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I don't know anything about preemies, so I can't give advice on that. R spit up all the time, it is so hard. Just try and keep her elevated for 15-20 mins after she eats to help.

You will survive with DH gone. Just don't worry if the laundry doesn't get done, the house is a mess, it is ok if you are in your pajama's all day. That matters is that baby and you get food, and sleep when she sleeps!

@littleredhairedgrl: hang in there momma. I am right there with you in spit up land. E has been a spitter since we came home with him. The doctor doesn't seem worried since he is gaining weight. Does your lo seem happy as content otherwise? If not I would phone the doctor and talk to them about it.

Dh and I have always said how is there no manual for a newborn or in E's case a preemie? For me when E came home I was so worried that he wasn't getting enough breast milk because he spit up so much and I had no idea how much he was getting to start with. When he was in the hospital I knew how much he was getting because it was being measured.

Just remember it is perfectly normal to feel overwhelmed in the beginning. While Dh is gone just focus on caring for yourself and your lo, if other things get done great if not no biggie.

When N was a newborn my mom told me that "N is new to this being a baby thing and you are both learning right now. Just remember that N loves you completely." It helped me realize that we were both new to this but above all else there was love.

@littleredhairedgrl: Well R wouldn't nap unless we held her, so it was easier for me. I would make myself for one nap a day nap, otherwise I watched TV. Try at least one a day. Otherwise you are going to crash hard!

Hugs! I broke down so many times because I was so tired of the spit ups. It turns out she has pretty bad reflux ( and colic), and once we got her on prevacid, she was a whole new baby.

I dealt with sever spit up for the first 12 months of LO's life, it was heartbreaking, I feel your pain. SHe was going through 4-5 outfits a day and then all of a sudden one day stopped. I do think you need to try and rest, it will help if you have some sleep! And if you have a friend or family member close by that can come help relieve you when your DH travels that will help keep you sane.

I'm sorry! It's hard! My LO's crazy spit up ended up being MSPI; it's so frustrating when you're just trying to figure it out. For what it's worth my eldest is 3 and I still have days when I feel like I have no idea what I'm doing. Hang in there!

I don't have any advice because I never really got past the clueless stage.... which is what Im coming here to say....Its ok, you're not supposed to know what you're doing and the second you get the hang of it, those pesky babies change and you feel clueless again. Hugs.