Anyone else? Working sucks. All I can think about is my baby and wanting to be with her and I can't. Anyone else been checking out nannying positions or alternate work arrangements/careers? I've been even desperately seeking teaching positions or something that would eventually lead to more time with my baby girl.
Does it get better? Last week was just 1/2 days and today it is full days and full time for me.
grapefruit / 4110 posts
It can get better. Transitions are always hard. I did end up switching jobs at 9 months old. It happens to be more child friendly but I wanted the job too. It helps me that my son LOVES his daycare lady. We got a really great situation. I also get to see him at lunch time and nurse him which helps. We get our fix then and are only apart for 5 hours at a time. Are you able to go see her?
We did drop in care at the Daycare center near work and I stopped in every couple of hours. I was so concerned (and he was almost a year old). I went in once and he was just playing with all the other kids and that helped me see that he wasn't losing anything.
GOLD / papaya / 10166 posts
I didn't get any work done the first month of going back to work because all I could think about was my baby. I still have days like that, but it is much easier. When I pick her up, I see how happy she is and I can tell she's learning off the other babies. But I have looked into getting a nanny when #2 comes around and possibly start teaching in a few years so I can stay on their schedule.
persimmon / 1205 posts
Awww, I'm sorry! I am already dreading going back to work myself and LO is only 11 days old!
squash / 13199 posts
Yes today is my first day back and I just keep checking the time and counting the hours til I go to get her. Currently 2 hours and 38 minutes til I get off work! Its soooo tough
hostess / wonderful persimmon / 25556 posts
Aw, I'm so sorry. I hope it gets easier for you! I am dreading that day.
persimmon / 1134 posts
Awww I'm sorry! Is this your first week back at work? I'm on my 7th week back now, and I still struggle somedays. I'm afraid I have an unhealthy attachment to LO. 
My first week was absolutely brutal. I cried the entire first day, but it helped that my mom watched her for the first couple of days and brought her to me to feed once in my shift. It does get easier, but there are still days I miss her horribly. She's still always on my mind of course, but I'm also able to focus on work a little bit better. I still get anxiety about being away every now and then, but calling to check on her usually helps relieve some of it. Hang in there momma! It's hard but it will get better!
cantaloupe / 6687 posts
I'm sorry...I'm sure it's so difficult going through this. All my friends that worked said it got easier after a few weeks especially as they gained confidence in their daycare/nanny. They all say they don't regret sending their LOs to daycare bc their LOs learn so much and get to do so many activities. Hang in there!
persimmon / 1099 posts
Yes, this is my first full time week back to work. Last week I did 4 1/2 days 8-12 to transition back. It didn't help matters that I pulled my daughter from the center we initially chose. My mommy radar was going off and some things happened I was very uncomfortable with. So far I absolutely love the new center she is at (it was our first choice but we chose the other due to location/convenience). I'm feeling a bit better today since I'm beginning fun morning/evening rituals with LO. She is just 11 weeks so I feel so sad missing out when she is developing so much! I keep reminding myself I'm doing this to give her a better life and that eventually she will be loving it!
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
@NSkillet: Butterbean is still in the oven and I am already having anxiety over leaving her during the day. Just wanted to send tons of ((hugs)) your way.
hostess / wonderful grape / 20803 posts
Awww I have no advice to offer but just want to say that you are a great mama and keep up the good work!
I'm already dreading my return to work and my maternity leave isn't halfway over. I used to work 50-60 hours a week and will be going back 4 days and hopefully only working 8-5 on those days. Ugh.
pear / 1728 posts
@Nskillet: I can tell you that what you are feeling is TOTALLY normal. I had an AWFUL transition back to work. I cried every morning for a week straight and thought about her ALL DAY LONG. It gets easier and easier as the weeks go on, I promise. I find that now, at a year old, I am starting to have a harder time going to work again because now she is crying when I leave or yelling "Maaama!" at me as I walk out the door. I dont think it will ever be easy. But it does get better. Hang in there
persimmon / 1099 posts
@LivsMama: oh man! Luckily my DH does a majority of the drop offs. I get to do the fun rescue! I am getting weepy between 1-3pm each day as its close to when I leave but just far enough to make me cry because I miss her so much.
Damned if we do and damned if we don't right?
pear / 1728 posts
@Nskillet: exactly. True story =o) Im itching to go home right now becuase I want to see her.,
grapefruit / 4278 posts
I just started back to work this week and it's been so so hard. My son is only 8 weeks old and I am beyond bummed I had to go back so early. I haven't gotten anything done, but I've flipped through the pics on my phone about a thousand times. My commute is nearly 3 hrs round trip and I've only gotten home in time to nurse him and get him ready for bed this week. I'm shifting my schedule so I'll be home earlier starting next week, but I have such horrible mommy guilt about leaving him so early and for so long.
pomegranate / 3414 posts
I had HUGE mommy guilt when I first went back to work after DD (she was 8w old). I can say it does get better but to take it one day at a time. My commute is 1hr each way and that meant we were leaving DD at daycare for almost 10hrs, it was hard. However, she settled right in and we made the best of the time we had together in the mornings/evenings (like you are). Having confidence in your daycare makes it a little easier too.
Now that I look back and know she is thriving in the loving/educational environment she is in. Actually I'm struggling because with #2 due in Sept we are considering pulling DD out of daycare and putting both into an in-home care provider situation but I fret that we are robbing both of a great experience by doing that.
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