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I actually usually question the happiness/stability of a relationship when I see them post public love messages to each other. If you're secure in your relationship there should be no reason to flaunt it publicly. I live with my husband, I tell him all the time TO HIS FACE that I love and appreciate him, I don't need to write it on his Facebook wall.

@Truth Bombs: I agree!

My SIL and her husband would write all these lovey dovey messages to each other and next thing we are hearing about things aren't good in their marriage. They seem really happy now but just don't post all over FB.

I'm skeptical of everything on FB, especially over-sharers and over-posters.

@Truth Bombs: yes. Trying too hard usually. The people I know well that post too many lovey things on FB are working hard to create the illusion that things are perfect when I know they are not.

I think it's very weird when couples post sappy messages to each other on social media. Why aren't you telling them these things in person? Or at least over email or text or private message?

I know friends that have issues on their relationships that still post like everything's sunshine and rainbows; so I know that happens all the time.

haha, I've actually had a friend ask me if DH & I were still together because we never post pictures together or talk about each other on social media...

Yeah - overly mushy messages about each other all the time tends to make me think twice (or at least give side eye). It's one thing if it's their anniversary or something but randomly all the time seems off in a secure, happy relationship.

My brother and SIL are like this and are actually that happy. But most of the time I disbelieve anything I see on social media.

@JessicaMcB: I basically have never once mentioned my DH by name on social media but that's probably as my own personal backlash to my brother and SIL who post gushy photos and love messages to each other multiple times a day...

@JoJoGirl: Oh I don't even mean attaching a name to your husband I mean people being aware you're married at all and not a hot single on the prowl . This one lady was trading "intimate photos" with this poor young guy in the group who thought she was single because we ALL did. She never mentioned her husband or three kids ever. Next thing he knew her husband was threatening him for breaking up their marriage and contacting his employer.

@Truth Bombs: exactly this! I feel like when people are overly affectionate on social media it's out of need for attention. I have a relative who will post a sappy love note to her husband right after calling me about how he threatened to leave/wants a divorce.

@Truth Bombs: Eh-xactly.

I occasionally post sappy messages "about" DH on social media. But it's more for recognition on father's day, birthday's etc. Never "to" him. I live with the guy, I don't need to post on social media to tell him on a regular basis how awesome he is!

@mrsjyw: I agree- which is why I'm always sooo surprised by people who still say that they can't go on FB because they get jealous of other people's "social media" lives.

Not surprised either.

I have a friend on Facebook who CONSTANTLY posts inspirational quotes about marriage, being committed no matter what, never giving up on your spouse, etc. I know they had hard times in the past and there is no doubt in my mind that they are now. If you have to broadcast how you'll never give up on your marriage, it sounds seriously rocky. The lovey dovey posts are mixed in there too, but it's so clear she's trying to convince herself and everyone else that she's happy.

I know some people who post about all the things they are blessed with all the time including their spouses but I honestly think they are genuine. I don't think they pretend to be perfect but social media isn't the place for your dirty laundry.

I honestly can't think of anyone who posts "to" their SO except on their birthday, fathers/Mother's Day, etc!

@2littlepumpkins: I know people who openly gripe about their spouses on FB! When they are on Facebook. Then it turns into a he said she said every single time. And of course all the females always says the female is right and vice versa. Then the next day their spouse is the best ever. Annoying.

@regberadaisy: that would drive me nuts. I dont even want to see people griping about their exes on there! Just not the place imo!

One of my cousins and his wife post super sappy things to each other all the time. He also posted a poem about his upcoming vasectomy. All those things seem weird to me, and I definitely think their relationship is no where near how lovey-dovey they portray it. Social media is definitely everyone's PR campaign though- most people don't highlight the bad.

@erinpye: that's fine. For me, it is NOT though, I am anonymous, for one thing, and have shared... some really difficult things, certainly not projecting perfection, that's not my thing!