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we waited until we were ready this time, but we also had a timeline in mind (waiting for some career changes to happen). it took 2 1/2 years before I felt like I really wanted another. It was two years before I could even consider it without a feeling of panic.

because our plan is for at least three kids, we have an agreement that we will pull the goalie at around 14 months, knowing that we will NOT feel ready for another baby. But because of our family plans/timelines we need to have the third sooner rather than later. I figure I will have the whole pregnancy to adjust to the idea and get myself "ready."

Our logic was: we don't want our kid to be an only child. No one else (in our family) wants him to be an only child. But I hate pregnancy and newborn life. Oh well, let's get it over with.

I wish we'd started earlier since DS is a pretty good kid and a good sleeper. But it took a while before I could handle the thought of being pregnant again, and I wanted a summer baby since I am self employed and that is my slowest season.

I dont know that we were ever fully "ready" for a second or had mastered the first. But we knew we wanted another and knew we wanted them relatively close in age. However at 2 losses we really started to consider just being thankful for the one we had.

It's definitely more " we know we want another one so let's go for it" that anything else. We waited a really long time to ttc the first time because of my grad school trajectory, so I was like dying of impatience by the time we actually started trying, so it def feels different this time! We had a chemical in February though so I'm starting to feel more impatient again, which is I think a good thing. We will really feel more ready the next time i get pregnant (fingers crossed/knock on wood)

We knew we wanted 2-3 kids and just like when we TTC our first I had set goals I wanted to accomplish before getting pregnant. I felt like I lost over a year of my life to pregnancy and newborn-ness. This time around my parameters were/are 1. one year of sleeping through the night (she didnt start sleeping through the night consistantly until 15m) 2. Adults only vacation (Punta Cana last April) 3. Move to a bigger house on a quieter street (our house is listed - crossing our fingers) 4. Potty train and move to a big girl bed (work in progress) 5. Loose 20lbs past my pre-pregnancy weight (i'm working on it i'm almost down to pre-preg weight)

I was in camp "wait til we've mastered this one" but that time never came. I knew I wanted to give E a sibling - I hated being an only - but the decision to add to our family seemed absurd, given how much we were both struggling. Eventually, we feared the age gap was getting too big and put it in the hands of fate - two cycles of NTNP and the rest is history. Baby #2 is due any day now and I'm terrified, but I'm glad we did it. I look forward to the future, with my two potty trained, STTN, able to tell me what they need, daughters by my side.

We know we want another one, and we want a 2.5 age gap, so we'll be TTC towards the end of summer when DD is 20 months. And the logic for the age gap is just that I want to enjoy this "easy" period, I want more quality time w/ just DD, I want a summer baby, financially it's a little easier with them a little further apart... My thinking is that if we don't get pregnant right away then it'll just move towards a 3 yr gap which I am ok with.

we knew we wanted a second and wanted a certain age gap so we stuck to that plan. like when we had our first, i don't think i ever felt like i was 100% ready for a second, but once it happened, we adjusted and things have been great!

I'm in the camp, "I can't wait for LO to have a sibling!!" and "I want a ton of babies!!" hahahaha

With #2, a lot of my friends were just having their first babies, and I got very itchy to have a newborn in my arms again. I'm in camp "let's just do this and get it over with" for #3. I know what I want one day (three kids), and I know the road to that is going to be crazy...so might as well just get this done while we're young and able, and get through the crazy now.

We were in the "get it over with" camp. =)

We were all over the map. We were always pretty sure we wanted two. But we didn't feel like we could actually handle two until DS turned 1. But we felt like daycare was too expensive until he turned 3 so we didn't pull the trigger. Then we got the idea that maybe we'd do foster to adopt instead. We got pretty far along in the process and then DS's 2nd birthday hit. We kept seeing all these pictures of him as a tiny newborn (timehops and stuff) and we got really nostalgic and decided to try. We're now expecting LO2 when DS is 2 years, 9 months .

We never really felt like we'd mastered anything. And having another baby was pretty much a whim, lol. But I'm happy our kids will be close together in age. And I'm amazed at how well it's all worked out. I'm have a girl, which I'm so excited about, we got pregnant first try after needing fertility treatments for DS, and we won't have 2 in daycare until DS is 3.

I had it in my mind that I wanted a spring baby and a 2.5 year age gap, so we went for it when the timing for that worked out. Mentally, I don't think I was actually ready at that point though. I finally feel ready so with luck we'll actually end up with a winter baby and a slightly greater than 3 year age gap.

Our logic is " we can't afford double daycare" so we weaited to start trying until we could pull her out of daycare for my mat leave, and when mat leave was over she'd be heading to Primary.

@Adira: lol!

We wanted a 3 or 4 year age gap, so we're going for it. Some weeks I feel like everything is going great and I've got this parenting thing down and other weeks I feel like I'm completely flailing.

LO is not a good sleeper, he cosleeps with us, and he's a tenacious nurser. I couldn't have imagined getting pregnant before he was 18-24 months, and it's just now at 2 1/2 that I actually want to be pregnant. We've never wavered in wanting a second child, though.

It was never a question on whether or not we wanted a second, so we chose to go for it sooner than later because we were already "in the thick" of it, and wanted to get the baby stage over with sooner rather than later. I didn't want two kids in totally different stages. I thought it would be easier in the long run to do some things in parallel.

I also thought if I waited for things to get easier with one, I'd never want to do it again. The further I get from the baby stage, the less I want to revisit it.

@maddyz: this! We pay my mom to babysit, and she stays at our house a few nights a week, and drives 60mi to watch LO. She's already said she'll keep the baby until kindergarten, but if we want another one don't wait until she's 5 if we want my my to watch them!

DH wants our kids close together. DD now cosleeps, still nurses every 2 hrs, and is a terrible sleeper. She had terrible acid reflux, and colic. But, deep down we always have wanted two kids. No guarantee they'll be close, but no guarantee they'll hate each other too. My brother is my best friend! So, we had a slip this month at 10 months, although I would like to keep losing weight, and start at 12 months. It took a year the first time.

@PinkElephant: DH pretty much does not want to go on a family vacation (not including mandatory family get togethers) until all kids are 3, potty trained, and able to entertain themselves on iPads on the plane, so this all fits into this logic. "Then we can go to Aulani and dump them off at Chip and Dale's house of screaming kids and drink margaritas at the pool." We had a hellacious trip to Maui when DS was 13 months for a wedding and between the awful flights, roseola, and no sleep, DH was like we need to have all the babies now so I can come back to Hawaii some day.

@MrsBrewer: that's my alma mater! U of All the Babies!

I'm a baby person. If they didn't turn into three year olds I'd have more.