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Definitely not at 2 weeks!!! Hold and snuggle your baby as much as you can and want!!!

I don't think you can spoil a newborn. Most Pedi's say babies can't be spoiled until after 6 months when they start learning cause and effect.

You are not going to spoil a 2 week old! We comfort our 11 week old still to help soothe her. They don't know how to do it and need help. What I wonder when people say things like that is, do you want me to just let her cry?? Not going to happen this young.

I saw the title and immediately scoffed!! haha.

No freakin way.

I literally held my son every waking moment (an actually thru the night too) from birth to 6 weeks! Then he learned to nap on his own. Now at 6 months, he is already learning how to be independent. I can set him down and he will play on his own for 10 to 30 minutes which I think is pretty good for his age.

I don't think it's possible before the first year really.

No way! Their brain develops from your affection and physical interaction! You're doing the right thing, don't worry.

@Ree723: I agree - it's not so much spoiling as it is getting the baby used to certain behaviors. And even so, you are the parent and the choice is yours, so if you disagree with your stepmom, then definitely don't let her opinion make you second-guess yourself.

LOL. I think your stepmom's response actually proved your point! "You can spoil your kids. Just wait..." ...Until they're several years older!

No, you can't spoil a newborn. That is ridiculous! I held Sawyer constantly for the first 10 weeks of his life, he seriously didn't nap anywhere but snuggled up with me. At about 10 weeks I started working on transitioning him to the crib for naps, and he naps awesome there now. He is just secure and happy. Not spoiled in the least.

Nope I say hold them all you want. My twins were colicky and the only thing that soothe them was me walking or nursing them. We had no problem getting them in their cribs later. People told me that all the time and I ignored them. At that young they don't need to self soothe. So snuggle and cuddle away momma

no way! I snuggled my LO at every opportunity, rocked and nursed him to sleep and he's the most independent little 8 month old ever! he likes to play with his toys on his own, falls asleep no problem, etc

YOU CAN'T. OMG, your babies are only weeks old! You do whatever you need to do!!!

At 2 weeks I don't know that either of my lo's had been put down for more than it took to change her! I see nothing wrong with it

I think you got lots of good advice from pps and I want to echo that you absolutely cannot spoil a baby...while there is debate about if the age at which you are at risk of spoiling is 6-12 mos, you are clearly a long way from there.

I also wanted to say that my LO sounds like your fussier one--we held her or wore her for almost all naps for most of the first three months, and were gradually able to transition her to napping lying down. So it is possible and you will be able to do it when your LO is ready!

I agree with everyone else you can't spoil a newborn! Your baby lives in the moment and doesn't remember that you were already holding him 10 min ago let alone 2 hous ago! Hold your little men as much as you want/need/can! And don't listen to unconstructive comments. On a side note my mil told me I should put my 1 wk old in the living room to let her CIO so I could get sleep - ridiculous!

Hold/wear that baby! Can't spoil them. Do you know any 30 year olds that need their mom to hold them because they were "spoiled" at 2 weeks? No.

No, you can't spoil a newborn! My husband and I were just talking about this the other night. We both realized that babies really don't truly know their surroundings until around 3 months of age. So we decided that from birth to 3 months, we'll do whatever it takes for the baby and for us to get a good night's rest. We're currently co-sleeping with my daughter and it's AWESOME. She's 5 weeks old and is sleeping 6 hours at night. No way am I changing that for anything in the world!

I think that different people do things differently and all babies need different things. My daughter is very independent and hasn't liked to be held a lot from the very beginning. She's happy as a clam in my lap doing her own thing, but she will not let me snuggle/cradle her. She gets fussy and we lay her down somewhere and she will stop. She just wants to be on her own sometimes.

Some babies need the security of being close to a parent. Some want to be held and cuddled. I think it all comes down to personality.

Personally... I don't think you can spoil a newborn but I do think that you can encourage bad habits.

@googly-eyes: baby nurses have a lot more experience with babies that are a bit older. They're not always right, but I've come to trust them on certain topics like this one!

I agree with a lot of the comments above. You can't spoil a baby but you can develop habits and condition them. That said, I think snuggles are wonderful for bonding so I'm a big fan!