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No, but the swelling and pelvic pain did. I swore up and down that I would never get pregnant again.... then I got baby fever when C was a month old. lol. I hated being pregnant. I was miserable.... but I missed it when it was over.

When I was going through it - yes, I thought I could never do it again, and I had HG (was hospitalized 4 times, didn't end until about 21 weeks...horror story). But as soon as she got out of the squishy newborn phase I was already dreaming of our second baby! It's true that you forget the pain of pregnancy/child birth!

I didn't have bad morning sickness, so no.
The vag bone pain and fatigue has convinced me to stop after 2 though.

Yes! I was throwing up multiple time a day for 24 weeks. And I generally hated pregnancy for all 41 weeks. I was begging to adopt our next kids (which we plan to do one day anyway). Then I had LO. I would be pregnant a million times over for her. It's amazing. We seriously love her and being parents so much that we're pretty much NTNP from here on out.

@rahlyrah: Oh, I can totally relate! If I can offer you some hope, I am at 11 and half weeks now, and had the same breakdown you did several times over my sixth and seventh weeks. I actually started to have some better days in week 8, and have seen marked improvement since week 9. I am not 100%, but I don't feel nearly as bad. So, you may not be looking a 4-7 weeks straight of sickness - even if it lasts that long, you will likely have some good days.

Also, I heard the HB yesterday so my drop in symptoms was not indicative of any problems - something that crossed my mind as I was feeling better.

In terms of your question - we are unsure if we will be one and done or have more - but I don't think the sickness I had would stop me either way.

My entire pregnancy made me lean more towards 2 kids than 3 (we just have 1 now, and are considering 3, but after my first pregnancy I am not so sure. I had hyper emesis, gestational diabetes, and pregnancy induced hypertension, so on top of puking several times per day from 6 weeks until my LO was born, I was monitoring my BP 4 times per day and taking BP meds, and poking my finger 6 times per day and monitoring my diet.

I did love being pregnant despite all that, I just don't know how I would manage all that while caring for 1-2 other kids.

@rahlyrah: I think much like childbirth once its over, you forget how bad it was. I was in what I felt like living hell until two days ago, now I feel fine and I am already forgetting how bad I felt.
I hope you feel better soon!

@sea_bass: LOL!! Glad I wasn't the only one! Oh, my MIL once grilled stinky fish in my kitchen while I was taking a nap. I was DYING. Seriously? What can be worse???

@bebefly: Yes, everything you just said!!! I still get sick to my stomach thinking back to puking for basically 30 weeks, and have zero desire right now to replicate that experience. It was worth it for LO, but I'm happy with just 1 bebe!!!

Nope. Migraines did. I've had migraines my whole life but they were way worse in pregnancy, and the guilt of taking meds with a baby in my belly is awful. Plus next time around when I have a migraine there will be no laying on the couch all day, ill have a toddler to chase around.

But I tell myself its 9 months of hell for a lifetime of happiness, I feel like it's totally worth it

Yes. we aren't having more. My husband is fine with it and he's promised to help remind me how horrible this has been. Honestly I can't see how anyone can have more than one pregnancy (though I know many women aren't so bad. Or they're way tougher than me). Anyway I am DONE after this. I don't care if I ride unicorns and poop rainbows during trimester 2 and 3... 8 weeks of Awful (or more--who knows what's ahead) is too many.

Edited to add, this is exactly why I myself am an only child (my mother seriously had the worst pregnancy i've ever heard of where mom and baby came out healthy after delivery). And i had a great childhood.

I sometimes thought that... but now that DS is 8 months old I for sure know I want another one. But it also scares me because I know I'll have a LO to care for while being sick to my stomach for weeks. I was sick, vomiting EVERY day until 18 weeks. It was SOO so hard.

I have thought about getting pregnant soon but I could not care for a LO under 1 yo while getting sick every day.

@Revel: I have many triggers, not just hormones although that is one big one. Three in three weeks was pretty normal for me before being pregnant ..... if not more. And they could last days. I had quit my job before ttc so dh and I decided I should just stay unemployed because stress is a huge migraine trigger for me, as is bright office lights, and I wanted to take the least amount if meds as possible so we tried to get rid of my triggers and make it possible for me to always be able to lay down when I needed to.

And omg thank goodness I did that. My first trimester was awful, it was pretty much daily migraines, I was in the er every other weekend because they got to the point that I just couldn't handle it. But the other days were just me laying on the couch, not doing anything because even the light from the tv bothered my head.

It did get better half way through the second trimester and the third trimester was awesome. I still had to be careful with my triggers, but no er visits.

But then lo was born. I had issues breastfeeding so I had to stop, my milk dried up, and back came the daily migraines. It was impossible to take care of a baby (I'm a sahm) so I ended up having surgery, I have a nerve stimulator implanted in my neck. It didn't cure my migraines but at least they aren't daily. Scary thing is they still come like crazy when I get my period so I'm still terrified of what will happen next time I get pregnant ..... but that is life.

I hear many people never have a migraine ever again after their baby was born. I wasn't so lucky.... but hopefully you will be one of those people! Hope you start feeling better soon!

Yes! I had 9 months of morning sickness, and as much as I have totally forgotten the pain of childbirth, the though of another 9 months of morning sickness just makes me want to die. We will definitely try for another baby in a few years, but I'm not even close to ready for another pregnancy yet.

I am so very scared of getting pregnant again and dealing with a toddler 24/7. I was so, so sick and I can't even imagine how I would survive.

@artbee: Thank you for the detailed reply. I'm so sorry to hear what a tough go of it you've had. I know on the spectrum of migraine sufferers I am a relatively mild case, but that is cold comfort in the midst of a bad one.

I'm hadn't had any until about 8 weeks in, so that was a nice long break. I'm hoping maybe it is just a hormone surge at the end of the first tri and then things will balance out a little bit. I too am bothered by office lights/bright lights once triggered, so I feel your pain there.

Hoping for some relief for both of us.

@artbee: I had my lights out yesterday They know I get the migraines - won't know about the pg for another week or two.

I haven't talked about meds - pre-pg I never took them because I got migraines so infrequently and they were kind of predictable, so felt manageable. Now, these past few have been so UN-predictable that I'm not sure. I know there are some meds that are pg safe, especially in the second and third tri. Probably worth a call to the nurse. Thanks for the suggestion.