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Not exactly advice, but sort of similar. When my son was much younger (closer to a year) and or nearly skilled enough to do stairs himself, he was walking towards a short set of stairs from their kitchen to their family room. Like 2-3 stairs. I walked towards him to help him down and my FIL stopped me with his hand and said "let him go, he's fine, you don't need to always run to him". I could have throat-punched him in that moment. I'm not overbearing and often times if it's appropriate I let my son try new things and even suffer consequences if it's not too serious. But stairs when he can barely walk and the base of the stairs was hardwood was not one of those times. For him to try and physically stop me from helping my son made me see red. He's not your kid! Who do you think you are, dude?

My dad was convinced that the reason LO got carsick was that we didn't drive her around enough.

I feel like there were probably things MIL said when LO was a baby that bugged me but I was a mama bear and took everything personally. She actually usually just tells us we are doing a good job these days. FIL never really comments at all.

Give baby sugar water because "it helps her dogs" yup babies are not dogs, but thanks! I have a bunch but this one takes the cake I think.

@Mama Bird: That makes me mad on your behalf!
@catomd00: LOL
@SweetiePie: I see red on your behalf just hearing the story!

My in-laws and my dad are awesome about respecting boundaries and I honestly can't remember any of them saying much that bothered me. My mom, on the other hand, is the queen of this 🙄

Most recently, my oldest somehow managed to grab a big container of M&Ms and sit at the table double fisting them before anyone noticed. When I took them away, she had way more of an issue than he did. She kept saying I was "depriving" him of chocolate. I'm actually pretty lenient with sugar most of the time, but my almost 3 year old doesn't need multiple handfuls of M&Ms right before dinner!

Also, I'm almost 7 weeks pregnant with #3 -and she is the only grandparent I haven't told. There are several reasons, but a big one is because she is constantly telling my my two are too close together (20 months apart) and I shouldn't have another one until the baby is at least 3 (he's currently 13 months...). At one point, she talked about it EVERY single time we were together.

My dad is obsessed with me pumping breastmilk.
Every time he visits he gives me a guilt trip about my babies not taking a bottle. How he can't soothe them if he doesn't have a bottle to give them.
Good luck giving a bottle to a baby that's never had one. And PS I'm not going to pump and build a stash just so you can watch her for an hour. Give her a pouch or a snack, she eats food.

@oliviaoblivia: I believe it. MIL is usually very laid back, but she was weirdly obsessed with LO having space to stretch out her legs, which is something LO herself *never* complained about and now complains about with her seat FF! Can't win, lol

@yoursilverlining: I can totally see you MIL giving me a hard time about it.

My MiL usually keeps opinions to herself and is actually pretty great, except with the car seat saftey. When I told her how much money we spent on a convertible car seat she almost had a stroke. DS is 9 months and she's already giving me a hard time about him still rear facing, so I'm sure her eyes will be rolling by the time he's three lol. I've been in 5 automobile accidents in my life. 2 involving wildlife, One that broke my nose because I was 5 and not wearing a seat belt! One where I rolled over 5 times, and one that ended with a fatality. I was a passenger during all of those accidents. Needless to say I believe in the value of car seat and seatbelt saftey.

My parents were kind of weird about her RF until two, especially because they turned me forward at 4 months in 1986. They also don't respect nap times or bedtime, so the one time she stayed with them, they let her stay up until 10:00, she woke up at 6, and then didn't nap until almost 3:00 in the afternoon.

Thankfully I don't have any terrible stories about advice (although my mil left the oven open and on once and left the room to sit down and eat and didn't get why I was upset but that's a different story...) Every time she changes my daughter's diaper though she declares that she has outgrown the size we bought. There is no way a size 4 diaper wouldn't fit at 18 pounds!

Our parents are really great about this kind of thing. The only (very) small things are that my mom is 70 and eats like a bird and so, constantly declares that my kids eat "so much!" even though the older one is 20% for weight and always has been. Like she's say, oh LO1 ate an ENORMOUS lunch--a half a sandwich, carrots, AND hummus. She'll be full till 8 pm! And I'm like....no, she'll need a snack as soon as she wakes up, and dinner by 6. But my mom doesn't try to advise me or stop me from feeding them, she just doesn't really get how much a toddler would/should eat.

My MIL has always told me that I should shave my girls' heads if I want them to have thick, lustrous hair. I just said I don't care if they have thicker hair (it's already thick enough), and she didn't bring it up again until I had LO2, when she mentioned it again.

Thankfully, they are all fine with us saying no to suggestions.

My parents are really good about following our lead. I also have 2 older nieces, so they'd learned better by the time lo came around

My mil is generally pretty respectful, and generally just expresses disagreement by saying vague things like "wow parenting advice is so different than in the 80s" but definitely has said things in the past that made me angry or roll my eyes, lol. Like, when lo was really young, she was constantly worrying that she was too cold and needed socks, whereas I almost always just had her barefoot (esp in the summer, bc umm it was really hot). We had a baby naming ceremony/party at their house when lo was about 2 months (in June--it was HOT) and socks just magically appeared on lo at one point--I think she was horrified in part bc she thought lo was cold but also that being barefoot was inappropriate for the occasion. I'm sure she would have preferred I have shoes on her for the party but we didn't even own any until lo was like 1, lol.

I'm pretty sure she also thought it was ridiculous that I nursed until 22 months (she formula fed dh and sil). At one point, maybe when lo was just over 1, she even said "she has TEETH, nana, you can stop now" as if I was asking her permission. No, I'm totally good, lol

And she'll give lo crap to eat (like sweets well before we gave them to her--during one stage she kept buying these "teething biscuits" that were really just cookies...) and park her in front of the tv whenever she's babysitting.

"Babies never crawl out of cribs." You're lucky yours didn't, but many do.

"He would probably sleep better if he had a blanket or stuffed animal." No to the no to the no. He's 7.5 months old. He has STTN for half of his life already and naps decently, no need to up the suffocation risk to solve a problem that doesn't exist.

My mom keeps telling me that I need to find more time for myself instead of spending all my energy on taking care of my family.

My mom was a SAHM so she just doesn't get it. When you work full time, have two kids (one of whom is EBF at 10 months so I have to pump all day and still nurse all night), and a husband who rarely gets home until bed time, finding time to go to the gym, or the spa, or shopping is hard to do.

My MIL loves to buy bibs... Because he boys were droolers. She says they soaked their outfits in minutes, so she always had matching bibs. Great! But DD isn't a drooler. And at almost 14 months every outfit she buys comes with a bib. Because her boys were droolers. Face/palm.

Omg where do I begin?? The one that comes to mind is MIL suggesting about 174940 times that we put brown sugar in his baby oatmeal when he was just starting solids. I don't know if it was supposed to be a joke or not - she literally said it once per day.

@lemong: I wish this were true because DD has a serious baby mullet and it drives me nuts!

For the most part in-laws are great, but they get offended whenever we review car seat safety and wearable blankets. We recently had to hide swaddles since MIL wouldn't use the wearable blankets for our six month old. They also don't tighten the car seat straps enough for our kids.

That my DD naps at age 2 my mom swears we never napped past 1........doubt it!

She always says Ohhh she is still napping?!??!