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Sure, it's a source of friction, but nothing too huge. It helps that Wagon Sr. and I are really opposite of each other, so we both appreciate what the other naturally does. I'm a detail oriented, scheduled person so doing things like dishes daily or laundry bi-weekly just comes automatically to me, and it doesn't matter to me if he doesn't help. Wagon Sr. is very big-picture minded, so he'll take on large projects as we need them, such as insect control, computer backup... things like that that aren't everyday tasks. When I get very tired and/or overwhelmed, I'll sometimes blow up with the whole "I do everything in this house" thing, which is never pretty. But we both constantly work at making sure I don't get to that point!!

The one "regular" task I cannot stand is vacuuming. I guess because it's a chore that needs to get done regularly, but I hate doing it because it's so big picture and all-encompassing. So he willingly takes it on, but I do get frustrated when I have to remind him to do it. The dust/dog hair/dirt just builds up until it's so disgusting, and he doesn't seem to see it.

As for parenting tasks, we are very divide-and-conquer. "you do this, I'll do that" gets us through every day! Usually I ask "would you rather..." and let Wagon Sr. choose which item he wants to do, and I'll do the other. He appreciates being able to choose instead of having orders barked at him.

The only time we have disagreements is when DH used to come home from work and say that he wanted to do some stuff around the house. I'm a SAHM so not only do I want a break, but I want to do things around the house too. He didn't get that just because I was home doesn't mean that I have all this free time to complete my projects. Instead I just sit there looking at all of the things I want to get done but can't because I'm watching LO. This fight didn't last long though, I talked to him about it and now he tries to get things done on weekends during nap time.

I would say we aren't even and I usually handle it okay, unless I'm feeling rundown & then the friction happens. I will say DH has picked up the slack a LOT and that has helped so much.

It's pretty much the only thing that causes actual friction in our relationship! I think it's because we have very different opinions when it comes to the housework:

I like the house to LOOK nice and will go to great lengths to make it so, stressing myself silly if I see a bit of fluff on the floor! I therefore vaccum frequently, plant flowers in the garden and get annoyed at DH for not hanging his coat in the cupboard, for dropping his laundry on the floor or leaving snack wrappers lying about. I feel like I'm constantly picking up after him! But I am prone to ramming things into cupboards (they will inevitably fall out on DH!) and don't do anything that I can't *see*. For example, if the laundry is in the basket, I wont wash it (it's fine there, it's not untidy!). I rarely think to get any shopping in - I rarely plan meals and, in fact, I'd rather not eat at all if it means messing up my clean kitchen. As a result, I often feel like I do more than him, because if the house is clean, you can bet I've done it and the other stuff just isn't important to me!

DH is the opposite. He doesn't care what the house and garden looks like, he likes it to FUNCTION. He likes there to be clean clothes to wear. He likes there to be food in the house. He likes to eat a meal together every day. As a result, he drives these areas and has said that he feels he does more than me, planning meals, cooking, catching up with laundry, taking the bins out. He gets annoyed with me for overstuffing cupboards and "hiding" things (tidying them away!). And all the while, I'm seething because his flaming cooking escapades are causing crumbs to drop on my kitchen floor!

It's taken us a while to get to this point, where I can at least see what's going on. I guess the next step is to work out how to tackle it so we don't hate on each other for the next 50 yrs!

Yes. It's difficult because I'm very much a planner and like to be organized and he could care less...I've had to let go of a lot of things and just accept that if company pops over they'll see toys all over and socks out. Worse things could happen