So I posted a few months back on my husbands job hunt and how frustrating the experience it was. You guys were so helpful so I wanted to write in again. My husband has gone through a few interviews and has gotten to the last rounds on all. Recently, he found his "dream" job in the same market he is currently in and was referred by a family friend who currently works there. He had a wonderful interview and all looked promising. He even had follow-ups with the gentleman that interviewed him. He was sent the assessment 2 nights ago and took it and felt really good about it. Today, he received an email saying they would be conducting more interviews throughout the remainder of the month but is still in the running. He took it as a nice way of them saying no. He is so disappointed and let down as am I. He is more than qualified for the position and its just so disheartening. How did you bees deal with this? Have you gone with something similar? Hugs to anyone who has because this is so tough.
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I'm so sorry. Mostly I'm here to give virtual hugs and tell you you're not alone. My DH is in a very similar boat, and I commented on your last post too. It's incredibly hard to watch someone you love and who you have so much confidence in be in this kind of a position.
Lots of interviews, final rounds, no offers. I even posted here about how to transition from a SAHD back to a dual WOH family in anticipation of things working out but, yeah. They didn't.We are just kind of chugging along. He goes up and down with being really motivated to find opportunities and apply, and I think every time he is not selcted it gets harder. I just look back at when we made the decision for him to step away from his job and wonder what things would be like now if we had taken other paths. It's not helpful though - so don't go down that road if you can avoid it.
I keep asking questions on how he would like to be supported and follow his lead. I try not to push or pry, and just listen when he needs to vent vs. suggesting fixes. And just being patient with the process myself. I can be mad on his behalf, but there comes a point where it adds to his stress so there's a balance there.
Wishing your DH the best of luck in his next opportunity
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I'm so sorry. Not the same situation but I tried to look for a different job last summer. I applied to well over 50 jobs and I didn't get even one response. Well, I got a few follow ups, maybe 5-10 but I never made it to an in person interview. Thankfully my job situation changed so I stopped looking (then after about 3 months I got a call for an interview.. over 90 days later
)Anyway, hang in there. It sounds like he is getting far and maybe it'll just take a few more. DH's current job interviewed him and then told him they weren't hiring right away. He took another job and then 6 months later they called him up and he decided to take it. He's been there now for 4 yrs and has been promoted 3 times.
Wishing you all the best of luck
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@paigeface: we have unfortunately been through this a couple times - premarraige, after we had kid(s), and again after he went back to school. It was so demoralizing for him and affected other areas of our lives because his self esteem was shot from rejection/no response/not finding the right job. I tried helping him look. He didn’t respond well at times to me offering to look at his emails, interview prep, asking him how interviews went, if he heard back, etc. I learned he’ll let me know when he hears back and he would ask for my opinion at times.
Currently he has a job - it took a couple months after graduating from school. I found the position online, he applied/interviewed/wasn’t excited about the job. It took awhile for them to make an offer but in the end he had 2 positions offered and he is happy - thank goodness. His professor was encouraging to him this last go round - it was nice that he had her to talk through all the applications and no response or rejections. -
@lindseykaye: Sending you hugs as well and thank you so much for your kind words and thoughtful response. It really is so tough to go through. I hope your DH finds something soon as well!!
In a bit of an update, they did reach out and tell him they are looking at other opportunities for him at the same company so I am crossing all my fingers and toes praying big time for him!
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@Ajsmommy: It is really crazy how difficult the job market it these days! It's really depressing. I am glad that your job situation changed allowing you to stay! Also, your story about DH proves that things can happen in there own time. We are trying to be patient
it's just so tough when you are done where you are currently at.
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@autumnleaves: His mood is definitely dependent on if he has heard back or not and it's tough to watch because I know how badly he wants a new opportunity. I like your advice on letting him let you know when he hears etc. and coming to you. I think I am going to try that!
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