do you say anything? Examples...clip too low, forward facing younger than a year...etc.
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@matador84: as much as I want to, I don't.
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No.
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Nope.
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Nope.
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@Applesandbananas: I don't either.
Yes...a child's life could be at risk...but I feel like it isn't my place as their parent.
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I haven't because you don't know if they are just taking a picture quick and going to fix it or what. If I was gonna say something, I would message them not call them out in a comment.
I do point out to people at the store who put their infant buckets on the top of the cart that the seat specifically says not to do that (at some stores) and tell them they should put the baby in the basket.
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Nope. I probably should, but I usually keep my mouth shut.
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I don't but I do post all kinds of car seat safety things and post it to my fellow mommas. I guess I do in a very passive way.
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Depends who it is. Family or close friend? Yes I would say something. Anyone else, prob not.
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Nope
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Nope
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Nope
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nope!
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No. I'm pretty sure my BIL has his son illegally in a booster seat instead of a convertible car seat and I haven't said anything. (I've seen it in person.) It's just a hard thing to say besides, his reason for the booster seat is complicated. I know that doesn't make my nephew any safer but it's just hard to say something.
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Nope
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No.
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Nope, not on social media.
I did once, in person, to one of my sisters because her daughter was hardly even buckled in, it was so unsafe. I didn't make a big deal and just showed her the proper way- I don't think she was offended because now she shares car seat safety links on Facebook!
I will say, I think it's a mom to mom issue though. My husband approached my brother in law about it last month and it was just so nonchalant and he took it just fine. That was funny to me.
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Not specifically, but I post a lot of car seat safety information.
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I have on a few occasions, but not always. I corrected my SIL once in person because she was simultaneously doing 4-5 things wrong. I was really gentle about it, but she didn't take it well. I saw her post other pics and videos on facebook after that and did not correct her again.
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Nope
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I did once when a friend forward-faced her 8 month old baby.
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No, and to be honest I unfollow/block people who post excessively about child safety in general.
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I don't know that I've ever seen it.
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I've never seen it either.
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Nope. Barring abuse, how other people parent isn't my business. There are plenty of choices people make that I don't think are the best. Clearly, they disagree. And I think it's condescending for me to presume their ignorance.
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Occasionally I will make a comment like "cute baby, be safe!"
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I want to but I never have. And I see something that I want to correct almost everyday on FB. Forward facing too soon, straps super loose or not even on their shoulders, clip all the way at the bottom. Drives me crazy.
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I would never on social media, but I don't have a personal FB, I'd rather be blissfully unaware of what people are up to all the time. It's a pitfall of our generation. I think in person redirection with a person you have a good relationship might be ok, but it may not.
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Nope...and it was my sister-in-law (DH's said) with my niece. Forward facing at 1 year. Fingernails on chalkboard!
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I post a lot of car seat info, but I am not going to discuss it on facebook with someone. It is too touchy of a subject and I don't want to lose friends over it, but then again it is a life&death issue and really wish I had the guts to speak up to people about it. I have 3 friends in particular who are always posting pics of their kids who have SUPER loose straps or who are forward facing before even 1 year, etc and yet they "like" my posts on car seat safety and one even bragged about how her hospital had techs show her "everything she needed to know about carseats". *sigh*
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This was Probably ready talked about on HB but does the question stem from this?
https://www.yahoo.com/parenting/facebook-photo-could-have-saved-kids-life-104175189172.html
I haven't seen anyone post pics of unsafe car seats. But I did tell my sister I thought she forward faced too soon. She didn't listen but at least i tried
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Nope, but there are times I wanted to! The law in Australia is that kids only have to rear face until 6 months so nearly all of my Aussie friends had their babies forward facing once they hit the six month mark. I kept my LO RF until 22 months and only ever said anything if someone made a comment to me first about how I should have my LO forward facing by now. In that situation (happened a few different times), I just said that the research I have done shows babies are safer RF until two, and left it at that. It's pretty hard to convince people that the law of their country is not in accordance with what is safest for their babies.....
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I would probably not even notice if something was wrong. I focus on the cute babe who is supposed to be the star of the photo. In general I think we overestimate risks, especially related to parenting, in this country.
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Nope. If I saw something in person, though, (depending on who it is) I would cheerfully mention something.
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No, I actually did one time and you would have thought I punched her baby in the face the way she responded. Since then I haven't said anything to anyone else online about it.
My SIL though, omg. She constantly brings her LO around in her infant seat and I have never (not exaggerating) seen her properly in the seat. I could fit my entire fist between her chest and the straps they were so loose. They're hanging off of her shoulders down by her elbow. I've told her, DH has told her, I've shown her & so has DH.. she just refuses to fix it and it's really starting to piss me off because it's a serious safety concern. She will have her LO in the seat with a big huge winter bunting on and the straps are still hanging off of her. I'm not a stickler about ERF and all of that, but c'mon..
@MrsLilybugg: such a good article because she's right, if more people weren't so scared of being attacked for trying to be helpful, or if less people were so defensive about their parenting choices then I'm sure a lot of people could benefit from actual useful information. Sometimes you have to be a big girl and realize that you may not know everything about safety, parenting, whatever.. It doesn't make you any less of an amazing mother, but how can people learn proper car seat safety (or other new things) if we're all so scared to try and help each other? It's tough!
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@MrsLilybugg: @MrsTiz: in that particular case, the father (who didn't post the pic) had buckled the child in only at the arm straps. I don't see how someone saying something to her on Facebook would have changed the outcome.
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I don't- but I also don't know when they snapped the photo, like if the straps are loose or the clip is low, maybe they just took the photo right as they got in the car before they tightened everything. The only thing I do see is babies FF before two, and really, I think that is more of a judgment call. I don't know their reasons for turning. My ped mentions at every visit that she should RF until two, so I just trust that someone has told that mom and she decided for herself.
@MrsLilybugg: I read that article and I agree that sometimes people are afraid to speak up, in this case the baby was hardly strapped in at all and the driver ran a stop sign. It wasn't because he was FF too soon, everything was wrong. Misleading article I think.
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@MrsLilybugg: no I hadn't seen that. I just got into a debate with a friend about if someone posts on Facebook a pic of a their child with clip too low, etc., would I say something. I said I wouldn't and she said she would if the life of the baby was at risk.
I don't know the context of the picture so that is why I wouldn't have said anything...so she and I have to agree to disagree.
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I have only said something once through a private message. An acquaintance was getting ready to leave the hospital with her baby and posted a picture of him with the hip straps underneath his thighs so I let her know EXTREMELY gently.. she was happy I did and was upset because the nurse had checked him and not noticed or said anything (!). Ever since, all her pictures look good!
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