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We just got off the fence! Basically I hate babies, haha. Once LO started getting more interactive and fun, talking, and most importantly, SLEEPING, we realized how awesome it is having kids and want more. She'll be 2 next week so we're almost ready to start TTC. Need to get finances in order first.

I think it directly relates to sleep too! On the days she sleeps well I'm like, alright, I can do this again! On the days that I'm so sleep deprived I tell myself I never want to do this again haha!

But technically I'm not really on the fence since we'll def go to #2 eventually...

We're still on the fence, but I think our on-the-fenceness relates directly to illness at this point. DS is always freaking sick and I seriously have no idea how people with more than 1 child deal with it. I'm already so behind at work from being out with him. If I make it to work a full week, it's a miracle. I think it's going to just take a leap of faith. Maybe next year ( I keep saying that). Ha Ha.

We were never really on the fence because we always planned and were committed to having two. But definitely after number one, we didn't feel that excitement that we felt when we were thinking about trying and then actually trying for number one. The whole process was more like "Well, we said we'd do this and I think we'll regret not doing this, so let's just do it and hope for the best." Now that our family of four is complete, I have zero regrets! But it definitely was an entirely different experience and set of emotions planning for #2 vs #1.

If there were a way to just pop out a one year old, I totally would. Having to have a newborn is literally the only thing on the "con" side of our pro/con list on having #2. I'm so in love with my daughter, but the little baby stage was not my favorite and I definitely don't have baby fever!

We have friends who have a 4 year old and a 2 year old and seeing them together recently was what got us to start TTC #2. I agree with some previous posts that our inspiration is really "We always said we wanted two, and we'll regret not trying."

I'm not sure we quite fit who you were asking, since we don't have a LO here yet. But we recently changed our minds (okay, I changed my mind) and now plan to be one and done. DH was always fine with one, and I was the one wanting two (which he was willing to do, but it's wasn't his first choice), so it was on me. Reading a thread on here about why people chose to only have one really made me question why I wanted two. And I realized that I basically had no real reasons beyond the fact that as an only I'd always assumed I'd have more. I think the fact that my mom always wished she'd been able to have more probably influenced that. I wound up with this huge list of reasons why I would much rather stop at one, and basically no reasons why I would want two. I'm thinking once LO is here, and I'm not sleep deprived, there may wind up being an emotional component, where I want another baby just because. But I feel pretty strongly that that won't outweigh my reasons to not. I did a (long) blog post on it, so if you're interested in seeing my actual reasons, I can wall you with the link.

I wasn't on the fence about having a second--but I was really on the fence about being pregnant again and having a newborn again, haha. As other PPs have said, the newborn days are not my favorite--and you can add the entire 10 months of pregnancy to that, too. So it's a long time of somewhat-misery to have another child.

Having said that, I figure in 30 years, it will be a blip on the radar of my life. I knew we wanted at least two, so DH and I both decided we wanted to 'get it over with' rather than having a longer space between kiddos.

We still sometimes talk about having a third, but I have always wanted to adopt (even before I met DH) and recently, his closest cousin adopted and now DH is starting to come around on that. So in a few years, we might look into adopting through the foster care system.

We have an almost 3 year old only right now and we're pretty sure we're staying there. I honestly cannot handle another 9 months of pregnancy and working and another 10 months of working and pumping. It's just impossible for me right now with my current work situation (absolutely no flexibility whatsoever).

Ahaha yes! My 'readiness' is 100% correlated to how well W is sleeping. We decided to table it until W is about 3 and potty trained and more independent. I want to be sure I feel ready for the sleepless newborn days and have given W a good deal of 1:1 time beforehand!

We weren't on the fence necessarily. It was more of a matter of timing for us. I worked hard to lose weight to prepare for pregnancy for about a year. After doing that, we decided a date to go off birth control (a friend's wedding). In the end, our timing on it is perfect. My maternity leave got extended last month and there will be a 3 year age gap.

We went for it. She's the best. I'm obviously glad we did