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Co-sleeping with our almost 15-month-old and the fact that I still nurse her 2x a day.

I've also been judged about the fact that I don't give her little pops on her hand for discipline and because her ears aren't pierced. WHAT?

I don't FEEL a lot of judgment in my everyday life. Mexicans are not too judgy about mamas. But there's certainly a lot of potential...in... like... everything! LOL
sleep training one, not sleep training the other!
what they eat (too much junk! or too anal according to some people!)
cosleeping, extended breastfeeding
peeing in the street.

Pretty much everything.

My kid has been up since 8 this morning and has been playing online (kid sites, like disney jr and pbs kids) all morning. But, it's rainy and we all feel like lazy slobs...even the dogs.

I think some of my friends think I'm too crunchy (extended BFing, cloth diapers, etc).

Not breastfeeding any of my 3 children
Not cosleeping
Not having to sleep train because we never allowed bad sleep habits to be formed while infants.
Being too lenient about what they do or don't eat.
Being a working mom
My kids not having the same dad...
I could probably go on and on

-co-sleeping/bed sharing when she was younger. (we still co-sleep sometimes!
- we're pretty strict about bedtime & nap time schedules. do NOT mess with her sleep!

Probably everything at some point. I recognize everyone has a different idea of what is right.

oh and DEFINITELY for being a working mom. That's the biggest one.
"You're going back to WORK? WHAAAATT?? What about the baaaaaby?"
"Baby needs mommy to pay the bills! And mommy's job gives baby health insurance!" Aargh.

I think other parents judge me because I am strict on what LO eats, I got a few weird looks when I reminded the daycare teacher that I dont want my LO eating cheerios.

Some days my LO wears onesies that have food stains. I used to feel bad about this but I got baby Oxy stain remover so that has been fixed

LO has a lot of hair and it tends to get messy fast...

Are you talking on here or IRL?

IRL, I think people are judging me for cosleeping, not sleep training, and not feeding purees.

@cmomma17: I got the opposite about working! I talked and debated a lot about staying home and I got a lot of push back that I should continue to work!

Co-sleeping, cloth diapers, breastfeeding, not wanting him to watch tv.... I've gotten comments on all of the above. But who cares? I do what works for us (I never intended to co-sleep!) and I don't judge other people for doing what works for them because, lets be real, being a mom is hard no matter how you slice it.

I feel like I get judged by strangers because lo is black and I'm white. People who know us are happy for us, but I've had my eyes opened.

People who know us judge me for letting him nap on his tummy. He sleeps better that way and I'm always in the same room while he does it. What. Ev.

I probably get judged on just about every one of my parenting decisions, it just depends who's watching, lol. I give my kid a splash of juice in his water, but still breastfeed him. I cloth diaper and baby wear but he has his own tablet. I let him try sweets and candy but did baby led weaning and don't ever plan on giving him cow milk.

Literally there is probably something I do that you could judge me for no matter what your beliefs of you felt inclined to judge!

DS is a really active, happy, loud 16 month old. I've definitely been judged by other moms by how active he is. One mom actually wondered out loud how I manage?!" I'm sorry but my son is a totally normal kid.
Also we still breastfeed and I get judged for that, especially by my boss.

I know for a fact one of my friends judges me for bring DS to a wine bistro/restaurant here to meet up with friends. I just have a glass of wine or two with friends after work...it's not like I'm getting drunk. DH lives/works out of town so I really have to get out of the house. She thinks it's trashy but I don't see her raising a kid pretty much alone either....and she wonders why she doesn't get invited out with us!

Some people at work have told me to give up pumping and just formula feed and of course I should quit breastfeeding at 10 months.

-Taking her food to daycare instead of feeding her daycare provided food.
-Sending her milk instead of using daycare's milk.
-Feeding her a McDonald's hamburger. Feeding her FRIED chick fil a chicken strips.
-Rear-facing carseat until she's 15.
-Breastfeeding at 13 months.
-That she's not STTN at 13 months.
-Cutting her food too small
-Hovering too much

Well, my best friend doesn't judge me but we parent very similarly. My other friend I have no idea what she thinks. I judge her like crazy.

Things I likely get judged for:
We are not clean people. My husbands room in college was literally a pile of clothes and crap. Like the bed and the clothes were at the same level.

I breastfed to 2 years old.

We co-sleep still at 2 years old. I do this because I like it. I like knowing if there was a fire or earthquake I can just grab him and run/roll/hide. I can't imagine trying to get him from his room.

Going out of town for activities for him. If there was anything in town I wouldn't have to go out of town would I.

Oh I forgot the rear-facing carseat at 2. I mentioned it to his preschool and all of the teachers looked at me like I'm crazy. My dude is a peanut and is barely past the weight limit anyway. I'm keeping him there for as long as I can because I like my kid alive.

Probably formula feeding and cloth diapering? And I know that a lot of my friends who don't have kids think it's crazy that LO is on a schedule where she goes to bed at 7pm. I'll admit it's limiting, but I do NOT do well with sleep deprivation and I cherish her 7pm-7:30am sleep time. And no, I will not be doing anything to jeopardize it, lol!