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@PinkElephant: @PinkElephant: we were going to take lo to Chicago at 14 months, but after we just went to San Diego solo for our anniversary, we got to see babies/toddlers in the airport and on the plane. We both decided no freaking way before we even saw each other (flew down seperately since DH was there first for work.) screaming toddlers on 5hr flights, crazy schedules, flight delays. We will wait until she's 4-5 to fly with her. We are now going to the beach instead (3hr driving!)
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@dc yoga bee: Seriously, good decision. We do it because we have to and survive, but planes are never fun.
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We were waiting for financial reasons, but it turned out to be good, because I unexpectedly had a healthy complication come up. Now I sorta want to get a move on as soon as we can so that we have the option for three in a few years. Who knows, though, because my body hates pregnancy and my career is unpredictable on a good day.
We are hoping to TTC at the end of the summer, but that may change. Not sure yet.
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Well, absolutely no thought process with number two on my end. I unexpectedly got pregnant at 3.5 months PP and it was insane at the time but now I'm so thrilled it happened and love having two so close in age.
My third (now 21 weeks pregnant) required much more thought. I didn't want to get pregnant until after my daughter weaned and she self weaned at 14 months. I really wanted to go on an small getaway with DH and we did that in October when LO 2 was 15 months old. We decided we either needed to TTC and get pregnant within six months or we'd have to table it until a work trip for DH (and me too) in late 2017/early 2018 for various reasons so we just went for it and got pregnant at 16 mo PP. I know now after three pregnancies it requires hopping off the ledge so to speak but it's all turned out with my first two kids and I expect that again this go around!
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I would not have been ready for the second without 2 things. 1. LO1 consistently sleeping through the night. It started happening a couple weeks after he turned 1. 2. I wanted a summer off of breastfeeding and pregnancy and to have my body to myself. Once I got those things, I was ready to go for a second since we always knew we wanted more than one.
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No real logic. My husband and I were already in our 30's when we met and got married and we knew we wanted 2-3 kids so we had to get started right away. We have a 2.5 year gap between 1 and 2 and 2 and 3 will be 2 years apart. It's definitely going to be crazy and a little expensive with 3 in daycare for a few years but it's all good!
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"Let's get past the baby stage!" I was looking into big vacations like cruises or resorts and many had a kids club starting at age 2 or 3... So I started looking forward to the day when not yet conceived kid #2 would be old enough for that and a vacation could have "relax, real vacation" elements for DH and me.
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We had a pretty traumatic experience with birth, recovery, breastfeeding and the first year with a colicky newborn. So my mindset was never "let's just go for it" or "let's get it over with" because we were trying to get our footing with just one kid. The idea of adding another just didn't seem possible!
Now at 2.5, I feel like we have a bit of a handle on it. LO is a lot more independent. Parenting is challenging in different ways but I think we are ready for another in the near-ish future.
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LO is a few days shy of 19 months.
For the first year of his life I couldn't fathom having another. I couldn't understand how people willingly did it all again. I'm not a newborn/baby person.DH is in the "lets get it over with" camp. He was ready to start IVF again at 6 months PP. Hell to the no. I explained that I needed a few things. I needed some time to recover from the craziness of the first year of parenthood. We are in a groove and happy and I need some time to enjoy that and to be able to really appreciate it. And that would in turn make the newborn stage worth it to me again. So I guess it's the "master the first one" logic?
We are getting the IVF ball rolling now. I still don't feel ready and deep down think I could be happy with just one. But I know I wouldn't regret it if we had another and DH wants another so I'm going to suck it up. I think. And I now have a better understanding that everything is just a phase and not permanent. And you even look back on the tough stuff kinda fondly. Eventually.
But we won't go to extremes. We have to do IVF, but I'm limiting it to two rounds. If it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen. -
It's timeline logic. Due to fertility issues we need Clomid+met+progesterone for a sticky baby, and Clomid maxes out at 3-6 months of usage. We'd prefer to concieve in May, June, July, or August, so we'll start in May which will be 14-15 months PP. It may or may not work out, fingers crossed.
I had an easy pregnancy & newborn stage, despite tons of first timer anxiety. Labor sucked big time but I have some hopeful changes in mind for next time.
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