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I can't imagine how that would work especially when trying to plan a nursery. It seems like the parent that knows would eventually slip up and reveal the sex.

I, personally, want to know as soon as possible. My husband has said he will just go along with whatever I want.

I actually know two couples who tried this. It worked for the first couple - the husband knew and the wife did not. It did not work for the second couple - the husband knew and the wife ended up asking the doctor for the sex of the baby because she was too curious. I think it depends on the couple's personalities.

ETA - I don't think secretly planning the nursery would work though. I would go with a gender neutral nursery theme.

I know one couple IRL who did this - the father didn't know but the mother did. I can't imagine - I think one parent would feel pretty uninvolved without being able to plan the nursery, buy clothes, etc (unless the parent who knew wanted to buy all gender neutral). We are TG but it would drive me crazy if DH knew and I didn't!

Also, this totally reminds me of the Gilmore Girls episode where Sookie knew she was having a boy and hid all of the blue stuff in the shed while Jackson wore a button that said "I do not want to know the sex of my baby".

I think the knowing parent would slip. And I also think you'd just have to plan a gender neutral nursery.

I couldn't do it. My brother found out though and my SIL did not, I think the nursery was just gender neutral or they painted it after she was born.

I know a couple who tried this....her parents and her husband knew they were having a boy and she didn't want to know. She ended up finding out in the hospital at some point, though.

It would be SO hard!

I don't know how this could work in a couple that communicates openly...it seems like all the hiding involved would inadvertently lead to a lot of hurt feelings.

I'm terrible. We were team green BC DH wanted it to be a surprise. But I found out the gender and never told him til after her arrival. (I should preface to say I hate not knowing things. I'm one of those ppl who google who gets eliminated from amazing race or American idol while I'm watching the episode). I was never 100% sure though. At first it was by mistake. I knew the nub theory but didn't expect to get such a clear shot of it on our nt scan pictures. Then I had a growth scan at 35 weeks and I point blank asked the us tech to tell me. She couldn't tell me for sure since baby was too big at that point. But she told me she couldn't find a wee wee. Anyway Dh never found out. Everything we had and the nursery were still neutral. But I did have a bag of girl clothes hidden from him. Hah I know I'm terrible. Next baby I'm def finding out and if Dh doesn't want to know I won't tell again.

my husband said he doesn't want to know next time, but he'll end up finding out alongside with me.

when I was pregnant with DD, my dad and grampa didn't want to know - but everyone else in the family did, and they caved after a week. it was so hard, and I'm not even living in the same house as them!

I want to be team green and DH doesn't. Most likely I will not involve him during the ultra sound appointments because there is no way DH would keep it a secret.

I was Team Green; my husband was really good at reading the sonograms and knew. He kept it a secret (and drove me crazy by using one pronoun -- and then shifting to the other pronoun -- to keep me guessing. He announced the sex at the birth, and was really happy to see me surprised. I think his knowing (and refusing to REALLY confirm that he knew) helped him prepare for the baby while allowing me to have the surprise.