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i was spanked as a kid, and i plan to spank my kids.

I was only sPanked a couple times. My brother got it more than I but he was a little ADHD and more difficult for my parents to handle. My dad stopped spanking us when we were little because his father was abusive and he didn't want to turn into his father. My mother continued a little longer. I don't plan to spank unless it is something really serious like running into the road and I need to get my LO's attention. But we may not at all either. I guess I'm undecided. DS hits (he is 15 mos) and used to bite (while teething) and I just try to model the behavior I want and verbally corerect the unwanted behavior.

I was spanked and I definitely plan on spanking my children. However, my parents used a spoon/belt/switch and I plan on using my hand.

I was spanked... Often in anger... Sometimes inconsistently... It undermined my self-worth and made me into an angry kid. None of that was intended and my parents tried to do what was right. At that time no one knew the negative consequences.

I was spanked as a kid and don't plan on spanking.

I think I was spanked maybe 3 times in my life? I certainly wasn't traumatized or at all negatively effected by it. But I think just a couple times of actual spanking made the threat of a spanking equally as effective. I plan to spank but only in very limited circumstances as I explained on the other thread.

I was spanked one time for wandering off in a store when I was four years old (after my mom told me, week after week, to stop disappearing when we were out shopping). I never did it again. I wouldn't say I "plan" to spank, but if the situation warrants it, I absolutely would.

I was spanked and always thought I would. After reading some alternative disciplinary actions here on HB, I'm going to try those first, but spanking isn't out of the question.

We were both spanked and both plan on spanking. We have had many lengthy discussions about making sure we don't spank out of anger. We like the idea of putting our daughter in time out and using that as a time out for us as well. We'll take a few minutes to pray and calm down and return to our daughter and spank then. It's important to us that she knows we're not doing it out of anger but out of love and what we think is best for her.

We believe that if we spank her when she's younger and really focus on discipline when she's little there are a lot less issues to deal with when spanking could negatively effect her self esteem and self worth.

Both my husband and I were spanked only a couple times as children, but we don't believe in spankings for our own children. I don't think either of us were negatively affected by the spankings; it's just not something we believe in, as parents.

Also, Mrs. Bee, my dad's lectures were SOOOOO much worse than a spanking! Once I asked him for a spanking, just so I didn't have to sit through his lecture (he declined, btw)!

I was spanked as a child and I don't remember feeling anger or resentment towards my parents for spanking me. I DO remember fearing them though. But I think that's what made us obedient. There were a lot of times when I would want to do something disobedient, but then I think about the consequences (spanking!) so I would refrain. I think the punishment needs to be harsh enough for kids to fear it. I'm hoping that the fear of God will be enough for my kids to obey so that I don't have to resort to harsher methods!

I was never spanked, and I turned out fine - I don't plan to spank.

I watch MIL spank 3 y/o nephew and it just pisses him off - does not really make him listen.

@MsMamaBear: omg seriously, the "look" stopped us dead in our tracks. also - "okay, well just wait til Dad comes home. he'll love to hear about this!" scared the bejeebus out of us. not because he did anything bad - but he had a really scary quiet voice!!

I was spanked and spank my LO. The only difference is I don't plan on using implements to spank. My mom spanked with wooden/plastic spoons. She had one on each floor of the house, for real! We were bad. LOL

Both DH and I were spanked, and we will not be spanking our children.
And I have to agree with Mrs. Jacks - although that sounds good in theory, it doesn't make sense for a young child. They will be deeply confused by a parent "calmly and lovingly" hitting them.