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Eh, her issue not yours. You were trying to be helpful and she did not take it well. If it were me I would not say anything about her physical appearance during pregnancy again.

Eh, I probably wouldn't worry about it. I'd tell her she looked beautiful regardless. And in response to your friend....I mean, isn't it sort of a compliment that she doesn't look pregnant at 20 weeks? Maybe not, but it didn't sound like you were implying she was fat?

Some people have a tougher time with the physical changes of pregnancy. I was one of those people. I felt totally out of control, did not feel beautiful or 'glowing' ever, I felt hideous.

I would try to avoid conversation about her physical appearance. And if she asks, just tell her she looks great without much detail.

All you can do is tell her that is not true at all. It's up to her to believe it or not.

@Adira: It's funny how different people perceive things. If someone told me that I could easily hide my pregnancy, I would almost take that as a compliment in that I actually haven't gained any weight so I could hide it from someone else. But then again, I know that other people have expressed that if someone tells you how small you are when you're pregnant, they perceive it as someone telling them they're unhealthy and should've gained more. This is why I agree with you that you always just tell a pregnant woman that they look beautiful.

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@snowjewelz: same, or just mention that some people carry toward their backs so it's not super obvious. And I'd tell her that she's beautiful.

@MUI831: I definitely agree that different people perceive things differently!! It's really hard to know what's okay to say, since everyone woman wants to hear something different!

I can see why she didn't like being told she could easily hide it. She knows how big she is, and if she perceives it as large she's now thinking that if she doesn't look pregnant, but she still looks bigger, she must just look fat. I can see how she got there although it's not like it's your fault. It just is what it is. Outside of telling her she's beautiful I would no longer talk about physical appearance. If she wants to talk about interviewing you could phrase things like "I just wore xyz when I was trying to hide my pregnancy" or something not directly about her shape.