I haven't had strangers going for my belly yet, but I've had some family members touch my belly. Mostly it's my DH's mom and even his dad one time. I thought I would be ok with friends and family touching my belly, but I'm really not. I'm not a touchy feely person to begin with, so people touching my belly is uncomfortable. I would prefer them to at least ask first.
So how do you go about gently telling them you don't want to be touched? Or blocking them in the first place?
GOLD / squash / 13464 posts
I would probably just be really awkward and step backward if I saw them coming towards me. Sometimes I'm really happy we don't live near our families : )
coconut / 8681 posts
Soooo many people have been touching my belly lately. They've all been family so far at least. I am not comfortable with it at all but I'm even more uncomfortable with confrontation so I just let them!
GOLD / eggplant / 11517 posts
Karate chop? The only people who touch my belly are my MIL and mom. Luckily it doesn't freak me out too bad. Although I was sitting down once when my MIL wanted to kiss the baby, so her face was in my crotch...Awkward.
persimmon / 1341 posts
Could your husband just bring it up in conversation some time? Like he could be updating his parents on the pregnancy or how you're feeling and mention you've had people touch your belly lately (I wouldn't say it was them specifically) and how uncomfortable it made you feel. Hopefully they would get the point.
GOLD / wonderful olive / 19030 posts
It doesn't bother me when it's family and friends, but I"m a belly toucher as well! I would just have your DH tell his family that you don't really like it when they touch, it makes you uncomfortable and just back away when you see hands coming! haha people should take the hint..
bananas / 9357 posts
@MamaMoose: stepping back might work. Maybe they would get the hint?
@Running Elley: I don't do well with confrontation either, so I've just been letting them do it so far.
@highwire: I would probably karate chop strangers. lol Might not work so well with family tho.
@eeh: & @jessiejo17: Good idea to have my DH bring it up to them. I feel like I would have an easier time telling my own family, but since it's his family I don't want to say anything. I'm not as comfortable with them.
persimmon / 1479 posts
This makes me so uncomfortable, and htis is my thrid baby. I gaurantee you if you reach out and rub their belly while they are rubbing yours they will get the hint:)
Ok, I seriously didn't do that, but I would always postion my self so that it would be awkward for them to start touching me- carrying things, sitting with my arms across my belly.
hostess / wonderful watermelon / 39513 posts
I was never able to escape my MIL and her obsession with rubbing my belly. Now she likes to interrupt me when I nurse and pokes my boobs to see if they are FULL..despite my requests to have her stop!
GOLD / wonderful olive / 19030 posts
@autumnlove: OH MY GOSH!!! This is not okay, if my MIL (or heck my own mother) touched my boobs I would freak out! That is no okay in my book!
GOLD / squash / 13464 posts
@autumnlove: ummm if ANYONE did this to me I would grab their boob and ask them how they like it.
papaya / 10560 posts
I start to touch their belly...then they get the idea. Weird, but it works like a charm!!
honeydew / 7504 posts
I can totally see this being an issue with Hubs' family and I'm planning to just back/turn away. And OMG, @Autumnlove: I would bitch-slap her! That is just NOT ok!
cantaloupe / 6687 posts
I didn't mind my own mom or close friends touching my belly if they asked...and if it was just a hand on the belly...no rubbing...that is just weird! My FIL rubbed my belly once and I was mortified...the next few times I saw him I put my hands protectively around my belly and turned away...I didn't really mean to but that was my instinct when he walked towards me. He never tried to touch my belly again
My friend was at the store with her SIL and while she was looking at something felt someone put their hands on her belly from behind...she thought her SIL was just being super weird but it was some random old lady...I would have freaked out.
cantaloupe / 6730 posts
What if you told them that it kinda weirds you out to have people touching your belly all the time, but that you will let them know when there is some kicking action going on? That way you are more in control of the situation and they also get something out if it?
hostess / watermelon / 14932 posts
@autumnlove: OMG! what in the....?? could you lock her out of the room? sheesh, what a piece of work she sounds like!
I put a blatant post on facebook that if anyone touches me, aside from the day of the shower, I'm going to grab their belly back. Sure enough, no one has tried to touch me, and they've all mentioned my post (LOL). the only people who might not see the post are old enough that they're excused anyway..hah!
bananas / 9357 posts
@sandy: OMG! Seriously!? From behind? That is so creepy and weird.
@Grace: That might be a nice way to let them know.
coconut / 8475 posts
@runningelley: me too:( I hate it but I am way too nice to say anything. It'll break their hearts I think.
Ugh---pregnancy.
persimmon / 1161 posts
My husband's uncle touched my belly in the process of congratulating me. I thanked him for the well wishes, but said, "I don't appreciate having my belly touched. It makes me uncomfortable. I value my personal space." He quickly apologized to me and later apologized to my husband.
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