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@Cherrybee: Just started..so pretty easy so far. Hoping work will keep me busy. I have bw due Cd 21 to confirm ovulation and I'm wondering if they'll try to run a pregnancy test too although 7 dpo would seem way too early to tell anything. I saw a big drop in your chart today. I bet that's your o drop. How exciting!

@marionberry: No, I think the temp drop was just my temp going back to normal after my over sleeping and drinking at the weekend! 35.9 degrees C is a fairly standard pre-O temp for me - the temps prior to that are crazy high!! Good news about the bw to confirm O - it's good you're finally getting some help to see what's going on in there! Yeah, 7DPO would be really early to test.

@chibee: Yeah! If I tell him I'm definately Oing, he does what he needs to. The only worry is that it'll still take me a few days to O - he gets a bit annoyed with me waving positive pee sticks at him night after night!

I really, really hope you get your BFP this cycle. I want it for all of us, so much!!

@chibee: Nooooo

@chibee: Don't lose hope. It's still early (12dpo, right?). Are you definitely going to put ttc on hold after this?

@Mrs squirreld: That looks like it was an implantation dip to me. This is a very good sign so stay positive!
@Chibee: Having wondfos does make it so that you feel like you could test all the time. I have the same problem. And yes, the TWW is horrendous! I'm just starting it lol.

@chibee: I totally understand. Last cycle I was super busy at work and the days raced by but this TWW I don't have quite as much to do and it's like the clock just takes forever to tick by. At least you're a few days away from an answer either way. I hope it's positive news for you.

Girls, I’m having a nightmare here!! I got my first positive OPK on Sunday. I told DH and he willingly BD’d twice that day! I should have told him he didn’t need to do it twice but I thought maybe he actually wanted to??? I don’t know. Anyway, yesterday, my temp was still at a pre-O level and I got another positive OPK. I told DH that evening that he needed to save some energy for me and he was all “Uhh, really? But I’m so tired”. I made a joke of it – but last night was actually horrible – he was forcing himself to BD but he made no attempt to hide how much he didn’t want to – sighing, grumbling – flopping down half way through and telling me he didn’t have the energy to do it anymore. I can tell you, nothing makes you feel so attractive as your own husband clearly not wanting you at all…. I kept my chin up, laughed it off and made him finish the deed – but I was pretty upset to be honest; not angry with him at all, just…. Well, I just felt so un-sexy. Anyway, this morning, you guessed it – my flaming temp is still down!!! Which means, really, we need to BD tonight as well. And I’m scared to tell him. This happens to me every month – why can’t my husband actually enjoy BD with me?? I mean, come on, once a night for a few nights shouldn’t be that much of a hardship – once upon a time, he actually wanted to…. but I feel like that stopped before we even started TTC. It just makes me so sad.

@marionberry: Thank you. It does help to know I'm not alone. I just thought TTC would be this exciting and liberating experience, that it would reignite the passion for us..... but instead, I'm having to beg for BD while he plays games on his phone or reads a book night after night. Tragic, really. We've only been married 7 months - where is the desire?? I'm sure he had it for me once? Now I'm just a chore; a chore he can put off the rest of the month but has to suffer if he wants a baby. I really hope this isn't how he feels - but I'm so scared it is.

I can do everything else myself - taking my vitamins, waking up to take my tep every morning, charting, peeing on sticks - the only thing I can't do for myself is provide the sperm. I get a few days every 5 weeks to make a baby.... it's just so unfair...

Sorry, I'm just grotty today. Two of my friends started their maternity leave yesterday and FB was full of "I'm nesting" and "I'm washing tiny baby clothes" statuses. Plus, I got an email this morning from an online service I signed up to, telling me I'm 11 weeks pregnant and what to expect. Except I'm not. I really do need to workout how to unsubscribe.

So yeah, just feeling really rubbish about it all today - being a grotbag.

@cherrybee: No worries. I've felt everything you're feeling many times. DH and I didn't get busy all that often right before we got married but when we started trying to get pregnant we BD'd all the time. It was like BD'ing so often during the prime times spilled over into BD'ing often the whole month. But it has gotten to the point where now he's just so depressed about no baby that it's really work to get him to BD...and he always seems so confused as to why we need to BD that day even when I tell him. It's annoying. But I can definitely understand where you're coming from. I would talk to your DH and explain to him how you're feeling. I used to be the "DH of our relationship" and we set an amount of times we'd like to get busy each week so that I was never letting him down. We don't need to do that anymore, but it helped me make sure I was meeting his needs. If DH could do that for you it could help...and like I said above, I found that once we were BD'ing a lot, it just never stopped.

I too have a lot of frustration geared at not being able to control baby making. I've controlled every aspect of my life. If I wanted a man, I went after him, if I wanted a job I worked hard to get it, but here, with wanting a baby, there is nothing more I can do and I can't do it without DH. This is why the failed SA attempts last week killed me. He is the other piece of the puzzle and I need him to do his part.

FB is really hard too and I try to ignore all the baby posts and photos but it's hard. I can imagine it's doubly hard getting that info about being 11 weeks pregnant. I can't imagine how that hurt and yes, you should definitely figure out how to unsubscribe or it may get worse.

In the end, I'm totally here for you and feel free to vent any time you feel bad! On a side note, when did you get married? We're approaching 7 months on the 14th so we can't be that far behind you. Thinking of you! *Hugs*

Oh and @marionberry: we got married 30th March this year. You must have got married two weeks later? I had such a come-down after the wedding it was unreal! Post-nuptual depression! I'm much better now but it hit me hard for about 4 months - I just felt so.... deflated!!! My big day was all over and it was back to the grind! People kept saying "how's married life?" - and I just thought "the same as unmarried life only with nothing left to look forward to". And all the nudge nudge wink winking, like we were going to be swinging from the chandeliers - it just wasn't happening and it made me worry that we weren't normal newly weds.

Anyway, I'm much, much better now and, honestly, enjoying being married. I love my little house and I love my husband (even if I do moan about him!)!

@Mrs squirreld: What great news! I hope it really is a pregnancy! How great would that be?! What did Jenny Renny predict for you?
@cherrybee: I'm glad that you guys talked through things. Being open and honest always helps us too. I too had a bit of a depression after marriage...it was like the thing to look forward to was gone and now I was really stuck with one person for the rest of my life. I think that had to do with my childhood. But after a month I started to feel much better. I hate when people ask you how's married life...I was like, the same as before marriage?! Literally no change haha other than getting used to being called a different name. Crossing my fingers your temp goes up tomorrow!!!
@chibee: I'm sorry about the temp drop today.
@ladybee: you're right, it only takes once..look at us...we've done it like 10 times and still gotten nothing. Crossing my fingers for my TWW buddy.

@Mrs squirreld: downward temps aren't typically good, but you can never tell because there are so many instances were people have huge drops and then huge rises back. Until it's below cover line you're definitely safe.

@mrssquirreld, @cherrybee: Just a question, do you guys (in other countries) pay attention on days like today where we have a national election or not? Just curious.

@Mrs squirreld: I just saw someone else say that on HB and I was so surprised! I'd love to see that, but in America we're not really good at holding individuals accountable for much in my opinion. I love to vote, but in my state I'm a minority, so it never really counts. Polling booths in hospitals sounds so crazy!