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My LO was 2.5 when my 2nd was born and it made her very sad to have to share her mom and dad. We found she was most receptive to talking about it around story time in the evenings. I think it's good for them to hear you acknowledge their feelings and still have some one on one time. But they also need to hear the positives of having a sibling too so they get more excited.

As for hitting and kicking, I think keeping a hawkeye out for it now that you know it's happening and cut it off quickly once you see it's going to happen or as soon as it starts. Eye contact works well too while talking to them. I usually said something like I know you're mad, frustrated, etc but that hurts me, someone else, toy. Usually that ended in crying but when they're that worked up they're going to need to let out the emotions. I didn't say much about crying but if we were out somewhere we left so LO could take a break and calm down.

Hitting hurts, please use gentle hands. can you show me gentle hands like this and model for her. Or mommy won't let You hit her, so I am going to move away. Would you like to give a high five instead of hitting?

You may feel X, but you may not do Y. Y is not kind. When you feel X we can...

"I won't let you hurt baby", " I won't let you hurt me", "if you hit, your friends won't want to play with you" and then leaving for a bit, naming feelings, and close supervision. Mine are 2.5 and 9 months and it is still happens, so I don't think there is a miracle cure.