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DD is fed 50/50 breastmilk and formula, due to low supply. I pump before bed, and we split the feedings, which are usually at 12, 3, and 6am. When I was still EBF, I would nurse, and DH would change her and resettle her back to sleep, so I could rest and feel less alone. I hear you on the loneliness!

When she was that young he would get up and do diaper changes, bring me water/snack, wait for me to nurse her and then he'd swaddle her and put her to sleep. He was super helpful and wanted to make sure I got a little rest too. Once she got a little older, he would occasionally give her a bottle but I still had to get up and pump to help establish my supply and keep it up. I think once she hit 4-6 weeks she would wake up to nurse and immediately go back to sleep, so he stopped waking up with us.

Miss A is ten months old and EBF and I have always done the night feedings but DH is usually happy to help me if I need him.

@Foodnerd81: If you do decide to share the feeding duties at night you might just need to keep an eye on your supply if you're not pumping while your DH is bottle feeding LO (decreased demand = decreased supply). Once or twice a week probably won't hurt your supply but every night might.

Once he went back to work I did them alone. Couldn't come up with a system.

We take turns. If DH gives him a bottle of pumped milk, I still get up to pump though. It works out in our case because it only takes me about 10-15 minutes to pump. It takes at least 30 to feed him, change him, burp him, and get him back to sleep.

Either DH brings me the baby to nurse and then puts him back to sleep, or I go to the baby and nurse him on the bed in there - it varies. We don't change diapers at night anymore.

In the beginning, he would get the baby while I used the bathroom and got water, then go back to sleep until LO was finished, then help me get him back to sleep.

We are EBF but my DH has always helped at night with LO - and I don't have a problem asking for help/phrasing it like that it my head (i.e. 'asking for help') when I feel overwhelmed.

He spent the first week working+helping me. He was so exhausted, though, it wasn't going to be a good (or safe) solution. So I did all the night feedings from then on and he'd do Friday or Saturday night for me plus Sat/Sun mornings so I could sleep in without her waking me up (he'd just take her into the living room at like 6am). I napped during the day and he couldn't. Sometimes I fell asleep at 4 or 5pm and he'd take her downstairs and leave me to snooze on the couch. But if I really needed help, he would get me a diaper or something (the baby woke him up anyways, but he didn't stay awake for the full 30+ min that I had to).

Now that we're both back at work, we trade nights. We started doing formula at night after a couple of weeks because the whole feed the baby, then pump, then sleep for 2 hours thing was ridonk. I wasn't doing myself any favors in the sleep department by EPing.

I've done every single night feed of her life so far (8 mo) by myself. Of course, I'd love to have my DH get up with me for the company/help, but since I'm nursing and he's a terrible sleeper, it's best not to disturb him. I used to be a little resentful about it, but I'm over it. I know he would get up if he had the energy/could get back to sleep. I'm glad that I do have the energy and could/can handle it. I've always been able to function on less sleep that my DH.

I found watching tv shows on my phone via Amazon prime made it less lonely - it was my time for watching guilty pleasure shows/movies that I know DH wouldn't like. When I was totally sucked into watching every episode of Parenthood ever made, I almost welcomed night feedings. Almost.

When lo was little she took a bottle so we did every other waking. I get migraines so I need sleep/help.

We ebf and in the beginning it was awesome when he'd get him, unswaddle, bring him to me, take him back and change diaper/reswaddle while I fell back asleep. Knowing I'd have to pump and still wake up if he fed pumped milk never appealed to me.

DH has had 4 weeks off work and for that time he took the 1am change/feed and I took the 4am and 7am. But he goes back to work next week and I will be doing them all. I don't mind the loneliness but I get really stressed that her crying is going to wake DH up. If he wakes, I feel really guilty and inadequate (even though I'm always awake for his 1am feed). I dread to think how much worse I will feel when he has to get up in the morning.

Now that DH is back to work, I've been taking the 1 am wakeup totally alone so he can sleep through, then when she wakes up again around 4:30, I feed her then hand her off to him, and he burps, changes, and gets her back to sleep.

He goes to bed a bit earlier, by 10... So he sleeps 10-4:30 and then 5:30-6:30 before waking up for work. He watched her while he gets ready for work and feeds her one more time around 7:30 so I can keep sleeping.

I stay up later to pump 1 more time at 10:30 pm and go to bed around 11:00-11:30. Then I sleep till the first wake up (so I get 1-2 hrs sleep), then back to bed at 2, then sleep till 4 and wake up to pump then feed her, then give her to DH and sleep 5-8 uninterrupted when he wakes me before he leaves.

Once our bebe goes down to one wake up, we'll probably do that together, since I pump and he could be feeding her while I do that.

I do them. But he would get her in the morning while I slept in. He's not very good with interrupted sleep and I don't mind it usually so I'm fine with it, especially if it meant not having to battle over who gets to sleep in.