into account and not getting too caught up in an idea or guess. After all, it's a 50% chance!

I'm psyched to know ahead of time. But I can't imagine being disappointed either way since the goal isn't a specific gender but a healthy baby. Particularly with the first! I'd have been pumped either way.

I was a little disappointed when we found out the gender at 16 weeks for my LO. I think it helps to know ahead of time!

DH was terrified of having a boy. I was just happy to be pregnant. We found out at the 18 week U/S that we were expecting a son and it definitely gave DH some time to adjust. He went to therapy and was excited by the time DS arrived.

I would rather have had time to adjust. We wanted a girl so badly and I believed so much that she was a girl. At the gender ultrasound, the technician asked me to guess and being horrible at reading ultrasounds, I said boy. DH's face gave away how upset he was. Then we were told that it was actually a girl and I had been looking at the umbilical cord. So for us, we would have needed the time to adjust to having a boy because I was also crushed when I thought it was a boy (and I still feel awful about feeling that way).

My DH and everyone around us seemed to want us to have a girl. At the anatomy scan, we got news that it's a boy. It definitely gave us time to adjust to it. When he was born, one of the doctors went "It's still a boy." Knowing beforehand really helped us get used to the reality of a boy. Now, it's no big deal. It just means we're going to try extra hard for girl next.

I wanted time to adjust, and I'm glad I had it. I would like to think I'd have felt nothing but joy at delivery regardless, but finding out early was the only way to guarantee that for me.

@Mrs. Yoyo: Same! Although I haven't delivered yet...

I would love to imagine pure joy and excitement at the birth of whatever I'm having. However, I know that if I don't have a bit of time to adjust to a boy (it's already getting easier as I kind of prep myself for that possibility and just convince myself it's a boy) I would be disappointed at birth if it were a surprise. I feel horrible admitting it but I have two boys already and a husband, that would be 4 boys against me and two of them aren't fully mine to begin with. I just think it would be hard. So the extra time will leave me the chance to get super excited about MY baby boy.

I don't know. I'm Team Green and am totally okay with having either a girl or a boy, but I would tend to think that if one person was leaning one way or the other in terms of their hopes, they would be less disappointed after the baby arrived than if they found out via an ultrasound.

After you've gone through labour and have finally seen the baby be born, I don't think you are too likely to be disappointed about its sex. OTOH, I've also heard it said that people found it easier to bond with their baby if they knew the sex ahead of time.

This is exactly why I am not going to be team green. For people who can do it, I think it's awesome and probably the best team to be on, but I know I'll work myself up for wanting a boy or a girl then be disappointed at birth if it isn't what I was expected.

At first I was worked up for a boy, now I"m worked up for a girl, it goes back and forth

I just don't think any mother, after delivering a child, would be able to feel disappointment about a gender once she lays eyes on her baby. I just can't fathom going through all of that and then saying "oh no! I didn't want a boy/girl!" Whereas when it's an obscure thing, (20 week u/s), it is much, much easier to be disappointed.

I know so many people who have been disappointed when they learned the gender ahead of time but have yet to meet a single person who was disappointed with the gender when they went team green.

This is a huge part of why I find out. I have a girl. I'd love for her to have a sister, but I'd be really sad not to have a son. Either way, next time, I'm going to be a little disappointed along with really happy, and I'd rather do that at 20 weeks. If I had one of each, and literally it did not matter, I'd go team green.

Before DW and I had any ultrasounds we had joked that while she wanted a boy, I wanted a girl. But then, after we had agreed that we did want to know the gender, I can remember almost tearing up at just saying the words, "my son". And I'm 100% sure that she would have felt the same saying "my daughter".

I agree with @MamaMoose that when you're handed your baby, all of those other considerations just fly out the window and you stand there, staring at your LO as the most amazing thing you've done in your life.