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Jealous to "share" my pregnancy

  1. Happygal

    pomelo / 5000 posts

    @Mrs. Microscope: I get it! We went through IF treatments and I wanted to experience this first-time pregnancy by myself. And then I felt guilty for those "selfish" types of feelings, making things even worse. I worried that my friends/family members who were pregnant for the second time wouldn't have the same sense of wonder, that they would tell me what to expect, what to do, or be dismissive. "Oh, yeah, I worried about that the first time, but now I just don't have the time!"

    So I get it.

    As I got further along in my pregnancy, another friend did get pregnant for her second time. We had fun talking pregnancy talk. My pregnancy was still very special to me. It was all good.

  2. JennyLayneAZ

    nectarine / 2690 posts

    I'm the opposite! All my friends already have kids and I keep trying to convince them to have another so that my (to be conceived..) child will have a friend LOL

  3. peaches1038

    nectarine / 2047 posts

    @Mrs. Microscope: I get it! My SIL is pregnant with her second and due like two weeks after is. I'm pregnant with my first. She knew we were expecting and she announced her pregnancy to all of her family and on Facebook before we did. I totally get the "she had her turn" feelings. And like you, I'm thrilled that she is pregnant and I feel selfish for having these feelings. When we did announce at 12 weeks (she announced at 8), almost every comment on their side was about how we are pregnant together and not about our baby. I just do not want them lumped together and compared for the rest of their lives. But whatever, I'm blaming the hormones for my feelings!

  4. mrscobee

    clementine / 903 posts

    @peaches1038: I know people can't live their whole lives for others, but that's kind of crappy that she did an early announcement when she knew yours was forthcoming when she was due after you! I would be pissed! Like really, she couldn't have waited a few more weeks?!

  5. ninja

    kiwi / 691 posts

    @JennyLayneAZ: I'm with you on that one!! Most of my friends are older and done having kids..I was kinda sad to not share my pregnancy with someone else.

  6. peaches1038

    nectarine / 2047 posts

    @mrscobee: Yeahhhhh I was not pleased. Thankfully we live far away from them so I don't have to deal with it all the time.


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