If you found out about someone's pregnancy (someone really close like a sister!) through a holiday card, sent specifically as an announcement that they were expecting.
Would you feel differently if it wasn't someone really close to you? Like a cousin?
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wonderful cherry / 21504 posts
Someone sister close id be confused and maybe a little hurt, unless it was something they only sent to our immediate family or something. But if I found out the same was great aunt Joan did, is be put off. But would get over it.
honeydew / 7622 posts
Ultimately their pregnancy has nothing to do with "me" while I may have been surprised I would not address it and get over it quickly. But my Mom told me my sister was pregnant the first time, the second time she dropped a note in the mail.
wonderful cherry / 21504 posts
@Ajsmommy: one of my friends did this- I ised to see her a lot at play dates but hadn't in a while. So I liked it, I was so excited for them. But that's not the same as a sister.
pineapple / 12234 posts
I would be confused if it was someone I was really close with but I would still excited for them
cantaloupe / 6017 posts
A sibling or best friend I'd be hurt. Anyone else and I'd think it was nice!
pomelo / 5084 posts
We got one of these this year!! Actually I thought it was a ploy for attention and rolled my eyes. Lol
pomelo / 5866 posts
I have had this happen several times-combo pregnancy announcement and Christmas card. I usually knew before the card went out.
grapefruit / 4355 posts
I would be really confused if my sister or someone I was super close to told me that they were pregnant with this method.
pineapple / 12053 posts
someone close, upset and mad (one of my BFFs did this as a joke and i was pissed until i read the back of the card! and i told her as much!); someone not close, excited! we also got one of these cards (from old friends who we moved away from) and i was thrilled for them!
nectarine / 2148 posts
I announced through a holiday card. But I told the people I was really close with personally. I'd be a little confused if it was like a sister, but they could've also tried surprising you. I think it could come across as odd to you because it's through mail. If she tried finding another fun way to surprise you, would you feel differently?
pomegranate / 3845 posts
Hmm. Maybe my announcement idea wasn't such a good idea.
I was thinking of sending Valentine cards with LO in a big brother shirt since we're not local to anyone, nor will we see anyone anytime soon. I was trying to think of something more fun than just a call or text, but it sounds like people will be hurt or think it's a ploy for attention.
Thanks for the honest input, I really appreciate it!
pomelo / 5678 posts
Um, NO I would be thrilled! I wouldn't care how they chose to announce!
pear / 1852 posts
I"d have flashes of tons of different feelings, but really the only folks I feel have a right to be upset they didn't get told in person are your own folks!
persimmon / 1467 posts
I sent a card to my parents with a picture of DS in a big bro sweatshirt as our announcement. I wrote a little note about the next one coming in June. Since mail isn't common I thought it would be fun. They loved it! I think as long as you personalize it, it would be fine. So maybe have the card with a picture and write a note by hand in it. I definitely would not just have a generic picture card with printed text (like must people's christmas cards) and mail that with nothing personalized about it.
coconut / 8483 posts
I think if you're sending the card to a few people as a special announcement, It will be nice!
If you send to a lot of people, some people will think they should have known first, you know?
pomegranate / 3595 posts
@Applesandbananas: I think that is a cute idea for your wider circle but not the close ones. To announce LO#2, I made a video of LO#1 telling the news and sent it to our close family (our parents and siblings). LO%1 was 3 though so she could explain and answer my questions.
grapefruit / 4418 posts
I wouldn't feel anything but happiness for their great news. Their pregnancy, their decision on how, when and who to announce to.
pineapple / 12053 posts
@Applesandbananas: a valentine card is different to me! I send Christmas cards out to a lot of people so it would be weird if I didn't tell close friends before that, and I was also sending it to our pediatrician, ya know? But I don't expect a card around that time of year so i'd be thrilled and not upset at all. I would make it personalized though so it doesn't look like a mass sent thing!
papaya / 10570 posts
It depends.... If it was a generic valentines card that everyone was getting, I would be a little miffed (but still happy). If it was a special "you're going to be auntie again!" card, I would think it was really special.
wonderful pea / 17279 posts
I wouldn't be upset at all. Also, as a sibling that could have just been easily told via phone or text I would love that they sent me an actual card to announce their pregnancy. I mean sending a card is so out of the ordinary for my family, so that would feel extra special in my case.
I don't feel there needs to be a hierarchy of who should know first unless you tell the big mouth that may share your news before you get a chance to!
wonderful clementine / 24134 posts
I think it's great because it's more effort than just a call or text.
pomegranate / 3845 posts
@Cherrybee: that's a great idea, I probably have time to do special ones for the aunts and grandmas!
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
@Applesandbananas: I have a friend that did special Valentines Cards for grandparents to announce #2. She was only 8 weeks so just told grandparents. But it was a picture of LO holding the ultrasound picture and it said something along the lines Make room for one more in your heart.
pineapple / 12566 posts
I think the fact that it's Valentine's cards and still early in you pregnancy is really cute. In the original post, I was imagining Christmas holiday cards and being much further along and having the announcement go out to the whole card list. I don't know anyone who sends Valentine's cards so assume the people you are sending it to are on the "special" list.
pomegranate / 3845 posts
@lamariniere: I was planning to send to 30 friends and family, most of which are siblings, cousins, really close family friends.
pomelo / 5298 posts
I think a Valentine's card is very different from a Christmas card. I say go for it. We announced our second through a photo that was sent via txt or FB messenger.
eggplant / 11861 posts
I think if that is the way one wants to share their news that is their right! I wouldn't be upset at all!!! 
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