How did you hide your pregnancy from family or friends when you were in your first trimester (if you waited to tell)? I'm mostly concerned about occassions when you would be drinking or where you go out but you aren't feeling well (morning sickness).
Did you just say you weren't feeling well when you went out to drink or did you make up excuses and not go?
Did anyone have to attend a big event (like a wedding or a big party) where it would have been really obvious if you weren't drinking when you are normally a big social drinker?
How did you handle that?
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i'm not a normally big drinker, but i'd say i'm the designated driver. when i was sick with m/s, it was so bad i didn't really leave the house. maybe you could say you have a stomach bug or something.... but you can't use that excuse all the time.
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I lied but I did it in a "truthful" way. I had a particularly bad case of food poisoning a few years ago and had to take Flagyll. It's an antibiotic but also used for alcoholism treatment so having so much as a drop of alcohol will make you violently ill. It was the perfect excuse. It's also safe to use while pregnant so no one will ever have to know you were lying.
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I'm worried about this because I'm diabetic and being pregnant will mean some significant changes in what I eat and when. Our visits to my Hubs' family tend to be 10+ hours and his parents will notice.
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@Maisymay - maybe you could say something like "Due to my diabetes, my doctor has suggested that I change my diet like this..." or something. It's true without telling the whole truth.
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I let someone pour me a glass of wine and I would pretend-sip 2-3 times and then casually ask the hubs, "Hey, do you want the rest of this?" and our friends would just think I was being nice to the hubby. :o)
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I didn't drink a lot in public, so I think the issue only arose a couple of times. When we were out, I didn't have a drink "because money is tight", and when we were in, I became a drink snob and said that the guy mixing that night made everything taste like Robitussin.
We were good friends and it's kinda true so it slid under the radar for most people. One friend told me she knew right away from that point, though.
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I would order a drink that looked alcoholic but wasn't, like a cranberry juice with seltzer. Fools them every time!
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The few times I have been out, I have ordered a mocktail (ie, seltzer with a lime or cranberry and seltzer) in a short glass - no one has suspected!
But, have to go to a wedding in a few wks @ 9 wks....not sure how well I'm going to hide it then, but plan to stick with the mocktail plan!
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@iwinniebee - me too. I have a huge Irish Catholic family wedding at 9 weeks. I'm either going to see if they have either non-alcoholic beer or get a sprite that looks like a vodka tonic.
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oooh, the mocktail thing is a good idea! i was planning on just saying i was hungover from the "night before" (yeah, reeeeeeaaaaal classy plan there), which is why i wouldn't be drinking now.
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I have been using some good lines. "Not right now, maybe in a bit", "I'm so thirsty, I could really use a glass of water first" and "I need to eat something before I start drinking". It's amazing how people will only ever ask once and forget about it. After that you can usually get a drink that may look close to something alcoholic.
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i was a big drinker pre charlie, and it would be so obvious to my friends that i wasn't drinking. sure i could make an excuse once, but for 12 weeks? so i just had to tell them early on.
an excuse i used to use when in social drinking situations was that i was taking antibiotics and that i couldn't drink! would work for a wedding too!
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I went to my family wedding this weekend. It was tough, I won't lie. I started off with a glass of wine that my husband drank half of. Then we said it had a weird taste (we weren't lying). I did the closed-mouth sip where the wine ends up giving you a wine mustache.
After I got bored with the closed-mouth sip, I decided to go one step further and really fake it. I took a beer and a glass of water into the bathroom with me. I dumped the beer, rinsed out the bottle and filled it up with my ice water. Ha ha ha.
Best. Fake-out. Ever.
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@Jbhops - Ha! I love it! That's so creative! I've actually done that before when I was at a party and had enough to drink but everyone else was still drinking. I just took my last drink and filled it with water and kept partying, haha.
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This is one reason I'm glad I hardly ever drink. I'm more worried about being able to hide the fatigue and morning sickness. If I so much as mention I'm feeling a little sleepy or don't feel great I immediately get the pregnancy questions/comments. It's SOO annoying and definitely makes me think twice about making those comments to someone else.
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I haven't been a drinker for years, but I'm definitely struggling with nausea/fatigue. I'm blaming my husband -- the middle school teacher, and suggesting, "I think he gave me something." Well, he did!
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@jbhops - haha! I went to a wedding @ 9 weeks too and just drank seltzer with lime all night. A guy I was sitting next to at the table asked me why I wasn't driking my wine - my response was I didn't want to mix hard alchohol and wine : )
Otherwise, my close friends know. I'm too much of a wine-o to hide it. I turned down a work thing last night b/c I was just too tired and didn't want to fake drink.
I just have another week and a half to go of faking!!
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I've used the excuse of not drinking because I'm on medication. Then I go on about taking a drug (Dramamine) and accidentally drinking with it. Yeah, I was drunk in one sip. True story. Lol
I am worried about hiding the nausea while I'm at work. Plus the bathroom is pretty far from my cubicle. It's going to be hard hiding it from co-workers.
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Edit: technically, I have 2.5 weeks to go until the end of the "first trimester" but only 1.5 weeks to go until I'm 12 weeks, which is when most of the world (except for work) will know I'm pregnant.
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I've mostly avoided drinking events and look forward to telling my friends soon why I've been so lame in the last couple months.
For a big family visit for Thanksgiving (Canadian), I said I was on antibiotics and couldn't have alcohol.
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I didn't. I had no morning sickness beyond a lack of appetite, and i gained no weight. I had a little bloat, but it wasn't at all noticeable until 12 weeks. Besides, almost everyone knew by then.
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I wish I could use the medication excuse, but here in Sweden, hardly anyone ever takes medication unless they're really sick! Husband and I aren't so social but we meet with his parents every once in awhile and they always "fika" (have coffee) at least twice in a visit. So right before eating and right after ... and if it's a long visit then maybe 4 times!
My excuse last time was I've been having too much coffee lately (they know I've been working late so it worked) but it's gonna get obvious quick. It doesn't help that I'm seriously bloated and actually look pregnant =/
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I dont drink alcohol at all, and neither do most of my friends so that wasnt an issue for me. My biggest issue was just how tired I was all the time and how turned off I was by foods and smells that never bothered me before.
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i have heard of people switching glasses/bottles with their husband too. (So, he takes a beer, you take a beer, he drinks his and then you switch with him so he drinks yours too.) Obviously you're the designated driver at the end of the night. lol.
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DAMN IT. My friends and the hubs and I were planning on going to an amusement park next weekend. My cover will definitely be blown by then! I love roller coasters (I'm the person who waits to sit in front for the really good ones) and they'll totally figure it out.
No to mention, we were planning on getting tipsy at champagne brunch before going to the park, too. WAH. Now I don't know whether I should shell out the $$ to get into the park and not ride anything, or if I should just stay at home.
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@habesbabe: Could you "get tipsy" and then "not feel well from being tipsy" so you can't go on the roller coaster?
I'd definitely be screwed too. I LOVE champagne and I LOVE rollercoaster. hah... Note to self: Avoid theme parks.
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I don't drink, so that's not a big deal for me.
I would skip a lot of dinners b/c the smell of food made me want to puke, and I used migraines as an excuse. Which was normal for me.
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I had to cancel some social obligations b/c I was really nauseous and exhausted all the time during my 1st trimester. Luckily, it was always with different friends, so nobody sensed a pattern. I just told them I was feeling under the weather.
When I did go out or got stuck in a situation where drinking was expected I dealt with it in a few different ways. Sometimes I would just order a non-alcoholic drink and say that I had some work to do after dinner. A couple of times at events w/ free wine I just took a glass, held onto it for a while, and then went to the restroom and dumped out half of the glass in the toilet. Nobody really pays close attention to how quickly you are consuming your drink. Another time I used a friend's empty beer bottle and refilled it with water. (She was in on the baby secret.)
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Like someone else said earlier..i am worried about the morning sickness too! For the past 2 years whenever I don't feel well people are sure I must be expecting. Can't a girl just have the flu?!
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@nodakademic: nope. If you're not feeling well, you *must* be pregnant
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@jbhops: the other day a male friend was feeling nauseous and I told him the same: "youre preggers!"
We were good friends and it's kinda true so it slid under the radar for most people. One friend told me she knew right away from that point, though.
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