Hi, I'm sorry English is my third language. And I grow up in the Confucianism traditional Chinese culture, perhaps this is why I have a very hard time trying to understand this.
I'm sorry for the Longgg post ahead, but please try to read it to the end for fairness and for the whole picture.
I really want your viewpoint on this guy, based ONLY on this situation on "How" he treats his One Night Stand.
Who am I to him, is IRRELEVANT to the question in this thread. I just want to know your viewpoint on what you think of Him based on this situation ONLY, the way he handles/treats his ONS. Don't you think he cold? He clearly capable of being cold.. Perhaps he is a cold person to the point he not capable of love any girl?

This guy ONS was 10-11 years ago, back when he was 20 (he is 30 now).
The ONS happened back when he was 20.
He was single at the time he had the ONS . At the time he was not even talking to any girl, let alone see any girl. He not looking for a GF or a relationship. He not even looking for a FWB. Heck, he not even looking for a friend. What he wanted was just 1 thing--the 'Purely' physical sex.
He doesn't even want to hang out after sex, let alone stay the night. He will not call, will not text, will not keep in touch afterwards. He doesn't even see the need of send a thank you text afterwards.. Basically right after sex, he will Disappeared.
He make he make it very clear that in the begining that the arrangement was: Purely physical sex--condom on, and he leave right after sex.

He said he knows exactly what he wants, and he have his principles.
He lays it all out on the table and does what he says.. He leave right after sex, and go on with his life nothing happened. He doesn't see the need of being nice or being civil.
Both parties agree with the arrangement, that was why the ONS happened.. He said IF the ONS girls didn't agree with the arrangement, he will make sure the ONS wouldn't happened in the first place.
He said he doesn't own the ONS girls anything, and he didn't do anything wrong. Because right at the begining, he make it very clear what the arrangement was. And the ONS girls agree to it.
It simply just two people wants to get into each other pants for the purely physical sex. Both parties have the same goal, the ONS girls goal was the same as his.

He said he doesn't care that the ONS girls said she on birth control.. He wear a condom for his safety and protection. And he make sure to take great precautions, do what he believes it needed to to prevent a pregnancy.
He doesn't want a baby with a ONS, and he doesn't want to pay for child support.. All he want was just want the 'purely' physical sex--and that was all to it, zero feelings zero emotions involved. He doesn't even know the ONS girls, and he doesn't want to get to know them.

ALL he wanted was just the 'purely' physical sex. But it clear that he doesn't trust the ONS girls.. How he have sex with the ONS girls:
[[[ He already wear a condom but still extra careful that before he climax--even with the condom on he still pull out. Pull out with condom still on, and he finishes by hand help himself/jerk it off into the condom; all outside no where near her. ]]]
So it was two kinds of BC methods at once right? The using condom on method, and pull out before climax method--two methods together.
Perhaps he worried about condom break, so he wants to be extra safe. I know it his body, his rights to his own body. But perhaps he cold?.. And Yup; he leave right after sex, and go on with his life like nothing happened. He does what he says, after sex he Disappeared.

Anyways, ONS #1 girl was a college girl (who know his buddy).. He make it very clear in the begining what the arragement was, she agrees. And right after sex, he disappeared--he leave like what he said the arrangement was.
He never gave her his number and doesn't see the needs of give it, because he doesn't want to keep in touch afterwards.
I asked him to answer my 'What IF' questions.. Yes, he took great precautions. But the chance/'what IF' she get pregnant; how can she contact him if he never gave her his #? He said the chance of she get pregnant is No. Because It was a one time sex, and it with condom on. With condom on he still he pull out before climax. Pull out with condom still on, and he finished himself off/finished by hand help himself--jerk it off into the condom all outside (his ejaculate no where near her).
And answer my 'What IF' question, IF she got pregnant he sure she would go through his buddy to find him.. Eventhough she doesn't know his #, but she knows his buddy.

ONS #2 girl, him and this college girl did exchange number to use it to meet up for sex.. He did exactly he did with the ONS #1 girl. He make it very clear in the begining what the arrangement was, she agrees. And like what he said in the arrangement; he disappeared--he leave right after sex.
This ONS girl seems like she wants to keep in touch with him, perhaps want to be his booty call? Because before he leave, she said perhaps phone her sometimes to keep in touch (since they did exchange # prior to meet up for sex).. He flat out said No, rejected her. He will not phone her to keep in touch. He doesn't care if after sex she change her mind or not, it not his problem.
And he make it very clear in the begining what the arrangement was, and he will stick to it regardless.. He follow through with the arrangement, and want her to also follow through with it. He said he will not give give a girl hope when it isn't hope there.
And he answered my 'What If' question. The chance of she get pregnant is No.. Because he had sex with her exactly just like how he had sex with ONS #1.. And 'What IF' she got pregnant, he sure she would phone him to let him know if she pregnant.

Anyways; then I asked 'What IF' the ONE girls got pregnant then what? He answered he said: [[[ He will pay for Child support, buy whatever things the baby needs, spend time with the baby, watch the baby grow up, be in the baby life.. He will fullfill his role as a father, and that is all to it. ]]]
Between him and that ONS girl: it simply he the dad of the baby, and she the mom of the baby; that's all to it.
I asked how about married her, have sex with her again?.. He said he will Not married her, he will Not have sex with her again.. It a ONS, it a one time thing sex and it will remained a one time thing; there won't be a second time sex. I think he so cold, it all about his principles.

He wish her all the happiness; find her man/her husband, find her happiness. BUT him--he won't married her, because he doesn't love her. And he won't have sex with her again, ONS will remain a one time sex ONS.. Overall his point is his principles. And he wants to be fair to himself, fair to her, and fair to the baby.
He said he is not obligate to married her (the ONS girls). He not obligate to have sex with her again just because he had one time sex ONS with her, or just because they have a baby due to that one time ONS.. He doesn't own her anything. And he not obligate to force himself to love her. He not obligate to force himself to have caring feelings for her, or force himself to develope feelings for her. The ONLY obligation he have is obligate to the baby.
I think he very cold. All I feel is cold, nothing but cold from his answer.

I don't get it. There plenty of men out there who have ONS then turn into relationship. There plenty of men out who have ONS, but doesn't have sex the way like he have sex. As in this: [[[ He already wear a condom but still extra careful that before he climax--even with the condom on he still pull out. Pull out with condom still on, and he finishes by hand help himself/jerk it off into the condom; all outside no where near her. ]]]
Other men out there who have ONS doesn't have sex that way. They not cold like him. There men who have ONS that don't even use condom. The men who have ONS that use condom don't even pull out.
Why he doesn't do what other men out there do? And there plenty of men who have ONS and turn into booty call and FWB or relationship. But this guy is so cold, just look at his answer to my 'What IF" question above. I feel that he very cold.

I know his fairness/balance scale is very important to him. But his balance scale it probably to the point of extreme fairness. He draws the line very clearly. It clearly black and white; there No grey line in between, he doesn't blur the line.. It rather a black or white, NOT in between.
It scary to see how he can clearly separate love, feelings/emotions and the physical sex. He can damn clearly separate if he loves the girl or not.. He can beep face his emotions, when there no feelings then there no feelings. There no grey in between, it just so easy and so clearly to him.
And he doesn't need any girls to stroke his ego. He doesn't need a girl to be in relationship with. He confident in himself, confident to the point of being cocky.
And he doesn't even believe in 'Friends of benefits'.. He only believes in (No strings attach) ONS, relationship and marriage.

Love to him is waiting, it the deep emotional bond, it have feelings for the girl, emotionally attach to the girl. It the sex with emotional attachment. This was what he felt with his relationship/ex-GF. This is what he feels with his wife/feels in marriage, he now married.
(He Never feel this with the ONS girls. He said he have zero feelings/zero attachment to the ONS girls, he never love them. It was just purely physical sex).

Hope you make it through reading it. What your viewpoint on a guy like him? His views and his answers is cold.. And 'the way' he treats/ and 'How' he have sex with the ONS girls. Isn't it cold? It clearly that he Capable of being cold.. Isn't he cold to the point that perhaps he not capable of love any girl?
My heart bleeds and bleeds, when I think of "How" cold and cruel he treats his past ONS. It hurts NOT because he bedded the ONS girls, What hurt is"HOW" he treated them, kwim? Tell me I'm a dumb f-u-c-k, because my heart bleeds because of this guy. I'm a dumb f-u-c-k because I fall for this guy.
Please just give me your viewpoint on this guy based on this situation ONLY--based on "How" he treats his ONS. He just plain out cold right? What I mean cold here is the 'way' he treats them.