We still don't have any formal diagnosis for my son but I wish I read this last year when I was beginning to wonder about certain subtle behaviors in my son. I relate to the feeling that he meets some criteria but in so many areas he doesn't at all. I relate to the grieving period and then the period where you understand that this is who your child is and that is wonderful and special. I love how she ends it with so much hope and encouragement. I hope this helps someone who might share concerns or anyone who doesn't understand that a child can be autistic and still be funny, affectionate, chatty, intelligent, physically advanced and so many of the wonderful qualities our children have. It's a complicated and misunderstood diagnosis. I was as surprised as anyone.