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If you think you're going to win a battle against your baby, you're not. As told to me by my Mother when I was having a bad day with sleep!

The first weeks, even months will be the hardest of your life thus far. You will cry. You will break down. It's OK. It's normal.

And if you don't experience any of that? You are one God damn lucky mama! LOL

Trust your instincts. If it feels wrong, it probably is. If it feels right, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Sometimes babies just need to see a new face.

A friend told me that to explain why LO would cry and cry at home with me all day but not when people would come over. It made me feel so much better. It was also good motivation to get out and have some play dates.

The beginning is rough, but it will get better.

Trust yourself.

Don't google!

@yerpie110: LOL!

Every baby is different! (aka they don't all love/hate the same things)

These are great

Try not to obsess. Know that even though each day stretches out into seeming oblivion, the time will fly by. The days are long and the months are a blur. If you are struggling, do what you need to do to see the light at the end of the tunnel (for me, it was spending time with my friend and her 2.5 year old son, which was proof that my infant son would some day not be quite as mysterious and scary and that eventually it would get easier).

Not everything you swore you were going to do (ie. breastfeeding, cloth diapering, baby wearing, etc) while you were pregnant will work out. That's okay. Just do what you need to. There's no shame or guilt in that.

Keep an open mind!

I think the most useful thing I could say is that all babies are different!

You're the mom, not everyone else who is giving you their advice

I would tell her that everything is a phase and every phase is short lived - the good and the bad. You're baby is sleeping well - phase! Don't be surprised when it ends. Baby is a good eater? Phase! Don't be shocked when he/she turns picky! But when your baby wakes ten times a night or screams when you leave the room, take heart - it's just a phase like all the others and it.will.pass.

Begin as you mean to go on.

Trust your instinct!!

Even though you are a 1st time mom and you have no experience YOU still know your baby the best!

Cut yourself some slack.

And if you're overwhelmed with a fussy day, it's okay to let the baby cry for a minute while you just walk away to collect yourself. Sit on the front porch for a minute, sit in the bathroom and just breathe in the steam, whatever. Baby will be fine, and you'll be calmer when your return after a few minutes.

trust your gut

PPD/PPA is nothing to be ashamed of. Don't be stubborn and try to tough your way through. You deserve to be happy so you can enjoy that little baby!